The weird world
of mom guilt
RHIAN: I think there is a lot
of mom guilt too.
Every mom I talk to talks about how hard it is, shares their troubles, many also had mastitis or other issues and admits how hard it is and that its part
of the mom guilt.
Feeling a ton
of mom guilt for even writing that sentence.»
I think this is kind of necessary to take away
some of this mom guilt that we are all riddled with.
I felt a wave
of Mom guilt and began to play the comparison game when I asked the moms I know when their children gave up bottles.
Finally, the most recently evolved genre
of Mom Guilt; the one spawned of the green / organic living movement that so many of us have eagerly embraced.
Not exact matches
Above all else, Kuzmic is a
mom and she knows the bitter taste
of «
mom guilt.»
No, the real story is that motherhood has become a stress - laden and
guilt - ridden project due to the societal veneration
of stay - at - home
moms, the workplace requirement that women be overachievers just to stay even with their male colleagues, economic anxiety about class standing and, above all, government and corporate refusal to devise family - friendly policies.
With five kids and two states between them, Epp and Speer not only share stories for every kind
of emotion a new
mom might face (think:
guilt, overwhelmed, worried and grateful); they have kicked it up a notch and achieved the never - before - possible — but quite probably always dreamed
of: They have paired wines (nearly 80
of them) with all those emotions.
But when I recently found myself in the throes
of a head cold that no amount
of medication was able to treat, it wasn't
mom guilt from 2,000 miles away forcing me to my spice cabinet in the middle
of the night.
As a certified herbalist & former college
of Deb's, I too suffered from anxiety attacks and know the
guilt they can induce when you can't be at your best as a
mom.
The target audience for these videos was infants and children ages 3 months to 3 years (or perhaps more accurately, the parents who put their babies in front
of these videos, so that
mom or dad could jump into the shower,
guilt free.)
I have been clinging to that like a buoy in the
mom - ocean
of blame and competence and
guilt and joy and judgment and acceptance and fear and love.
If
mom isn't enjoying the breastfeeding relationship anymore, she doesn't believe in continuing to nurse out
of guilt.
I, like so many, wanted to be the «perfect
mom,» and though formula feeding doesn't make anyone a bad
mom, I still felt a fair amount
of «
mom guilt» every time I'd give my newborn a bottle.
-LSB-...] I loved this article as I know many
moms who feel
guilt if they don't feel an immediate and huge rush
of pure love at the first sight
of the baby.
If a
mom decides not to breast - feed, there should be no
guilt or fear that her baby is not getting the best nutrition,» said Gail Wood, spokeswoman for Mead Johnson Nutritionals, maker
of Enfamil Lipil.
We also want address other areas
of motherhood such as mommy
guilt, what real
moms look like, nutrition, and special need parenting.
And then, instead
of loving who we are as
moms, the options have this crazy superpower to allow us to question almost every decision because inevitably it's not the right one and we become more frozen in fear and indecision than my kids toys which were left outside and are now frozen in piles
of snow (insert
guilt for not getting everything put away and following the 8 Easy Steps for Fall Cleanup Post that is out there).
In fact, all
of my writing is exactly about what you've written — I don't believe in
mom guilt nor the idea that
moms need to look at societal pressures to do more, expect more, and achieve more because, at the heart, being a
mom — which you articulated again — is simply enough.
In Mommy
Guilt, authors Julie Bort, Aviva Pflock, and Devra Renner report that yelling is one
of the things
moms feel most guilty about.
These findings have helped give dinnertime an almost magical aura and have led to no small amount
of stress and
guilt among busy
moms and dads.
Rather than curse their frustrations, some
moms feel the urge to feign joy, whether to be funny or out
of guilt.
Moms have innate
guilt about «selfish» pursuits and getting sexy has nothing to do with our kids, so it gets dropped to the bottom
of the to - do list.
Point: Some
moms feel
guilt over dating after the end
of their marriage and relationship.
An essay from a busy working mother, Christy Wright, owner
of Business Boutique, sharing her insight on how to shake
mom guilt and focus on what is most important.
As a working from home
mom, I love being able to make my own schedule, but I often struggle with the
guilt of wanting to work when I have time to be with my daughter and wanting to be with my daughter when I have time to work.
Us working
moms know the
guilt all too well
of dropping their kid off somewhere else all day, but to know that he's reacting this way killed me.
Words
of wisdom on juggling a family and a career from current working
moms to the generation behind them.Many working
moms struggle with the
guilt of not spending enough time with theirkids.
I'm sure there are many
moms who don't have these experiences, and for whom breastfeeding works well, but that wasn't our case, and I wasn't going to let all
of the pro-breastfeeding propaganda
guilt me into feeling like I was a bad
mom because I gave him formula.
Figuring out how to tell if you're bad at breastfeeding is something that no
mom anticipates dealing with before she has a baby, but amid all the
guilt and challenges, it's not uncommon to find yourself experiencing that kind
of doubt.
Oh yes, we working
moms have CRAZY amounts
of guilt about leaving our kids each day for our jobs, and constantly re-assess if it is worth it, whether that is for a few hours each week or full - time - plus and whether it is working from our home office or traveling to the other side
of the world.
Even though it may be easier to just do everything yourself, and indeed, our culture still encourages
moms to think that they should be able to do it all, so there is a level
of responsibility and personal pride that comes along with not needing your partner to help at all (and
guilt if you don't do it all), that kind
of attitude only serves to speed up your own burn - out and to hinder your partner from being an equal parent.
The
guilt is often one
of the biggest challenges for many
moms.
And what about the
guilt you will carry now that you know the effects
of a
mom's career on a child?
Oh the mommy
guilt... and that feeling
of embarrassment when other
moms give you «that look» when your kid is misbehaving, ah... it's the worst.
If
moms» can hit the goal 3 out
of 5 days, then when some
mom guilt kicks in we can pat ourselves on the back.
Everyone jokes that
moms are so masterful about weathering so much
guilt because we're the ones who are putting it on ourselves, which is mostly true — we are the biggest sources
of the
guilt we suffer under, but we are far from the only source.
Working Mamas can also give our children big, full attention when we get home — quite possibly in a way that the stay - at - home
mom can't because
of the compressed time that we have to be together and our
guilt.
The point
of me listing all my problems is to let you know that you are not alone... your tears are the same as my tears - they are shed because
of pain,
guilt, pressure
of being the best
mom, sadness, worry and love.
But I believe most
moms are
guilted into weaning because
of what everyone else thinks!
But with a little change
of perspective, there are ways to cope with working
mom's
guilt and accept the fact that things don't always have to be perfect.
Christine and Genevieve discover some bizarre life parallels before diving into some
of Genevieve's favorite working
mom hacks, spanning school events, appointments, commuting, schedules, single parenthood,
guilt, judgement at work, and self - care.
How To Stop Beating Yourself Up In Your Parenting * Why Mamas Have A Hard Time Giving Up
Guilt * The Shadow Side
Of Conscious Parenting * How Feeling Like A «Good» Mom Can Lead To Acting Like A «Bad» Mom * Why Controlling Behavior Is a Bad Idea * How Emotional Baggage From Childhood Keeps Moms From Staying Present With Their Child Leslie Potter is the founder of Pure Joy Parenting, a joy based parenting model based on her experience raising her daughter as a single mom as well as working with familie
Of Conscious Parenting * How Feeling Like A «Good»
Mom Can Lead To Acting Like A «Bad» Mom * Why Controlling Behavior Is a Bad Idea * How Emotional Baggage From Childhood Keeps Moms From Staying Present With Their Child Leslie Potter is the founder of Pure Joy Parenting, a joy based parenting model based on her experience raising her daughter as a single mom as well as working with famili
Mom Can Lead To Acting Like A «Bad»
Mom * Why Controlling Behavior Is a Bad Idea * How Emotional Baggage From Childhood Keeps Moms From Staying Present With Their Child Leslie Potter is the founder of Pure Joy Parenting, a joy based parenting model based on her experience raising her daughter as a single mom as well as working with famili
Mom * Why Controlling Behavior Is a Bad Idea * How Emotional Baggage From Childhood Keeps
Moms From Staying Present With Their Child Leslie Potter is the founder
of Pure Joy Parenting, a joy based parenting model based on her experience raising her daughter as a single mom as well as working with familie
of Pure Joy Parenting, a joy based parenting model based on her experience raising her daughter as a single
mom as well as working with famili
mom as well as working with families.
Still, while the theory behind his philosophy «that the more time babies spend in their mothers» arms, the better the chances they will turn out to be well - adjusted children» and that «every baby's whimper is a plea for help and that no infant should ever be left to cry» sound reasonable, they can also lead to inferences
of guilt and anxiety for
moms who fear that spending any time away from their child could fuck him or her up for life.
Part
of me wondered if it was the
guilt I felt for being more educated to make better decisions regarding my son's birth as to why I didn't bond with him immediately, but after talking with several
moms that have had multiple children it seems to just vary child to child and no one could really explain it.
It sucks to resent your child, but knowing that there are other
moms out there who get that way really helps ease the burden
of guilt, and makes it so much easier to ask for help.
It would be hard for doctors to impose a different set
of rules on different
moms without reinforcing stigmas and
guilt and all
of that fun stuff.
I was disappointed in the article myself but I think part
of it, as it is for most
moms, is that most
of the
guilt I feel comes from myself.