Couples therapist Esther Perel has been recognized as one of the world's most original and insightful thinkers about couples, sexuality, and the peculiar paradoxes besetting
modern marriage in the Western world.
The movie is still riveting and suspenseful after multiple viewings, maybe because it's anchored in reality and so beautifully simple — the horror is played out within the realities of
a modern marriage in late -»60s Manhattan and the «God is dead» movement.
All of this is indeed part of the story of the emergence of
modern marriage in Western democracies, but Coontz downplays the role of religion in this radical and unique transformation.
Nearly one third of
modern marriages in the US now begin online, and up to 70 % of homosexual relationships.
Modern marriages in this country are no longer arranged, but they often morph into «arrangements.»
Not exact matches
In his book «The All - or - Nothing Marriage,» Eli Finkel, a psychologist at Northwestern University and a professor at the Kellogg School of Management, made a similar argument: Modern spouses look to each other for friendship, sexual fulfillment, intellectual growth — not just financial stability, like they did in years pas
In his book «The All - or - Nothing
Marriage,» Eli Finkel, a psychologist at Northwestern University and a professor at the Kellogg School of Management, made a similar argument:
Modern spouses look to each other for friendship, sexual fulfillment, intellectual growth — not just financial stability, like they did
in years pas
in years past.
«An exceptionally short - lived
marriage had imploded, and I was jobless, a lone parent, and as poor as it is possible to be
in modern Britain, without being homeless... By every usual standard, I was the biggest failure I knew,» Rowling said during a 2008 Harvard University commencement speech.
«An exceptionally short - lived
marriage had imploded, and I was jobless, a lone parent, and as poor as it is possible to be
in modern Britain, without being homeless.
The topics and texts include some esoteric items, such as the ranking of churches and discussion about a common calendar; but they also include problems that emerge from adapting an ancient faith to a
modern reality — like precepts of fasting and,
in particular, regulations of
marriage in a multicultural and interreligious world.
The way he situates
marriage alongside virginity is, to my
modern eyes, certainly sobering; it's unromanticized, as it is made clear that the chief purpose of
marriage is the begetting of children, and that is,
in a certain sense, inferior to virginity.
And I'm doing this not out of frustration with you, but out of a deep disappointment with how our society has viewed leadership and contribution
in modern marriage.
«Please don't paint us with the same brush,» says Wilde, who dresses
in modern clothing, wears her hair short and insists that no one seeing her walk down the street would peg her as a woman
in a plural
marriage.
In fact, this system of
marriage was dominant throughout the world up until the
modern era.
Drawing mainly from Protestant authors of the early
modern period, John Witte, Jr. discusses «the interplay among law, theology, and
marriage in the West.»
Given the close association of the sexes
in modern working life, men or women need to observe delicate respect for the commitments of married colleagues; carelessness here could make them responsible for the collapse of a
marriage and the destruction of a family.
In our post-Nietzschean age of AIDS and rampant venereal disease, the remark now carries with it a certain unintentional irony, but one finishes reading Bloom's book not entirely sure why erotic relations nowadays are so dreary: Is it because of the relentless reductionism of Freud and Kinsey or because, as Nietzsche held, Eros and Institution will always be at war — and Christianity, with its rigorous stress on monogamy, now symbolizes for
modern society the institution of
marriage par excellence?
Those who think of
marriage counseling as an exclusively
modern phenomenon may be surprised to read that Gregory counsels those who are married to «study to please» their sexual partner.5 Partners
in marriage are above all counseled «to bear with mutual patience the things
in which they sometimes displease each other «6 (cf. Gal.
Yet these
modern Saints who have elected to live
in plural
marriage as the most dramatic and satisfying means of demonstrating total commitment to the fullness of the gospel are clearly a part of the picture.
To speak of sexual undertakings
in the way implied by the traditional
marriage rites of the churches is to deny people access to a basic human good from the start and for reasons that are difficult if not impossible for
modern people to grasp.
Or maybe he used some
modern rationalizations: «I love Bathsheba so much that it doesn't matter what the rules say»; or «Our love is different, holy and pure
in itself»; or «My love for Bathsheba hasn't violated her
marriage because the
marriage was already dead.
Many other
modern interpreters of
marriage have made the same mistake, and so have many people
in American churches, who are tempted to join with Coontz and insist that couples get married for reasons of love alone, Economic, kinship and network issues and even the desire to have children are sometimes seen as contaminations of the purity of marital love.
Only a pundit like Friedman, however, could blind himself to this actuality, intent as he is on realizing
in American practice what his beloved Chinese government has made possible only
in theory: the
marriage of ancient Egyptian despotism with the
modern dynamism of Hong Kong.
I suspect that there is, if not a way out, then at least a temporary respite grounded
in the observation that the only reason why
marriage is even palatable to disordered
moderns is that the meaning of
marriage has already been twisted beyond recognition.
Voluntary family planning programs typically subsidize, advertize, or otherwise promote the use of
modern contraceptive technologies by sexually active couples (usually but not always partners
in marriage).
Such denunciations would very likely be done
in the name of justice and humanity — because,
in the weird confusion that is
modern Britain, there has to be a pretence that it is inhumane to suggest that
marriage can only between a man and a woman.
He scoffs at the idea that some
modern proponents of homosexual
marriage see homosexual behavior
in the deep male friendships of ancient literature.
It is evident from
modern society that
marriage and commitment are beneficial, both
in terms of a stable environment for raising children and as a safe and relatively non-contentious arrangement for se - xual relationships.
If they are from a biblically conservative tradition they are likely to use selected references to sexuality,
marriage, and family to communicate the ideals of God
in a way that will encourage and motivate people to strive for the ideal.6 This didactic use of the Bible fails to distinguish the radical difference between family life and the religious practices of ancient and
modern cultures.
Scott Yenor lays out the problem nicely
in the introduction to his very important and carefully argued Family Politics: The Idea of
Marriage in Modern Political Thought.
But this «channeling» assumes radically different shapes
in different cultures, ranging from urban to agrarian settings, ancient to
modern families, polygamous to monogamous
marriages and so forth.
Kay Hymowitz is writing about
modern marriage gone wrong, again, referencing Charles Murray
in her essay, «American Caste», over at City Journal.
It was just a spur - of - the - moment rant born of frustration to be honest because even though there is amazing theological basis for this kind of a
marriage it never seems to make its way out of the silo of academia or even strong local churches so sometimes it feels like the popular and prolific teaching
in the
modern Church leans more towards a form of soft patriarchy.
The Sportswriter's real subject is the
modern American's search for integrity: through sports, through art, through religion,, through simply living up to one's day - to - day obligations, through the little commitments we make to one another
in friendship and love, even when our
marriages fall apart.
The
modern redefinition of
marriage reflects a disdain for God's plan
in making us male and female.
Finally, we take encouragement
in this work of remote
marriage preparation from Pope Francis who declared recently (address to Roman Rota 22/1/2016), «Therefore, with a renewed sense of responsibility, the Church continues to propose
marriage in its essential elements — offspring, the good of the spouses, unity, indissolubility, sacredness — not as an ideal for a few, despite
modern models centred on the ephemeral and the transitory, but as a reality that, with the grace of Christ, can be lived by all the baptised faithful.»
Above all, though, Paul VI's concern and care for the family is expressed at length
in the Council's Pastoral Constitution on the Church
in the
Modern World, Gaudium et Spes, which notes that «the well - being of the individual person and of human and Christian society is intimately linked with the healthy condition of that community produced by
marriage and family».
Among them were pantheism and the positions that human reason is the sole arbiter of truth and falsehood and good and evil; that Christian faith contradicts reason; that Christ is a myth; that philosophy must be treated without reference to supernatural revelation; that every man is free to embrace the religion which, guided by the light of reason, he believes to be true; that Protestantism is another form of the Christian religion
in which it is possible to be as pleasing to God as
in the Catholic Church; that the civil power can determine the limits within which the Catholic Church may exercise authority; that Roman Pontiffs and Ecumenical Councils have erred
in defining matters of faith and morals; that the Church does not have direct or indirect temporal power or the right to invoke force; that
in a conflict between Church and State the civil law should prevail; that the civil power has the right to appoint and depose bishops; that the entire direction of public schools
in which the youth of Christian states are educated must be by the civil power; that the Church should be separated from the State and the State from the Church; that moral laws do not need divine sanction; that it is permissible to rebel against legitimate princes; that a civil contract may among Christians constitute true
marriage; that the Catholic religion should no longer be the religion of the State to the exclusion of all other forms of worship; and «that the Roman Pontiff can and should reconcile himself to and agree with progress, liberalism and
modern civilization.»
We could do with less rather than more sex
in the
modern world, less rather than more
in the average
marriage.
But also quite general problems of human society, such as
marriage rules and incest, or even the organization of nature and the universe, may be the subject of [myths];... it is only philosophical interest, both ancient and
modern, that tends to isolate the myths of origin and cosmogony, which
in their proper setting usually have some practical reference to the institutions of a city or a clan.
It is the heresy that
in even more
modern times the churches fell into when they condemned the right of women to vote and interracial
marriage.
In The New I Do: Reshaping
Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels (Seal Press, Sept. 28, 2014), therapist Susan Pease Gadoua and journalist Vicki Larson take a groundbreaking look at the modern shape of marriage to help readers open their minds to marrying more consciously and cre
Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels (Seal Press, Sept. 28, 2014), therapist Susan Pease Gadoua and journalist Vicki Larson take a groundbreaking look at the
modern shape of
marriage to help readers open their minds to marrying more consciously and cre
marriage to help readers open their minds to marrying more consciously and creatively.
In light of the exhaustive research my co-author and I did on the parenting marriage model in The New I Do, I've come to appreciate the many ways people arrive to parenthood and the many creative ways couples are parenting once their romantic and sexual relationship is over — like actress Maria Bello's thoroughly modern take on co-parentin
In light of the exhaustive research my co-author and I did on the parenting
marriage model
in The New I Do, I've come to appreciate the many ways people arrive to parenthood and the many creative ways couples are parenting once their romantic and sexual relationship is over — like actress Maria Bello's thoroughly modern take on co-parentin
in The New I Do, I've come to appreciate the many ways people arrive to parenthood and the many creative ways couples are parenting once their romantic and sexual relationship is over — like actress Maria Bello's thoroughly
modern take on co-parenting.
Which is why Mandy Len Catron's
Modern Love essay this week was so gratifying — the University of British Columbia professor and author of the just - released book How to Fall
in Love With Anyone, used our renewable
marriage contract when moving
in with her romantic partner.
Just like the «dating broke men» article this concept of a «marriageable» partner (man or woman) based on earning potential illustrates the need for a change
in the definition of what
marriage really means
in modern capitalist societies.
I am a huge fan of time - limited, renewable marital contracts, which actually have a long, sometimes successful, history, and devote a chapter to it
in The New I Do: Reshaping
Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels (
in fact, our contract was used by Mandy Len Catron to draft a relationship contract with her partner, which she wrote about
in a
Modern Love essay and her new book, How to Fall
in Love With Anyone).
I think your struggle —
modern vs. traditional
marriage — is one many women struggle with; we don't have enough of a satisfying history of
modern marriage (life - work, equal partners, etc.) to feel fully confident
in it.
In The New I Do, therapist Susan Pease Gadoua and journalist Vicki Larson take a groundbreaking look at the
modern shape of
marriage to help readers open their minds to marrying more consciously and creatively.
Still, the ease with which gender bends
in modern marriages should not be overestimated.
Which is why Mandy Len Catron's most recent
Modern Love essay was so gratifying — the University of British Columbia professor and author of the just - released book How to Fall
in Love With Anyone, used our renewable
marriage contract when moving
in with her romantic partner.
It was not a surprise when Parliament officials announced that Queen Elizabeth II had signed the
Marriage (Same Sex Couples) Act today — the process of «royal assent» is just a formality
in Britain's
modern monarchy.