A recent study found that men who sext frequently have
more avoidant attachment styles than other men, meaning that they are not as likely to enter intimate relationships because of fear or mistrust in others.4 His premature sexting might be a cue that he was not interested or capable of intimacy.
The older singles, i.e., 46 to 60 years, showed
a more avoidant attachment style (H2), felt less comfortable with closeness, and had less faith in others compared to the coupled individuals.
(1) One attachment - specific explanation of singlehood may be that these individuals have
a more avoidant attachment style than paired individuals.
According to hypotheses 2 and 3 it was expected that older single adults show
a more avoidant attachment style and that single adults with a higher education show a more secure attachment style.
Not exact matches
These children are also described as less disruptive, less aggressive, and
more mature than children with ambivalent or
avoidant attachment styles.
When, in the beginning of their article, the authors spell out their expectations for how their results might turn out, they come up with three possible hypotheses: (1) single people are
more avoidant in their
attachment styles than coupled people are; (2) single people are
more anxious in their
attachments than coupled people are, maybe because «they have been rejected by relationship partners who would not accept their anxiety, clinginess, and intrusiveness;» and (3) single and coupled people are similar in their
attachment experiences.
Research has also shown that adults with an
avoidant attachment style are
more accepting and likely to engage in casual sex.
Those with
avoidant attachment styles are
more hesitant to become close to others as a general rule and appreciate
more solo time, while anxious
attachment styles desire greater closeness and might have unrealistic expectations about their partner's comfort around intimacy.
A
more secure
attachment style was generally associated with
more nonverbal closeness and a
more avoidant style was generally associated with less nonverbal closeness.
For example, does gender role conflict lead to
more anxious and
avoidant attachment styles, which leads to
more pornography use?
Given what you describe about your ex's behavior, it is possible that she terminated the relationship because of having an
avoidant attachment style, meaning that she is fearful about entering and becoming too close to others.1 People with
avoidant attachment styles are
more likely than people with other
styles to end relationships when they start getting too intimate2 and to use indirect strategies to do so, such as avoiding direct communication about the real problems that are leading to the break - up.3 In other words, she may have been holding back negative feelings.
This book helped me to understand my
avoidant attachment style and see the lies I lived by
more clearly.
In a study co-authored by pioneering
attachment researchers Mario Mikulincer and Phil Shaver, they found that in small - group settings (e.g., the workplace environment),
avoidant attachment was associated with a «self - reliant» leadership
style (a reluctance to rely on others for help / support and desire for less collaborative,
more independent work).
When someone has an insecure
attachment style, they either exhibit
avoidant or anxious behaviors to cope with this... Read
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If you have a pattern of only having short term relationships, or feeling like you sabotage relationships when you get close to someone, it might be worth learning
more about having an
avoidant attachment style to see if it fits for you.
Someone with an
avoidant attachment style might need
more time alone,
more time doing his or her own stuff as opposed to «Let's be together all the time.»
In a study of 118 male and female college students, people who had either the anxious - ambivalent or
avoidant attachment styles also had
more irrational beliefs about their relationship than those with a secure adult
attachment style.
Men generally tend to have an
avoidant attachment style while women are
more likely to have an anxious
style.
In contrast, participants with an
avoidant - fearful
attachment style used
more negative adjectives to describe their parents.
The impact of specific life events, such as parental divorce, on
attachment orientations in adulthood are important to consider as those who experience this tend to be less securely attached, report greater relationship problems and are
more likely to have an
avoidant - fearful
attachment style [60].
In terms of a current romantic relationship, those with a secure
attachment style were much
more likely to be in a relationship whereas those with an
avoidant - fearful
style were not.
In this sample of young adults, those with a secure
attachment style perceived their parents in a much
more positive light than those with an
avoidant attachment style.
The Scheffe post hoc test indicated that participants with an
avoidant - fearful
attachment style used
more negative adjectives to describe their mother (M = 3.61), compared to securely attached participants (M = 1.67).
Numerous researchers have noted a range of
attachment styles beyond the dichotomony of
avoidant /
attachment dimensions [40]; for example, a larger sample would have allowed
more nuanced examination of participants with different permutations of
attachment style (e.g. high anxious and high
avoidant tendencies).
Results show around half of the young people had disorganised (or mixed)
attachment styles using either measure, with
avoidant attachment styles more common than anxious ones.