Webb found that, for each of these people, it was not so much as an event or troubling treatment from their past, but a lack
of emotional attunement passed on by their parents.
If you love each other, it's important you both learn the skill
of emotional attunement.
Sympathy, on the other hand, disrupts any chance
of emotional attunement and tempts parents to enable.
Not exact matches
For further discussion
of attunement and other social -
emotional concepts, go to www.developingchild.harvard.edu.
Evolution has given mammals
emotional attunement and eye contact, and they use them to tinker with one another's physiology, to adjust and fortify one another's fragile neural rhythms in a collaborative dance
of love.
Focusing on musical and
emotional attunement might be especially important for children with low functioning childhood autism as it might be specifically powerful when working with sensory processing, affect regulation, or deviations related to the child's movements all
of which can be crucially affected in these children.
He starts by explaining the importance
of emotional support and
attunement and how with the lack
of emotional support during the primary years can limit the range
of emotional expressions and responses.
Likewise, relationship repair takes time and effort on the part
of both partners and includes rekindling sexual intimacy and
emotional attunement.
The science
of trust:
emotional attunement for couples / John Mordechai Gottman; New York: W.W. Norton, © 2011.
We look at how therapists can use seven channels
of experience (auditory, visual,
emotional, sensation, imaginal, energetic and movement) to heighten their
attunement with family members and family members» connections with one another.
In The Science
of Trust, Dr. Gottman explains that practicing
emotional attunement can help you stay connected in spite
of your differences.
In this video clip, Sue Johnson, the originator
of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), discusses «the dance
of sex» and the importance
of emotional presence,
attunement, and sensitive responsiveness.
Saturday Keynoter Susan Johnson, the originator
of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, used the tango to demonstrate the qualities
of embodied
attunement and
emotional engagement that inform both good therapy and satisfying sexuality.
Working through trauma and distressful
emotional accounts enhances performance, mental vitality and stability, relational
attunement and connection, and increases effectiveness in areas
of life, including personal, spiritual, social, and professional.
Part 2
of a series on Dr. John Gottman's research on Trust and Infidelity In my last blog, «Precursors to Infidelity: The Six Warning Signs», I reviewed findings from Dr. John Gottman's five studies on trust and Infidelity, summarized in «Science
of Trust:
Emotional Attunement for Couples», and his follow - up book, «What...
Practicing what Dr. John Gottman calls
emotional attunement can help you stay connected in spite
of your differences.
Gottman draws his conclusions in «Science
of Trust:
Emotional Attunement for Couples», and his follow - up book, «What Makes Love Last?
In The Science
of Trust, Dr. John Gottman explains that
emotional attunement is a skill that allows couples to fully process and move on from negative
emotional events, and ultimately create a stronger bond.
One
of the most integral parts
of creating trust in our relationships is what Dr. Gottman describes as a deficit in
emotional attunement, defined by psychologists and researchers in a variety
of different ways.
He doesn't waste any time in getting to the core
of the issue: trust begins in
emotional attunement.
Practicing
emotional attunement while relaxing together can help you stay connected in spite
of your differences.»
Emotional attunement is extended to tackle the subjects
of flooding, the story we tell ourselves about our relationship, conflict, personality, changing relationships, and gender.
Among them are a particular sensitivity to the role
of traumatic or neglectful ties with early caregivers; the fundamental importance
of affect regulation to successful therapy; the importance
of establishing relationships with clients characterized by close, intense,
emotional, and physical
attunement; and the ultimate goal
of recreating in therapy an attachment experience that makes up, at least to some degree, for what the client missed the first time around.
(3) The right brain / limbic (unconscious,
emotional, intuitive) interaction
of the psychotherapist and client is more important than cognitive or behavioral suggestions from the therapist; the psychotherapist's emotionally charged verbal and nonverbal, psychobiological
attunement to the client and to his / her own internal triggers is critical to effective therapy.
The surest way to develop empathy in young children is by supporting parents in caring for them with
attunement (this means responding to a baby's
emotional needs in a way that conveys a sense
of being understood, cared for and valued).
Essential to the development
of a healthy self is
attunement, that is being aware
of the other - their feelings, desires - being able to be on their page and read their
emotional state
of being and readiness.
In addition «trust,» the # 1 quality people report wanting in a mate, requires «
attunement» and a sense
of emotional connection.
He charts the nine integrative functions that emerge from the profoundly interconnecting circuits
of the brain, including bodily regulation,
attunement,
emotional balance, response flexibility, fear extinction, insight, empathy, morality, and intuition.
Emotional attunement is being tuned in to the emotions
of others.
Studies show that listener feedback and quality
of attunement fundamentally impact the teller's memory, capacity for positive
emotional regulation, and ongoing construction
of meaning.
Attunement is characterized as parents» responsiveness to the biological, affective, cognitive and
emotional needs
of the child.
In my last blog, «Precursors to Infidelity: The Six Warning Signs», I reviewed findings from Dr. John Gottman's five studies on trust and Infidelity, summarized in «Science
of Trust:
Emotional Attunement for Couples», and his follow - up book, «What Makes Love Last?
How representations
of the parental marriage predict marital
emotional attunement during the transition to parenthood.
Conversely, it was found that secure mothers showed better
attunement with their children and greater ability to repair mismatched states during free play (Riva Crugnola et al., 2013), as well as the maternal proclivity to talk about painful emotions predicted
emotional understanding in children (Dunn and Brown, 2001), as well as the early acquisition
of ToM (Hughes and Dunn, 2002).
Further, practicing what Dr. John Gottman calls
emotional attunement daily can help you stay connected in spite
of your differences.