Based on the comparison of the couples who declined and did
not decline in relationship satisfaction after baby, we designed the highly effective «Bringing Baby Home» (BBH) workshop.
Not exact matches
Researchers at Northwestern University found couples that wrote regular reports about their
relationship maintained their marital
satisfaction, while couples that didn't write reports noted a
decline in their marital
satisfaction.
According to the investment model,
satisfaction with a
relationship should be greater to the extent that a
relationship provides high rewards and low costs, whereas commitment increases
not only due to greater
relationship satisfaction, but also to increases
in the investment of resources
in relationships and
declines in the quality of available alternative partners.
But there is a glimmer of hope:
not all new parents experience a
decline in relationship satisfaction.
Father involvement increased for current couples group participants, though
not as much as for benchmark couples group participants; they showed statistically similar positive changes on 6 measures (
decline in parenting stress, stability
in couple
relationship satisfaction, children's hyperactivity, social withdrawal, psychological symptoms, increased income).
Thus, perhaps the
decline in relationship satisfaction often reported by new parents is
not only caused by the strains of parenthood, but also by a return to the base rates of
relationship satisfaction, similar to those of women who did
not become pregnant.
Longitudinal studies (e.g. Doss et al., 2009; Lawrence et al., 2008) show that new parents experience sharp
declines in relationship satisfaction, whereas couples without children do
not show these
declines during the same time period.
However,
in support of the argument that children affect a couple's
relationship, Doss et al. (2009) conducted an eight year study
in which they found that couples who had children had a more sudden
decline in their
relationship satisfaction following the birth of their first child which persisted through the study, as compared to couples who had
not yet had children who showed a more gradual
decline in their
relationship satisfaction.
And while mothers» violated division of labor expectations have been linked to
declines in relationship satisfaction across (Ruble et al., 1988), our findings suggest that the greatest positive impact
in relationship satisfaction is seen when mothers» expectations are exceeded
not so much when they are unfulfilled.
The purpose of this research was to explore the theoretical assumption that if a mother's expectations of her partner are
not fulfilled, she will experience a
decline in relationship satisfaction despite the reduction
in role strain afforded her by maternal leave to care for her child.