That claim is foolish as can be seen when the same observation is
made about attachment parenting and autism.
The following statement made by Amanda (and affirmed by Martha) caught my attention for the assumption
it makes about attachment parenting:
Not exact matches
And, indeed, the most effective
attachment - focused home - visiting interventions offer
parents not just
parenting tips but psychological and emotional support: The home visitors, through empathy and encouragement, literally
make them feel better
about their relationship with their infant and more secure in their identity as
parents.
I find your comment quite offensive to the millions of wonderful, caring, responsive
parents out there who are just as likely to have strong
attachments to their children as you are despite not
making the same choices as you
about every detail of their lives and
parenting practices.
The best way to
make any decisions when it comes to raising your child is to be fully educated
about the subject, and learning
about co sleeping and
attachment parenting is a great place to get started.
Eventually, I
made contact with Adoption UK (formerly known as PPIAS - the
Parent to
Parent Information on Adoption Services) who can offer advice
about attachment difficulties, as well as putting
parents in touch with others who have experienced similar difficulties.
Simply thinking
about how your choices affect the whole family and taking their needs into consideration along the way is what
makes you a great
attachment parent!
She blogs
about life as such, including natural and
attachment parenting, mama
made recipes, and her backyard chickens in the city.
But, going back to your post, one of the things I loved best
about this book was the way that she challenges the all - consuming
attachment parenting norm (along with any other norm you can think of), painting mothers as free agents,
making difficult choices for their own and their childrens» survival.
It
made so much sense to me that it inspired me to not only become an API Leader and create an API Support Group here in Brazil — API Rio — but also to write and speak
about Attachment Parenting.
Because
attachment parenting is all
about following your child's cues, you basically let their growth
make the decisions for both of you.
I also
make a point of talking
about Attachment Parenting every chance I get.
Making informed decisions
about childbirth, newborn care, and
parenting practices is a critical investment in the
attachment relationship between
parent and child.
RAD has no place in the discussion of
attachment versus traditional
parenting, and to include it is a disservice to
parents who are trying to
make informed decisions
about their
parenting practices.
Accordingly, the principles of
attachment parenting don't prescribe specific techniques or conclusions for most issues
parents must consider, but rather reminds them to educate themselves and
make informed choices
about what's best for their children instead of simply accepting conventional
parenting practices without question.
A child with
attachment problems can seek out attention in unhealthy ways, sometimes
making false allegations
about their
parents and even persuading school officials that they have been abused.
As a
parent who wants to work on the principles of
attachment style of
parenting, you will teach your child
about obedience and discipline without
making your child feel embarrassed or hurt.
To learn more
about the role of a therapeutic treatment
parent and the unique treatment model that
makes the Institute for
Attachment and Child Development so successful, watch Linda's full interview.
Making informed decisions
about childbirth, newborn care, and
parenting practices is a critical investment in the
attachment relationship between
parent and child.
Most importantly, the social conventions
about the privacy of domestic space protect
parenting practices from outside scrutiny and
make it challenging for public policy to intervene to improve the outcomes that are related to domestic family relationships: emotional maturity,
attachment and self - regulation.
These agencies should also cater to the proper rules and procedures for minimizing the
attachment problems children have in their new homes; agencies should
make the new
parents fully aware
about the child
attachment issues, help the child needs and might need in future.