In many ways, he says,
lying about infidelity is no different than lying in general; our ability to rationalize, conflicts of interest, creativity, one immoral act, being depleted, others benefiting from our dishonesty, watching others behave dishonestly and a culture that gives examples of dishonesty all increase the chances of each and every one of us being dishonest.
Not exact matches
In any event, saying «everybody» cheats seems to be a stretch; while it's hard to get an exact number of people who are cheating because it's all self - reported (and you have to think that those who are
lying to their spouse are probably not going to be totally honest when it comes to a poll on
infidelity), some studies indicate it's
about 20 percent of married couples while others suggest it may be as high as 60 percent to 70 percent.
Of course, the odds may not be too good for them; only
about 3 percent of cheating men marry their lovers, according to Jan Halper, author of Quiet Desperation: The Truth About Successful Men and about 75 percent of those marriages end up in divorce, according to Frank Pitman, author of Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Inti
about 3 percent of cheating men marry their lovers, according to Jan Halper, author of Quiet Desperation: The Truth
About Successful Men and about 75 percent of those marriages end up in divorce, according to Frank Pitman, author of Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Inti
About Successful Men and
about 75 percent of those marriages end up in divorce, according to Frank Pitman, author of Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Inti
about 75 percent of those marriages end up in divorce, according to Frank Pitman, author of Private
Lies:
Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy.
Financial
infidelity —
lying to your spouse
about spending — is a marriage breaker.
The
infidelity may be as seemingly innocent as a wife
lying to her husband
about the price of a pair of shoes, or it could be as disastrous as a husband concealing a $ 500,000 loss in the stock market, but its hallmark is a refusal to be honest with your spouse
about money.
According to a survey by the National Endowment for Financial Education, 42 % of Americans confess to «financial
infidelity,» which includes hiding a purchase, bank account, bill or cash from a partner and spouse or
lying about the amount of debt they owe or income they earn.
The online poll found 36 per cent of Canadians surveyed have
lied about a financial matter to a romantic partner, and the same number of participants had been victims of financial
infidelity from a current or former partner.
Forget
about infidelity or
lying to your spouse
about your finances: there are other, less - talked behaviors that are just as destructive to a marriage — and you and your partner are probably guilty of some of them.
As a marriage counselor I often see couples whose financial
infidelity began in courtship when one partner
lied to the other
about tarnished credit or exorbitant debt.
In fact many believed that financial
infidelity could be a precursor to sexual
infidelity because «if you can
lie about money, you can
lie about sex.»