Crhis, to pick up on HJ's suggestion, I guess it is too
much to expect that «Chris» is short for «Christine» and that you are a shapely 30 year - old redhead with DD breasts, a hyperactie $ ex drive, a fear of
emotional commitment and a few hours to spare, hey?
What a securely attached child - OR ADULT - looks like: competent, self - confident, resilient, cheerful
much of the time, anticipating people's needs (not from a co-dependent place), empathic, humorous, playful, tries harder in the face of adversity; not vulnerable to approach by strangers because won't go to strangers (as adult, out - going without being foolhardy), good self - esteem, achieving, able to use all mental, physical,
emotional resources fully, responsive, affectionate, able to make deep
commitments as appropriate, able to be self - disclosing as appropriate, able to be available emotionally as appropriate, able to interact well with others at school and in jobs / careers, likely to be more physically healthy throughout life, self - responsible, giving from a «good heart» place of compassion, has true autonomy, no co-dependent self, because of well developed internal modulation system, less likely to turn to external «devices» (addictions) to modulate affect