If
marriage is about love and love is about anything, what would constitute a rational limit on such a feeling?
Not exact matches
How
about this for a sucker punch: Just as your business starts picking up, you get a
love letter from your spouse's attorney telling you that your
marriage is over.
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«When the Church, through your service, sets
about to declare the truth
about marriage in a concrete case, for the good of the faithful, at the same time you must always remember that those who, by choice or unhappy circumstances of life,
are living in an objective state of error, continue to
be the object of the merciful
love of Christ and thus the Church herself.
You certainly have a right to your opinion
about everything from gay
marriage to anything else that you deem «sinful», or otherwise, but why do you feel the need to assume that everyone who shares this articles» opinion
is a liberal Obama -
loving Democrat?
The reviewer can tell the reader that in Three Discourses on Imagined Occasions he
is to think along with the author
about what it means to seek God, how the «resolution of duty» that ought to
be present in
marriage transforms romantic
love into
love that conquers everything, and how the awareness of one's mortality, of the certainty of death, of «death's decision» enhances earnestness in life.
Another factor leading to growth in our
marriage — maybe a product of our struggles, I
'm not sure —
is the realization that most, maybe all, of what I believed
about love, romance and sex going into
marriage was a lie.
And I, quite frankly, don't care
about your personal assessment
about whether my
marriage is loving — even if it
were any of your business.
It
's important for us not to say, «Look here, the West has Jeffersonian values
about the rights of women, values we'd like to see you adopt,» but to argue instead from the Qur «an itself, citing verses like the one stating that God has ordained
love and tenderness between the male and female in
marriage, or that no man has two hearts in one bosom.
Given that time after time the discussion of priestly celibacy in the media and in many Catholic journals and books begins and ends with statements
about the
marriages of the apostles and the attempts to impose celibacy in the 12th centurymotivated by a desire to protect the Church's property and by a dualist denigration of
marriage, it
was definitely good news to link priestly celibacy with Christ and his
loving.
To hold that same - sex
marriage is part of the fundamental right to marry, or necessary for giving LGBT people the equal protection of the laws, the Court implicitly made a number of other assumptions: that one - flesh union has no distinct value in itself, only the feelings fostered by any kind of consensual sex; that there
is nothing special
about knowing the
love of the two people whose union gave you life, whose bodies gave you yours, so long as you have two sources of care and support; that what children need
is parenting in some disembodied sense, and not mothering and fathering.
This
is absolutely not because there
is anything necessarily sinful
about marriage but because of Holloway's firm grasp that there
are degrees of
loving.
Ephesians 5:21 - 33's teaching on
marriage is about changing that view of
marriage to one of unity and
love — the kind of
love that could transform the authority - subordinate nature of first - century Ephesian
marriages, into what God desires for
marriage in the New Covenant: oneness, companionship and mutuality.
The
love that comes with
marriage is about commitment and sacrifice, and if you feel committed enough to make
marriage work when money gets tight, then go for it.
It does not share the fundamental Catholic convictions
about sacramental
marriage: an exclusive, lifelong union of man and woman that
is open to new life, a faithful and unbreakable bond mirroring God's
love for humanity and, specifically, Christ's
love for the Church.
The
marriage relationship isn't exempt from the words of Jesus — and the teachings of the Church —
about how we
are to interact with one another and
love one another.
Again the trouble may lie in factors harder to cope with — domestic disharmony, friction in one's work, a job one loathes but fears to leave, worry
about the future, lack of success in some pivotal enterprise, separation by distance, by
marriage, or by death from one who
is deeply
loved.
It should
be noted, however, that traditionally the church has shown a relative lack of concern
about that vague thing called «
love» — particularly in regard to
marriage and divorce.
Novels could (and should)
be written
about what this show got right
about marriage, but it
's enough to say here that their partnership and
love is arguably the finest portrayal of
marriage in television today.
Bono: «I would
love [it] if this conversation would inspire people who
are writing these beautiful gospel songs [to] write a song
about their bad
marriage.
As the Church, we
're comfortable when it comes to talking
about courtship,
love languages,
marriage and raising a family.
Coontz
is fatalistic in her predictions
about the triumph of
love at the expense of all the other goods of
marriage.
Such a view of
marriage is neither good theology nor an accurate view of what
marriage — and marital
love — has
been about.
I
love marriage, and I
am passionate
about helping couples have a thriving relationship that
is glorifying to God.
In Canada, evangelical pastors have
been assessed heavy monetary fines for preaching the Gospel truth
about the ethics of
love and
marriage.
The state's interest in
marriage is not that it cares
about my
love life, or your
love life, or anyone's
love life just for the sake of romance.
Again,
marriage may
be thought the ideal but there will
be a strong motivation to ensure that young people have all the necessary information
about contraception because they may end up, fairly naturally, doing the «
loving» bit first before they
are ready to have children.
Marriage isn't
about 1 person, it
's about 2 people, each giving to the other in nurturing
love and
loving relating.
Indeed, those who think of
marriage as only
about love tend to argue against these duties, since they
are regretted when feelings change.
Another observation
about the humility of
marriage comes in the title essay, where he writes, «Married
love is not that of angels.
You start to think that dating and
marriage aren't meant for you and maybe you
're not to
be trusted with decisions
about your
love life anymore.
One thing I
love about the Gay Christian Network, of which Justin
is the director,
is that it welcomes healthy dialog between folks on «Side A,» who believe homosexual relationships have the same value as heterosexual relationships in the sight of God, and folks on «Side B,» who believe only male / female relationships in
marriage represent God's intent for sexuality.
But one of the things I've always
loved about blogging
is that I get to my whole self here: I get to
love theology and Church talk, I get to write
about mothering and family and
marriage, I get to crack jokes at my own expense, I get to
love Doctor Who and Call the Midwife, I get to
love thrifting and knitting and pretty things as well as
being a Jesus feminist, I get to
be a homemaker who talks recipes and cleaning and laundry as well as a lover of literature and poetry and history and Girl Power, I
love the local church and yet I don't wear rose - coloured glasses
about this stuff.
But please, for the
love, don't leave a child and a community that
was depending on you in a bind so you can make a point
about gay
marriage.
Traditional ideals can lead to such high expectations
about love in
marriage that couples
are bound to
be disappointed.
There
is a difference between a more accepting attitude
about sexual relationships outside of
marriage and advocacy of «free
love»!
Thus we have
been told... that
marriage is not so much
about love as
about supply and demand as regulated through markets for spouses;... and a man commits suicide «when the total discounted lifetime utility remaining to him reaches zero.»
If
marriage and civil partnerships
are all
about commitment, as David Cameron insists, then there
is no difference, apart from the sexual aspect, between the relationship of a same - sex couples and that of equally
loving, cohabiting sisters.
However, on a deeper level we do have some ideas
about what a good
marriage would
be, such as mutual respect, unconditional
love, freedom to
be uniquely you, etc — church
is the same way.
The Church Speaks The Language of
Love This
is the sort of language we use to talk
about marriage and complete sacrifice between lovers.
I lean towards the third view... but I admit it
is the most difficult of the three views... Christ's priorities appear to
be «
love in motion» flowing in almost unpredictable directions as dictated by the greatest need: — He heals a slave rather than rebukes slavery; — He heals a man at a pool, then leads the man to belief, then says «cease from sinning»; — He heals many others and says «go and sin no more» to but a few; — He shares money with the poor but establishes no long - term aid; — He touches lepers; He converses with seeking Pharisees; He debates with other Pharisees; He lives with Samaritan outcasts for two days; — He acknowledges the five «
marriages» of the Samaritan woman as «
marriages»... and then remarks
about her current co-habitation... but then moves to higher priorities; — He seems so very focused on internal holiness and not on external holiness; — He violates the Sabbath; He says He
is Lord of the Sabbath; He even says that the Sabbath
was created to assist man, rather than man created to serve the Sabbath... thus turning the entire concept of the Law into one of assistance rather than
being chained to obedience; — He insists on impartiality in the way we bless others, even if we call them «evil» or «good».
Sitting with a group of adolescents and answering their questions
about your
marriage might sound scary but it
is actually a really life - giving and enriching experience for the couples who volunteer and the young people
are often amazed and inspired to see that
marriages can last and that
love can grow through a life time.
The sufferings endured through not relating to the internal Kingdom of Our Lord
are of great concern -
marriage breakdown, living together before
marriage, domestic violence, utter confusion over sexual matters, abortion, to name a few of the problems - when we have little idea
about how to grow in
love through the necessary inner emotional conversion.
«
Marriage is a business, in my opinion, and it has only
been in the last fifty or so years that it has
been about this
love thing,» said one woman, whose boyfriend left her when she became pregnant and now has «a perfunctory relationship» with his son.
The sex that
is sold on pornographic sites and in 18 - rated movies will teach us nothing
about sex that
is fulfilling in a
love -
marriage.
In your fatherly
love you
were worried
about my weakness because I
was then a young man, just entering my twenty - second year (that
is, to use Augustine's words, I
was still «clothed in hot youth»)... You
were determined, therefore, to tie me down with an honourable and wealthy
marriage.
So, I
'm 23 and still
about as far away from the possibility of
marriage as the day I entered this world, so I can't comment on the beauty of it in terms of
love... but I wanted to share a few of my thoughts from several different perspectives (I
'm sorry if this
is really long!)
this
is such a beautiful post...
love how you shared your story
about your
marriage.
You don't think
love is a good basis for
marriage, but I
'm guessing that your current relationship
is about love and companionship.
I can't think of a better way to celebrate
love, regardless of Valentine
's Day and National
Marriage Week, than thinking about how we could make marriage better fit for who we are and how we live today — even if that means there's no such thing as m
Marriage Week, than thinking
about how we could make
marriage better fit for who we are and how we live today — even if that means there's no such thing as m
marriage better fit for who we
are and how we live today — even if that means there
's no such thing as
marriagemarriage.