And that sort
of leaves me
feeling conflicted about the loot system: is
maintaining a good balance like this worth sacrificing the deep
satisfaction to be had from a great loot system that rewards you in a well - paced manner with better gear?
Researchers in the Journal
of Personality and Social Psychology conducted a study to «understand how dating couples can
maintain feelings of relationship
satisfaction in their daily lives and over the course
of time.»
According to self - expansion theory, one way to
maintain a more satisfying relationship is to engage in novel, exciting activities with your long - term partner.4 Couples who engage in activities that both partners consider exciting (and therefore self - expanding), experience increases in relationship
satisfaction.5 Changes in intimacy in a relationship (like those provided by self - expansion) can subsequently increase passion.6 In fact, in a recent study, researchers found that on days when couples experienced an increase in intimacy from the previous day, they report higher levels
of passion and were more likely to have sex.7 In terms
of a vacation, if a couple takes a trip that they both consider to be exciting (perhaps to a novel place), this may increase
feelings of intimacy, and as a result, heighten passion.
But, in contrast, when one partner
felt he or she was highly sexually skilled, both partners had higher sexual
satisfaction at beginning
of the study and
maintained satisfaction over time.2