«We've known for a long time that it's pretty hard to
make any marriage work if a person is unhappy with the job they have.
Not exact matches
If they are all adult and do not engage in the act of marrying children, and if plural marriage works for them and make thems happy, what possible difference does it make to anyone els
If they are all adult and do not engage in the act of marrying children, and
if plural marriage works for them and make thems happy, what possible difference does it make to anyone els
if plural
marriage works for them and
make thems happy, what possible difference does it
make to anyone else?
The love that comes with
marriage is about commitment and sacrifice, and
if you feel committed enough to
make marriage work when money gets tight, then go for it.
If your analogy were to
work in the same way, you would have to
make marriage the third corner — husband, wife,
marriage NOT husband, wife, inlaws.
Because
if the longest running
marriage on television can
make it
work, maybe we can too.
But this part of her argument raises another question:
If people's love for their children can motivate them to
make heroic efforts to be good parents after divorce, couldn't the same amount of effort be expended to
make many of the
marriages work in the first place?
But we are committed to investing in our
marriage in this way, and so we
make it
work, even
if it's a shared dessert at home after our daughter goes to sleep or a walk at the park with her in a stroller while we talk.
The societal narrative is that something must be wrong with you
if you can't
make your
marriage work — you're not committed enough, you're not willing to do the hard
work, you're deeply flawed or incredibly selfish, etc. — instead of acknowledging that, hey, sometimes people
make mistakes.
If that's what
makes their
marriage work, who am I to judge?
Also,
if you want to come up with a better model for
marriage, you're going to have to
make some judgments about what
works in general.
All of which would
make me sad
if I weren't so excited by what Susan and I are
working on — models to
make marriage work better for those who want to marry while acknowledging that
marriage isn't for everyone (and that's OK — who wants to get «caught up in the hoopla» a la Kim Kardashian)-- and that divorce isn't a failure.
One of them copped to initiating an affair thinking that maybe
if they could just get it «out of their system» then they might be able to
make the
marriage work in other aspects.
If it is reasonable to tell someone how you think their possible divorce will affect you, family, and friends, then it is also reasonable to tell them when their difficult
marriage is affecting others, or their unhappiness with their
work, or that third child they're talking about starting (maybe you can't have any, or enough, or you have too many for your situation), or their «perfect»
marriage (is it
making your life look bad?)
Does age alone
make a
marriage would
work, and
if so, why?
When I asked her recently how it's going, she laughed (something she does often and genuinely) and said that she and her friend, author Ann Patchett, whose surgeon husband is 16 years older, always say that
if they can't
make their
marriages — a second for both —
work with these men who so clearly adore them, then no one can
make marriage work.
But
if we're really talking about - honest - to - goodness, down - and - dirty, I'm - committed - to - doing - what - it - takes - to -
make - this - relationship -
work commitment, then shouldn't a couple that takes commitment seriously be able to
work through infidelity — in whatever incarnation it comes to them — and keep their
marriage intact?
Astro:
If they go through the process of asking whether marriage is working for them without the fear and shame that the sacred cows produce, they'll still probably have some soul searching to do and maybe a lot of pain to go through, but it would be less than it would be otherwise and they'll probably end up in a happier place if they can make that decision free of that fea
If they go through the process of asking whether
marriage is
working for them without the fear and shame that the sacred cows produce, they'll still probably have some soul searching to do and maybe a lot of pain to go through, but it would be less than it would be otherwise and they'll probably end up in a happier place
if they can make that decision free of that fea
if they can
make that decision free of that fear.
Sharing that she and fellow author and friend Ann Patchett both had older husbands who absolutely adored them (Patchett's second husband is 16 years older than she), she said they often joked that
if they couldn't
make their
marriages work, well, no
marriage would
work.
If you are working on your marriage daily and communicating often, you will be more likely to know what your parenting boundaries look like and quicker to support your spouse on a decision that they've made regarding the kids, even if it's something that you haven't discussed ye
If you are
working on your
marriage daily and communicating often, you will be more likely to know what your parenting boundaries look like and quicker to support your spouse on a decision that they've
made regarding the kids, even
if it's something that you haven't discussed ye
if it's something that you haven't discussed yet.
So my question is, do you think a
marriage or a relationship / friendship like that could
work if both are open and upfront about the terms and boundaries of the relationship, and both are content to cohabitate (sic) in an arrangement like this because we
make each other happy and we love each other in our own way, but we're not in love with each other?
In a Psychology Today article titled «What
Makes Marriage Work,» Gottman writes that communication is key to a lasting marriage, even if that communication means
Marriage Work,» Gottman writes that communication is key to a lasting
marriage, even if that communication means
marriage, even
if that communication means arguing.
If you're offended by this Parenting
Marriage idea, I invite you to tune in again next week and just listen to some of the ways people have
made this arrangement
work.
«
If people can create a more personalized marriage that works for them, if they can bend some rules and make marriage more flexible, it will continue to be an appealing prospect,» Gadoua say
If people can create a more personalized
marriage that
works for them,
if they can bend some rules and make marriage more flexible, it will continue to be an appealing prospect,» Gadoua say
if they can bend some rules and
make marriage more flexible, it will continue to be an appealing prospect,» Gadoua says.
With hindsight, the union of the two men's
work seems like a
marriage made in heaven (or hell,
if you're a creationist).
In other words,
if your
marriage is a constant stressor, you'll lower your risk of chronic disease either going it alone or doing the
work to
make the
marriage a good one.
If you have any questions about how to
make a second
marriage work, let us know!
If she does marry you - she will
make everything possible to
make this
marriage work.
Elena, Good response to the reporter... I don't know
if the following is useful to you: I had a horrible
marriage to an American woman who
made my life a living hell, I
worked hard to provide for her, we had a high standard of living and I
worked from home, allowing her to stay at home with our children; but nothing was ever good enough for her.
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I respect their
work, I respect them as filmmakers, but I wasn't quite sure
if there would be a good
marriage between what I'm trying to pursue and the
work that I'm doing and what they're doing, but they helped
make that real clear to me early on by expressing some real interesting story [and] photographic ideas that really resonated with me.
But
if the construction is awkward, the film's balancing of tones is surprisingly deft; what begins as a raucously funny rom - com for the «Sideways» set gradually segues into a more melancholy study of what it takes to
make relationships
work, in or out of
marriage, before the third act slides effectively into unisex weepie territory.
After a bachelorette weekend getaway leading to a rekindled lusty encounter between Molly and Emma, the best friends start to wrestle with their feelings, try to
make sense of what it all means, and question
if they can
make this hidden relationship
work despite Emma's
marriage to Seth.
However,
if you are determined to
make a
marriage work, there are indeed ways to do so.
If you're a spender or a saver who is in a relationship with someone who has the opposite approach to money, here are some tips to help
make your
marriage work:
If you need a little help
making money
work in your
marriage, I hope these posts can help you!
Nobel laureate Gary S. Becker argued that when the labor specialization in a
marriage decreases —
if, for example, both spouses have careers — the overall value of the
marriage is lower for both partners because less of the total needed
work is getting done,
making life harder for both partners and divorce more likely.
For example,
if out of love and a desire to
make the
marriage work one spouse takes back an adulterous cheating spouse, then he or she may not be able to ask for a divorce based on the earlier adultery.
Therefore,
if one of the partners has truly already
made up his / her mind that «it is too late, he or she does not want to try to
make the
marriage work», a separation is unlikely to be helpful.
The companionship
marriage depends for its effectiveness on the growth process, in order to bring about changes that are essential
if the couples are to adapt flexibly to each other in a shared life... Only by
working patiently and persistently on the task of smoothing out the rough areas of their relationship can they reach the level of interaction that they desire... Unless the couples have
made a clear commitment to each other that they intend to
work for ongoing growth in their relationship, the strong likelihood is that they will do nothing about it, or that they will
make a few half - hearted efforts and then give up (Mace, Close Companions, 1982).
If you are struggling to
make marriage work, The Resolution Center offers Marital Mediation — a process for helping couples create and live a vision for intimacy on every level.
It's clear the efforts to
make divorce harder for those couples with minor children isn't going to
work and who knows
if making marriage harder would
work either.
You are more likely to put in the time and effort for recovery
if you are both committed to
making the
marriage work.
If you have done everything in your power to repair your troubled
marriage but nothing seems to be
working or your spouse is not as motivated as you are to
make the necessary changes, then it may be time to start planning your exit strategy.
As they begin delineating responsibilities and establishing parameters such as who will pay the bills or have the kids, they can see
if this is really the life they want to live, or
if instead they should try again to
make the
marriage work.
However,
if there is even a flicker of hope that you can
make things
work, it is wise to
make an effort to salvage your
marriage.
I stopped going and we decided to
make it
work - once again - for a short wile it was great - then again pornography got in a way - and a major distance — we would spend evenings without talking at all - It is very lonely
marriage for me - but I do beleave in the commitment and the fact that everything is possible
if both people are willing to
work to
make it - I know I do - and he knows I do.
If she is not on board,
making your
marriage work will at best be ah uphill battle.
Along with these emotions can come a sense of hopelessness of not knowing what else to do and a sense of having tried everything to
make their
marriage work — even
if their spouse has no idea of what they've tried.
However, you can still do or partially do the exercises in this book without sitting down as a couple and «agreeing» to
work on the
marriage, and it will still have tremendously positive results
if only one person
makes a decision to do these positive things.