According to hypotheses 2 and 3 it was expected that older single adults show
a more avoidant attachment style and that single adults with a higher education show a more secure attachment style.
(1) One attachment - specific explanation of singlehood may be that these individuals have
a more avoidant attachment style than paired individuals.
The older singles, i.e., 46 to 60 years, showed
a more avoidant attachment style (H2), felt less comfortable with closeness, and had less faith in others compared to the coupled individuals.
A recent study found that men who sext frequently have
more avoidant attachment styles than other men, meaning that they are not as likely to enter intimate relationships because of fear or mistrust in others.4 His premature sexting might be a cue that he was not interested or capable of intimacy.
Not exact matches
These children are also described as less disruptive, less aggressive, and
more mature than children with ambivalent or
avoidant attachment styles.
When, in the beginning of their article, the authors spell out their expectations for how their results might turn out, they come up with three possible hypotheses: (1) single people are
more avoidant in their
attachment styles than coupled people are; (2) single people are
more anxious in their
attachments than coupled people are, maybe because «they have been rejected by relationship partners who would not accept their anxiety, clinginess, and intrusiveness;» and (3) single and coupled people are similar in their
attachment experiences.
Research has also shown that adults with an
avoidant attachment style are
more accepting and likely to engage in casual sex.
This commentary cites evidence to argue that girls growing up in a competitive and aggressive environment are
more likely to shift to
avoidant attachment than to ambivalent
attachment in middle childhood.
Those with
avoidant attachment styles are
more hesitant to become close to others as a general rule and appreciate
more solo time, while anxious
attachment styles desire greater closeness and might have unrealistic expectations about their partner's comfort around intimacy.
Demoralization is related
more to Dismissive, or Anxious -
Avoidant Attachment, choosing to stay down and bypass feelings, rather than get hopes up then get disappointed over and over again
A
more secure
attachment style was generally associated with
more nonverbal closeness and a
more avoidant style was generally associated with less nonverbal closeness.
In the most relevant study, Wensauer and Grossmann 1995 found that grandparents with a secure
attachment (in contrast to those with an
avoidant attachment) had larger social networks, named
more supportive family members, and received and gave
more help;
avoidant individuals were significantly
more self - reliant.
Fortunately, having a partner who is
more securely attached (less anxious) appears to mitigate the negative effect of
attachment avoidance on responsiveness.4 The fact that
avoidant people responded the worst when their partner was high in
attachment anxiety might be because anxious individuals» yearning for closeness and affirmation pushes away the
avoidant partner, resulting in less effective capitalization.
But things get interesting when it comes to the link sexting and
attachment avoidance: People high in avoidance, and especially men who are high in avoidance, send
more sext messages and sexually explicit pictures and videos than those who are less
avoidant.
For example, does gender role conflict lead to
more anxious and
avoidant attachment styles, which leads to
more pornography use?
Given what you describe about your ex's behavior, it is possible that she terminated the relationship because of having an
avoidant attachment style, meaning that she is fearful about entering and becoming too close to others.1 People with
avoidant attachment styles are
more likely than people with other styles to end relationships when they start getting too intimate2 and to use indirect strategies to do so, such as avoiding direct communication about the real problems that are leading to the break - up.3 In other words, she may have been holding back negative feelings.
This book helped me to understand my
avoidant attachment style and see the lies I lived by
more clearly.
For people low in
avoidant attachment (i.e., those with less of a need for emotional distance in relationships), their desire for sex was higher when their partners were
more responsive, but for those who are highly
avoidant (i.e., those who do express desires to be distant from partners) actually desired sex less as partner responsiveness increased.
We've written a lot about
avoidant attachment (see here and here for
more on
attachment), but here's a quick summary: Those who are high in avoidance tend to be uncomfortable with intimacy, want less closeness in their relationships, and distrust others
more.
In a study co-authored by pioneering
attachment researchers Mario Mikulincer and Phil Shaver, they found that in small - group settings (e.g., the workplace environment),
avoidant attachment was associated with a «self - reliant» leadership style (a reluctance to rely on others for help / support and desire for less collaborative,
more independent work).
Across the wide range of studies examined, researchers found that the longer a relationship lasts, the
more strongly a person's insecure
attachment (especially
avoidant attachment) predicts dissatisfaction.
Certain people, namely those with an
avoidant attachment personality (i.e., fear closeness), are
more likely to use the
avoidant breakup strategies.2 Second, a person might feel less compassionate love (i.e., care and empathy) towards her or his soon to be ex - partner.3 Finally, there might be some situational factors that shape a person's choice to ghost a partner.
Some people tend to be open and trusting (secure
attachment), some people tend to be
more needy and insecure (anxious
attachment), and yet others prefer to keep their distance (
avoidant attachment).
Contrary to meta - analytic findings of the earlier literature that focused only on the effects of the amount of care provided without adequately controlling for selection effects, the NICHD Study found that a number of features of child care (the amount of child care, age of entry into care, and the quality and stability of child care) were unrelated to the security of infant — mother
attachments or to an increased likelihood of
avoidant attachments, except when mothers provided less sensitive parenting of their infant.11 For the children who received less sensitive maternal care, extended experience with child care, lower - quality child care, and
more changes in child care arrangements were each associated with an increased likelihood of developing an insecure
attachment with their mothers.
When someone has an insecure
attachment style, they either exhibit
avoidant or anxious behaviors to cope with this... Read
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If you have a pattern of only having short term relationships, or feeling like you sabotage relationships when you get close to someone, it might be worth learning
more about having an
avoidant attachment style to see if it fits for you.
According to Amir Levine,
avoidants tend to end their relationships
more frequently, have higher rates of divorce, and score the lowest on every measure of closeness in contrast with the other
attachment types.
Someone with an
avoidant attachment style might need
more time alone,
more time doing his or her own stuff as opposed to «Let's be together all the time.»
In a study of 118 male and female college students, people who had either the anxious - ambivalent or
avoidant attachment styles also had
more irrational beliefs about their relationship than those with a secure adult
attachment style.
More specifically, those who were currently in a relationship were less anxious and
avoidant than participants who were not currently dating, even if they had been in a relationship in the past at both time points (p <.02), but again not in terms of change in
attachment (p >.90).
Men generally tend to have an
avoidant attachment style while women are
more likely to have an anxious style.
Three issues are central: first, does child maltreatment lead to
more insecure - organized (
avoidant and resistant)
attachments?
In contrast, participants with an
avoidant - fearful
attachment style used
more negative adjectives to describe their parents.
The impact of specific life events, such as parental divorce, on
attachment orientations in adulthood are important to consider as those who experience this tend to be less securely attached, report greater relationship problems and are
more likely to have an
avoidant - fearful
attachment style [60].
In terms of a current romantic relationship, those with a secure
attachment style were much
more likely to be in a relationship whereas those with an
avoidant - fearful style were not.
For instance, parental stress seems to be associated to both anxiety and avoidance of
attachment, because of the difficulties they imply in coping with distress, but in different ways:
more avoidant women attribute negative distress to a characteristic of the baby and not situational factors;
more anxious women make
more mistakes in recognizing fear and attribute distress to physical factors, then they could show an out of sync response to the babies» distress signs (Leerkes and Siepak, 2006; for a complete review of a social cognition approach to parenting processes and behaviors, see: Jones et al., 2015a, b).
In this sample of young adults, those with a secure
attachment style perceived their parents in a much
more positive light than those with an
avoidant attachment style.
The Scheffe post hoc test indicated that participants with an
avoidant - fearful
attachment style used
more negative adjectives to describe their mother (M = 3.61), compared to securely attached participants (M = 1.67).
H10: The parents and adopted children relationship in terms of
avoidant attachment is
more in younger children than the elder children.
Cross cultural findings suggested that parents - adopted children relationship in terms of secure
attachment is revealed
more in non-working parents, female parents, children of 11 - 14 years and female children across stated nations while, the ambivalent,
avoidant and disorganized
attachments are found
more in practice if parents are working & male parents and if foster children are male at large & of 15 - 18 years.
Persons who displayed
more suspicious jealousy had greater insecurity, greater anxious
attachment, greater
avoidant attachment, greater chronic jealousy, and lower self - esteem.
The results indicated infants with autonomous foster parents and infants placed at younger ages showed higher early and overall levels of secure behavior, less
avoidant behavior, and
more coherent
attachment strategies compared to infants placed with nonautonomous foster parents.
Whereas,
avoidant, ambivalent and disorganized
attachments are found
more in the male parents than the female ones for all stated nations as the means values of these
attachments for male parents are significantly larger than the female parents, thus we fail to accept the Hypotheses 6, 7 and 8 as also explained in Table 5.
Numerous researchers have noted a range of
attachment styles beyond the dichotomony of
avoidant /
attachment dimensions [40]; for example, a larger sample would have allowed
more nuanced examination of participants with different permutations of
attachment style (e.g. high anxious and high
avoidant tendencies).
Results show around half of the young people had disorganised (or mixed)
attachment styles using either measure, with
avoidant attachment styles
more common than anxious ones.
H14: The parents and adopted children relationship in terms of
avoidant attachment is
more in female children than the male children.
H2: The parents and adopted children relationship in terms of
avoidant attachment is
more in non-working parents than the working parents.
The parents and adopted children relationship in terms of
avoidant, ambivalent and disorganized
attachments are found
more in elder children than the younger children, for all selected nations as the means values of these
attachments for younger children are not significantly larger than the elder children, thus we fail to accept the Hypotheses 10, 11 and 12 as also mentioned in Table 5.
H6: The parents and adopted children relationship in terms of
avoidant attachment is
more in female parents than the male parents.