I know
a lot of adoptive parents and I've seen the gamut.
Not exact matches
Well, some very exceptional
adoptive parents I know do, but most
of the selfish rest
of us don't wake up and say - wow, I'd really like to go to
lots and
lots of therapy with my five - year - old until I'm so harried that I need some for myself as well.
You mention that hopeful
adoptive parents spend a
lot of time focusing on their hair and clothes when they should be focusing on other things.
Adoptive parents who adopt through open adoption meet the birth
parents of their child and can offer information to their children about them as they grow up by answering questions that will allow them to grow up without the strong feelings
of loss that a
lot of children who are placed through closed adoptions feel.
It's interesting to see the very real fear that people have (not just
adoptive parents, but a
lot of people)
of open adoptions.
And having an open relationship with your child and his
adoptive parents can help reduce a
lot of the uncertainty, fear and pain that comes with the process.
There's
lots of stories
of adoptive parents nursing their adopted children!
The concept
of having a relationship between birth
parents and the
adoptive family is still foreign to a
lot of people.
Diego a sheltie BC cross, he had some behavioural issues but
lots of work with his foster family and
adoptive parents have helped him turn into a great family dog.
We also have a very active online community that provides education and support for
adoptive and hopeful
adoptive parents, with a
lot of voices
of adoptees and birthparents who share their stories.
We talk a
lot about open adoption from the perspective
of the
adoptive parents and birth
parents, but the real Read more... Read More →
As a social worker in the field
of adoptions, and having spent a
lot of time volunteering or working with adoptees, and having the benefit
of a social work education, JaeRan wanted to connect - the - gaps in what she saw as an
adoptive parent and adoption professional dominant discourse around adoption.
It's interesting to see the very real fear that people have (not just
adoptive parents, but a
lot of people)
of open adoptions.
I don't know a
lot about open adoption but when I first heard
of stories I could only think that it must be so hard on the
adoptive parent.
Adopting a child from the foster care system is an avenue that a
lot of prospective
adoptive parents consider.
You have
lots of support via this blog and other
adoptive parents.
I hope you have good post-adoption support and
lots of resources and a loving
adoptive parent community to help guide you through this time
of wonder and also adjustment (we did an international adoption from Guatemala 8 years ago).
Lots of information from all sides
of the adoption triad — birthparents,
adoptive parents, and
adoptive children.