Whether its been support or its been rejection of
a mom nursing in public, its made the headlines.
We are going to talk about supporting
moms nursing in public today.
It is VERY uncommon in my area to see
a mom nursing in a public place, covered or not.
Michelle, one of our Facebook followers, Kate Garcia, and it was «What is the best thing to say to someone who says something negative to
a mom nursing in public?»
The only issues I have actually known about firsthand were other females confronting
moms nursing in public.
He may have said it a couple of times that why don't we just do formula because it would be a pain and as a new mom I was really struggling with doing this in public and when you do, that was almost six years ago, and thankfully there has been more light shed on breastfeeding in public and nursing in public because I really didn't see any other
moms nursing in public then.
I love seeing
moms nurse in public.
Not exact matches
So I just don't get the «too much pressure to breastfeed» when all around me are images of bottles, ads for formula telling me a happy feeding makes a happy
mom, bottlefeeding
moms,
moms and doctors and
nurses telling new
moms that formula is «just as good» and «not to feel guilty», women getting «the look» for
nursing in public, or feeling weird about doing it (I sure did)-- to me, any pressure out there is NOT to breastfeed, or do it as little as possible (not if it's not immediately easy or you don't love every minute, not past 6 mos, not
in public, not around male relatives and friends, not around children, not if you ever want to go out alone sometime...)
Moms being told they can't
nurse in public is always a hot topic and this one was helped along by a number of posts (one my own, several by others) on message boards and groups on related topics.
I fed my oldest bottles of EBM
in public when he was small and never noticed any looks (only when
nursing in public), but naturally I can't really speak from the experience of a full - time bottlefeeding
mom.
Never mind the general
public... Some examples: 1) the passenger
in front of us on our first flight, whom when my daughter was crying while we waited to take off and I said something aloud such as «I'll
nurse her once we take off and then she'll be quiet», had to tell everyone around us that she was a
nurse and that I was essentially a bad
mom to not
nurse my baby during takeoff (sorry lady, but the reason I bought her a seat was for her to be
in her car seat during takeoff as it's much safer than
in my arms
nursing).
I am not sure that this is going to change the dynamic of feeling uncomfortable
in public as a
nursing mom or of employers giving you just the option of using the bathroom.
Today we're talking about how to support
moms who choose to
nurse in public.
I said «
Mom, if I can't do this
in a vegetarian restaurant
in Berkeley, then what chance do we have
nursing anywhere
in public?»
The news is filled with
moms who are constantly being attacked for
nursing their babies on demand
in public areas.
Today we are talking about how to support
moms that chose to
nurse in public.
Michelle's passion for breastfeeding advocacy began with her
nursing in public incident at Target
in 2011 which led to the largest
nurse -
in to date with over 6,000
moms who participated
in nursing their children at Target stores all over the U.S. Michelle currently sits on the advocacy board for the United States Breastfeeding Committee (USBC), and is the Director of Activism for Best For Babes Foundation.
Read on for 5 tried and true tips for breastfeeding
in public from
moms who have successfully
nursed their children wherever they go.
Some
moms prefer the security of a
nursing cover when its time to breastfeed
in public.
What we should do when we see another
mom nursing their kid
in public, so have you had bad experiences, do you feel like something went wrong, something went crazy for me, like I would be
nursing a baby and I get my Starbucks spilled on me or something and I have to take off my shirt to
nurse my kid but that would be something that would just happen to me.
We want to know how we can better support other
moms when we see someone else
nursing in public whether it's the head nod, the smile or maybe the first bump when you walk by, I don't know what's the best way to do it is.
We need a secret handshake or something, so let's talk a little bit about our experiences and some of the experiences we've heard about for
moms that have been
nursing in public.
Also if I were to think about it, I want to be an example for
moms who might be a bit hesitant to
nurse in public, I want it too seem normal and that lots of women do it.
I agree with Jane
in regards to the fact that some just aren't comfortable
nursing in public, but it would still be wonderful if every
nursing mom to feel like she's able to and will not be judged.
I went
in to check it out, and while it wasn't perfect (the chair they had
in there wouldn't be great for me to
nurse, since it had arms), it was a good alternative for
moms like me who can't
nurse well
in public.
It does not mean that a
mom has to choose to use that area, but it makes it possible for a
mom to
nurse in a
public place who otherwise would not, which is the goal.
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we've sexualizedwomen's bodies to a degree that we barely bat an eye at near - pornographic billboards and music videos, but
nursing in public (even discreetly) raises people's ire and facebook removes all photographs of
nursing moms and babies, deeming them «inappropriate.»
Stories of mothers being harassed for
nursing in public, cases where
moms give up
nursing too soon because they lacked support, or even hospitals that push formula as the norm to new
moms pop up all too often.
I think it's important that the
mom and baby are comfortable while
nursing in public, discreet or not.
SUNNY GAULT: Yeah, I mean, I think that's, you know, the whole point with the whole baby - friendly initiative is, you know, when
moms come
in to a hospital, you really don't know their background, you don't know, you know, did their
mom breastfeed, you know, have they, you know, have they ever seen someone
nursing in public, like you don't know where they start off.
Michelle Hickman: As far as
nursing in public; there is a federal law that says that a
mom has a right to
nurse in public on federal property.
When the law says that a
mom has the right to
nurse in public, she has the right to
nurse in public, period.
However since not every
mom feels comfortable
nursing in public, the Bebe au Lait
nursing cover can give you the confidence to breastfeed
in style whenever, wherever.
These best selling
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moms» modesty while allowing her to easily
nurse their babies
in public.
Robin Kaplan: And I think that - and I want to ask Daisy as well about her experience - but the thing that I want to point out is; I think that people, when they hear about
nursing in public harassment, I don't think they realize the repercussions on the
mom who is hearing this and the devastation and the way that it makes her feel.
And although these celebrity
moms may have the benefit of professional stylists and photographers on hand, their message is the same as any
mom's — breastfeeding is totally normal, and you shouldn't be ashamed to
nurse in public.
And, lucky for them, celebrity
moms are sharing their
nursing moments on social media as a way to raise awareness and remove the stigma of breastfeeding
in public.
Though there are many different kinds of
nursing covers on the market, they are all intended to make
moms (and others) feel more comfortable when
nursing in public.
That means no
nurses pushing formula, lactation support
in the hospital, support for
moms in the workplace, cultural norms that allow women to breastfeed
in public places without being shamed, and more support among women for dealing with the challenges.
A lot of tips I gleaned from parenting forums and sites, and even other
moms, revolved around ways to avoid exposing myself when
nursing in public.
When
nursing moms feel shame or embarrassment, she says, they'll be less likely to breast - feed
in public.
From comments about
moms in bikinis at the pool to photos of
moms nursing their babies
in public and everything
in between,
moms are being attacked for just about anything.
One thing I disagree with... that saying a
nursing mom in public is being rude is «misogynistic.»
Robin Kaplan: Learning to breastfeed
in public can sometimes be a daunting for a new
mom, especially
in the United States where mothers can sometimes be discriminated against for
nursing in public.
Horaaay for
moms who
nurse in public:) It's a relief to know I'm not alone
in this one.
Nursing moms have a right to feed their children anywhere they and their children are allowed to be, and they don't need to cover up or feed
in a nasty
public bathroom just to spare busybodies the trouble of keeping their eyes on their own affairs.
Stories collected will serve as resource for mothers to reach their breastfeeding goals (whether it be as ambitious as to breastfeed past the first year, overcome the stigma of
nursing in public or to simply know it's okay to stop
nursing baby when
mom is at that point.)
Nursing in public is the best, simplest and inexpensive campaign that
moms can undertake to promote breastfeeding!
(It gets better with time, but even
moms who've been
nursing for years report the occasional «HAVE MILK, WILL FEED BABY» response to baby cries overheard
in public.)