I
'm not
sure if you
are still looking for advice, but I have experience with it... My 8 yr old stayed in the bed with me (and hubby) since day 1, when I got pregnant with my second when he
was 16 mths old, we set up his room with a toddler bed (he could get out of his playpen since 9 mths un-assisted, and never had a crib) so we
made sure it
was fun and playful and gave him that option, we also set up a separate cot beside out bed, so he could
be with us still (I
was not
comfortable being pregnant with a toddler and hubby in bed then, knowing I would have a baby soon) since I
was pregnant I
was able to talk about it to him and
explain why he
was going to have to one day move to his own bed (in our room or his) by the time I had the baby he
was starting the nights in his own bed and if he woke up he would come into his cot beside our bed... I let him continue like that as long as he wanted, it took time but I did not push him at all, same with breast feeding I let him
make the choice... when I left my hubby (now ex) the boys
were both big enough (2 and 4 yrs) for me to
be comfortable with them both in bed with me, and I
was still nursing my younger one until he
was around 3.5 yrs old, so we just had a big bed with us all piled in, I miss those days so much: (so how did I finally get them both out of my bed?