Explore the Stage 2 change event
of Withdrawer re-engagement including the essential skills needed to gently but clearly work your way into your Withdrawers» inner - worlds.
Kathryn conducts EFT trainings internationally, has completed a preliminary task analysis
of the withdrawer re-engagement process, and has published four chapters and an article on using EFT with military couples.
Each session focuses on the steps and stages, from assessment, working with cycles, effectively deepening emotion and facilitating the processes
of withdrawer re-engagement and pursuer softening.
We will be viewing a portion
of Withdrawer Reengagement Disc 1: Couple 1 - Session 8 of EFT with John and Julia.
Not exact matches
Yet they know that Yahweh can also be the
Withdrawer of shalom.
We will be viewing a portion
of: Risking, Reaching and Responding - Transforming Relationships Stage 2 -
Withdrawer Reengagement with Gail Palmer
We watched a portion
of: «
Withdrawer Re-Engagement», live session in Netherlands with Yolanda von Hockauf.
The
withdrawer sees the «issue» as the demander's need to control and lack
of empathy.
Withdrawers respond defensively, backing up further, further fueling the pursuer's sense
of aloneness and desperation.
Do you see yourself as more
of a pursuer,
withdrawer, or do you more evenly take both positions?
Out
of desperation, pursuers make sideways «moves» to get their partners to respond, but these sideways signals are alarming or confusing to the
withdrawers.
Understanding Pursuers and
Withdrawers, an The Evolution
of Interactional Positionsfrom the ICEEFT Newsletter, by Certified EFT Therapist, Matt Angelstorf, Berlin, Germany.
Once again, we'll be working on steps 5, 6 & 7 as we address the heightening and expanding
of emotion to facilitate the vivid enactments that culminate in the Pursuer's «softening reach» and the re-engaged
Withdrawer's accepting and supportive response.
My couples, both
withdrawers and pursuers, start to offer particular feedback and deepen in to some aspect
of the E.F.T. Couples Therapy experience.
Over the next three days, we build on this, by providing more details on the course
of treatment, how EFT works actively with emotion and the three key change events: Cycle De-escalation,
Withdrawer Re-engagement and Pursuer Softening.
The types
of people who respond with «I don't know...» or don't share their feelings very openly are often the people we call «
withdrawers» because in a relationship conflict, they are the ones who leave the room, stonewall, or just go blank.
This workshop will start with an exploration
of our own «inner
withdrawer» and a deep reframing
of the withdrawal response in humans, in the negative dance, and in all relationships.
One question: In your post, it sounds as if every persuer /
withdrawer develops that role because
of the consistency
of their relationship with their parents.
Also, some people are the pursuer in some
of their relationships and the
withdrawer in others... it all seems to depend on how we're feeling in each individual relationship.
An in - depth, experiential exploration
of Steps 5 - 7
of EFT with
withdrawers.
Certified EFT Therapist and Supervisor Laurie Freeman, Ph.D. will present on «Transforming the Bond - Facilitating Understanding
of the Pursuer and the
Withdrawer»
An in - depth, experiential weekend focusing on Steps 5 - 7
of EFT with
withdrawers.
Most
of the time women are pursuers and men are
withdrawers, however these roles can be reversed and can change in different relationships.
Wednesday Going Deeper — Helping
Withdrawers & Pursuers Reach Out to Each Other through Enactments Couples often only see the reactive behavior
of the other (often angry outbursts or withdrawals) resulting in more distress and isolation, along with constricted beliefs about each other and sometimes themselves.
There are two main types
of people in this pattern — the Pursuers and the
Withdrawers.
We've written in the past about how almost every relationship has one person who is an emotional pursuer, and one who is more
of an emotional
withdrawer.
Withdrawers often believe «I'm not enough for you», often amidst a painful internal battle
of trying to prove thoughts and beliefs wrong.