I can not count the unexpected twists and turns that have accompanied this process of ending a
marriage: Heartbreak, shock, surprising blessings, new and deeper friendships, painful judgement, unexpected
loss of friends and side - taking, unexpected opportunities, and a greater dependence on myself
than ever before.
Set in modern - day India, it is the story of two compelling and achingly real women: Sera Dubash, an upper - middle - class Parsi housewife whose opulent surroundings hide the shame and disappointment of her abusive
marriage, and Bhima, a stoic illiterate hardened by a life of despair and
loss, who has worked in the Dubash household for more
than twenty years.
With more
than 20 years of experience as a Licensed
Marriage and Family Therapist, I specialize in the treatment of individuals, couples and families to assist with relationship issues, post traumatic stress disorder, grief and
loss, trauma and substance abuse.
Even if your
marriage is fairly intact, people go through job
losses, depressions,
losses of parents, difficulties at work — all kinds of things that could put them in a position where they're more emotionally depleted and overwhelmed
than is ideal for maintaining their parental role.
Marriage is the central relationship for the majority of adults, and morbidity and mortality are reliably lower for married individuals than unmarried individuals across such diverse health threats as cancer, heart attacks, and surgery.1 - 4 Although loss of a spouse through death or divorce can provoke adverse mental and physical health changes,1,5 - 7 the simple presence of a spouse is not necessarily protective; a troubled marriage is itself a prime source of stress, while simultaneously limiting the partner's ability to seek support in other relationships.8 The impact of a turbulent marriage is substantial; for example, epidemiological data demonstrated that unhappy marriages were a potent risk factor for major depressive disorder, associated with a 25-fold increase relative to untroubled marriages.9 Similarly, other researchers found a 10-fold increase in risk for depressive symptoms associated with marital di
Marriage is the central relationship for the majority of adults, and morbidity and mortality are reliably lower for married individuals
than unmarried individuals across such diverse health threats as cancer, heart attacks, and surgery.1 - 4 Although
loss of a spouse through death or divorce can provoke adverse mental and physical health changes,1,5 - 7 the simple presence of a spouse is not necessarily protective; a troubled
marriage is itself a prime source of stress, while simultaneously limiting the partner's ability to seek support in other relationships.8 The impact of a turbulent marriage is substantial; for example, epidemiological data demonstrated that unhappy marriages were a potent risk factor for major depressive disorder, associated with a 25-fold increase relative to untroubled marriages.9 Similarly, other researchers found a 10-fold increase in risk for depressive symptoms associated with marital di
marriage is itself a prime source of stress, while simultaneously limiting the partner's ability to seek support in other relationships.8 The impact of a turbulent
marriage is substantial; for example, epidemiological data demonstrated that unhappy marriages were a potent risk factor for major depressive disorder, associated with a 25-fold increase relative to untroubled marriages.9 Similarly, other researchers found a 10-fold increase in risk for depressive symptoms associated with marital di
marriage is substantial; for example, epidemiological data demonstrated that unhappy
marriages were a potent risk factor for major depressive disorder, associated with a 25-fold increase relative to untroubled
marriages.9 Similarly, other researchers found a 10-fold increase in risk for depressive symptoms associated with marital discord.10