As far as relationships go, many men don't really learn the right skills, be it communication skills, conflict resolution, or ways to treat a partner, and these deficiencies end up causing relationship or
marriage problems along the way.
Not exact matches
Depending on the
marriage, the frequency could change, but the point is to go enough to keep track of how your
marriage is running, dealing with any
problems along the
way.
No matter how solid your
marriage, the skills and strategies clearly outlined here offer do - able
ways to unscramble
problems with which you've struggled — as well as new ones that crop up
along the
way.»
Dr. Gottman found that the following were examples of repair attempts: «using humor; stroking your partner with a caring remark («I understand that this is hard for you»); making it clear you're on common ground («We'll tackle this
problem together»); backing down (in
marriage, as in the martial art Aikido, you often have to yield to win); and, in general, offering signs of appreciation for your partner and his or her feelings
along the
way.»
Examples of repair attempts: using humor; offering a caring remark («I understand that this is hard for you»); making it clear you're on common ground («We'll tackle this
problem together»); backing down (in
marriage, as in the martial art Aikido, you often have to yield to win); and, in general, offering signs of appreciation for your partner and their feelings
along the
way.
But, unless you have a very simple case (i.e. no money, no children and a short
marriage) or you have gotten legal advice
along the
way, doing your own divorce can cause you a boatload of
problems later.
Divorce is a legal process that plays out over time, with many steps
along the
way, and opportunities to continue discerning whether it is the best
way to solve the
problems in the
marriage.