It's not easy to steer clear
of hurtful behaviors when you're angry.
Not exact matches
Whether a particular
hurtful behavior, like the taking
of a life, can be considered evil depends on the context in which it occurs and the intentions
of the person committing the
behavior.
That said, i don't believe good intentions or lack
of awareness are any excuse for
hurtful behavior.
To help your child realise how
hurtful aggressive
behavior can be for both sides, the aggressor and the victim, and how that type
of behavior hitting, kicking, biting or bulling can make the other child feel.
It's hard to see your child on the receiving end
of a
behavior that, at best, isn't nice and, at worst, is
hurtful.
Even though people mean well, staying silent in the face
of such
behavior has a profound and
hurtful significance to the students.»
The characters also are forced to face their fears, examine some
of their
hurtful interactions and consider changing their
behavior — if and when they get back to their former lives.
Pushed to the limit
of their patience by Violet's
hurtful accusations and destructive
behavior, the Oklahoma prairie home erupts with
hurtful arguments and deep - rooted angst, exposing a number
of family secrets that get rooted out for all to hear, for better or worse.
In a set
of instructions Parlin wrote for teachers, he encourages teachers to «ask the harasser to explain what he or she meant by the comment, forcing the student to recognize the
hurtful nature
of his or her
behavior.»
The dysfunctional nature
of how urban schools teach students to relate to authority begins in kindergarten and continues through the primary grades.With young children, authoritarian, directive teaching that relies on simplistic external rewards still works to control students.But as children mature and grow in size they become more aware that the school's coercive measures are not really
hurtful (as compared to what they deal with outside
of school) and the directive,
behavior modification methods practiced in primary grades lose their power to control.Indeed, school authority becomes counterproductive.From upper elementary grades upward students know very well that it is beyond the power
of school authorities to inflict any real hurt.External controls do not teach students to want to learn; they teach the reverse.The net effect
of this situation is that urban schools teach poverty students that relating to authority is a kind
of game.And the deepest, most pervasive learnings that result from this game are that school authority is toothless and out
of touch with their lives.What school authority represents to urban youth is «what they think they need to do to keep their school running.»
Instead
of using punishments and rewards to influence the way students behave, restorative approaches address the underlying reasons for students»
hurtful behavior and nurture their intrinsic desire to treat others with care and respect.
Do you think it is possible to reduce or eliminate these
hurtful kinds
of behavior in school?
Recently, we are seeing an approach that is proactive rather than reactive, depicting communities
of children who demonstrate ways to prevent
hurtful behavior before it happens.
It is difficult to figure out, then, if bullying aggressors are intentionally
hurtful towards others, or their bullying
behavior is simply an unhealthy byproduct
of the fact that they are possibly severely emotionally disturbed (see the bullet - pointed characteristics above).
Yet, a nod and a statement
of acknowledgment and appreciation will be infinitely more effective in getting the
behavior and care one craves than a reminder
of how
hurtful or disappointment that person is.
Our work together encourages open and honest relating • increases listening without judgement and speaking without anger • decreases fighting, bickering and cold shoulders • enhances intimacy, sexuality and satisfaction • dissolves
hurtful and dysfunctional patterns
of behavior.
We will utilize a variety
of therapeutic practices to identify and work through life situations that may be causing uncomfortable feelings or
behaviors that are
hurtful to relationships or self.
Recognizing and identifying
hurtful behaviors is also useful so the spouses can put these
behaviors in the past by changing patterns going forward and making different choices that will support a relationship respectful
of each other's needs.
Instead, focus on maintaining a safe and loving relationship with your children so you can lessen the impact
of their other parent's confusing or
hurtful behavior.
Surrounding yourself with supportive adults is always a healthy tack, too.As for the partner committing the emotional abuse, he or she must be willing to discuss
hurtful behaviors with a counselor if there is any hope
of healing.
All coping
behaviors except positive reappraisal were significantly predicted by the primary appraisals (categories
of risk) and secondary appraisals (perceived intentionality and frequency
of hurtful messages).
Based on appraisal theory (Lazarus 1991; 1999), this study examined the degree to which primary and secondary cognitive appraisals
of hurtful messages predict the amountof hurt individuals feel, and the coping
behaviors they enact.
The following are some
of the habits and
behaviors that Gottoman has identified as being
hurtful.
The Imago process involves committing to understanding our own wounds and those
of our partner, to learning new skills and changing our
hurtful behavior, in the course
of which we meet our partner's needs and restore the lost and denied parts
of ourselves, thus achieving spiritual wholeness.