My mom made me feel guilty about that in a way that has stayed with me for thirty years.
Not exact matches
So I just don't get the «too much pressure to breastfeed» when all around me are images of bottles, ads for formula telling me a happy feeding
makes a happy
mom, bottlefeeding
moms,
moms and doctors and nurses telling new
moms that formula is «just as good» and «not to
feel guilty», women getting «the look» for nursing in public, or
feeling weird about doing it (I sure did)-- to me, any pressure out there is NOT to breastfeed, or do it as little as possible (not if it's not immediately easy or you don't love every minute, not past 6 mos, not in public, not around male relatives and friends, not around children, not if you ever want to go out alone sometime...)
Moms are so often
made to
feel guilty for taking care of themselves, but I truly believe that it will
make you a better mother to your very lucky kids.
We need to do our best as
moms and I think superbaby food might serve to
make some people
feel overwhelemed and
guilty.
Rosin's real gripe is that the benefits of breast - feeding have been oversold,
making moms feel guilty if they choose to feed their babies formula.
The notion of a
Mom happily taking care of the kids and house all day * by herself * is a nutty 20th Century notion that seems to have been invented for the sole purpose of
making women
feel guilty.
So if we aren't
feeling this way about our pregnancy, we're
made to
feel guilty, like we're a terrible person and something is wrong with us Surely we're going to be a bad
mom as well then?
It's also a bit condescending in tone and tends to
make moms feel guilty instead of informing and
making them more excited.
If a
mom asked for formula or even a pacifier, we had to document that we informed the
mom that an artificial nipple could cause nipple confusion and impair nursing, of course
making them
feel incredibly
guilty.
Making formula feeding
moms feel guilty?
Any time a
mom fails at something and then sees another
mom succeeding, the successful
mom is obviously trying to subconsciously
make the other
mom feel guilty.
It is terrible and unethical to
make a first time
Mom feel guilty for not breastfeeding.
Yet again, this has the potential to
make a new
mom feel incredibly
guilty for not loving that stage.
Sometimes that certainty doesn't
make one
feel any better about it or
feel less
guilty (
mom guilt: the struggle is real, guys) but this sixth sense and gut knowledge telling this is the right move is a real
feeling and shouldn't be ignored based on the worry that you're somehow a bad
mom.
It's just so helpful and
makes you stop
feeling guilty for not being the perfect
mom.
Breastfeeding is best, but it isn't for everyone, and NO
mom should be
made to
feel guilty for her choices!
I've also gotten quite a few comments asking if this research just
makes moms feel guilty if they couldn't breastfeed.
I read a great article by an MD that talks about how doctors are afraid to really educate women on the benefits of breastfeeding because they don't want to
make moms feel guilty.
1) Ask for help 2) Know that you are an amazing
Mom 3) Do not
feel guilty or any shame for any decision you
make that allows you and / or your kids to get more sleep or
make things better.
Formula feeding
moms are
made to
feel guilty because they didn't
make a choice that other mothers have proudly
made; a dangerous consequence of all parents just wanting to
feel validated and supported in their personal parenting decisions.
It is wrong to
make women
feel guilty for doing what is natural, good for
Mom, and good for Baby, rather than educate them on how to do it safely.
So the final mistake that
moms make when transitioning to formula is that they
feel guilty.
I know that we don't want to
make bottle - feeding
moms feel guilty, but there really is something about breastfeeding that can not be replaced or supplemented, no matter how hard the
mom tries.
While the people who adopt are being provided financial help from the government until the adopted child is 18,
moms are
made to
feel guilty for considering even some temporary assistance which would help them care for their own child.
I hope more and more
moms, nurses, and LCs become aware of real struggles out there and although well intentioned, don't
make moms feel guilty for needing to turn to bottles.
On the formula feeding vs breastfeeding, I have not breastfed any of my three girls; with the first one I very frustrated with the lack of supply and
felt guilty, but finally my pediatrician said exactly the same that you mention: the best to do is what it
makes you a happy
mom and her a happy baby.
The reason
moms feel guilty is because others are
making them
feel that way... always telling them «what is best» and not what
makes them happy.
That comment might
make a new
mom feel inadequate and really
guilty.
Moms need to support each other and not make new moms feel guilty for what they are doing or not doing with their ch
Moms need to support each other and not
make new
moms feel guilty for what they are doing or not doing with their ch
moms feel guilty for what they are doing or not doing with their child.
There are things that I may be VERY passionate about (let's just not talk about knock - offs today, ok) and I know that I'm probably
guilty of
making some
mom feel bad about her choices.
I will happily keep pushing other
moms — not to
make those who decide not to
feel guilty, but to help those that want to.
I completely understand that there are cases when breastfeeding is not possible and I don't ever want to
make any
mom feel guilty for needing to feed formula.
As a new
mom, I used to
feel guilty for
making my son eat things he didn't like.
But the point of this post is not to educate on the merits of breastfeeding or
make formula feeding
moms feel guilty.
Seeing my frame transform
made it clear to me that I needed to stop
feeling guilty for
making myself a priority — to be a good
mom, I had to be a healthy one.
Don't force them to break that bond or
make them
feel guilty for still loving their Dad or
Mom, despite your divorce.