The evolution of a mixed orientation marriage becomes more complicated the further into the relationship the couple becomes aware
of the same sex attraction.
Or a victim
of Same Sex Attraction Disorder (SSAD)?
CS Lewis is actually the first person in church history to make the logical conclusion that the inevitable result
of same sex attraction is celibacy.
His growing awareness
of his same sex attraction is laid out with honesty.
When Exodus International closed down last year, they said it was because after 30 + years of ministry, the truth was that 99.9 % of their clients did not experience elimination
of their same sex attractions.
Not exact matches
«Men are affected by the belief that any level
of same -
sex attraction must mean you're gay.
I think we are too quick to depersonalize this and miss that we are talking about complex individuals who are trying to figure out, like all
of us, what it means to be made in the image and likeness
of God and yet have a whole intact personal identity which can include
same -
sex attraction.
Beside which it demonstrates another fundamental misunderstanding
of same -
sex attraction.
The website «Love One Another: A Discussion on
Same - Sex Attraction» www.mormonsandgays.org, outlines the church's position on «same - sex attraction» and provides readers with a host of videos from «church members who are attracted to people of the same sex, and conversations with the loved ones of gay spouses, children, or grandchildren who are dealing with the effects of same - sex attraction in their own lives.&ra
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Sex Attraction» www.mormonsandgays.org, outlines the church's position on «same - sex attraction» and provides readers with a host of videos from «church members who are attracted to people of the same sex, and conversations with the loved ones of gay spouses, children, or grandchildren who are dealing with the effects of same - sex attraction in their own lives.&raq
Sex Attraction» www.mormonsandgays.org, outlines the church's position on «same - sex attraction» and provides readers with a host of videos from «church members who are attracted to people of the same sex, and conversations with the loved ones of gay spouses, children, or grandchildren who are dealing with the effects of same - sex attraction in their own liv
Attraction» www.mormonsandgays.org, outlines the church's position on «
same - sex attraction» and provides readers with a host of videos from «church members who are attracted to people of the same sex, and conversations with the loved ones of gay spouses, children, or grandchildren who are dealing with the effects of same - sex attraction in their own lives.&ra
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sex attraction» and provides readers with a host of videos from «church members who are attracted to people of the same sex, and conversations with the loved ones of gay spouses, children, or grandchildren who are dealing with the effects of same - sex attraction in their own lives.&raq
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of videos from «church members who are attracted to people
of the
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attraction in their own lives.»
He well articulates the over representation
of politically correct themes, which we have become very used to from Hollywood: from the ubiquity
of sexual immorality through the positive stereotyping
of same -
sex attraction and agnosticism, to the negative stereo - typing
of Christians.
So then if we prove that there is a genetic reason why people are born with
same sex attraction, it would not be sinful... just the result
of our fallen state?
This is an important point, for, while we have often taught what is wrong with homosexuality, why it is a disorder and that «gay
sex» is always morally wrong - we have been less effective at proposing the whole, positive vision
of sex and love, and also what paths to fulfilment are open to people who experience
same -
sex attraction.
As he says: «Never before has the need been so great for the people
of God to provide spiritual and truly fraternal support for persons who experience differing degrees
of same -
sex attraction or gender uncertainty.»
«Since that time
of self - discovery,» he says, «I have struggled week in and week out to know how to live faithfully as a Christian who experiences
same -
sex attraction.»
The loneliness and lack
of male confidence from the adolescent stage
of life that lead to
same -
sex attractions to teen - age males can be resolved with no further homosexual acting - out behaviours in highly motivated persons.»
However, he makes a mistake in framing the question
of the psychological status
of same -
sex attraction in terms
of its correlation with psychological adjustment or maladjustment.
A deeply rooted human condition characterized by stable
same -
sex attraction exists and demands a reasoned, truthful, and compassionate response, the type
of response
of which at times the Christian Church has been in short supply.
I was delighted to find in the March / April 2013 edition
of Faith magazine James Parker's article «Chastity and
Same - Sex Attraction», which highlights the support available for those who endure same - sex attract
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Sexual orientation has been the focal point for quite some time for special attention in law to overcome disadvantage (real or alleged) for those with
attraction to persons
of the
same sex; and now, increasingly those who wish to change
sex or dress as a person
of the opposite
sex.
Wesley Hill's book will do much to increase people's understanding
of how
same -
sex attraction affects a human being - surely a necessary pre-condition to addressing it and to providing assistance and hope.
Some persons experience sexual desire and
attraction only or primarily to persons
of the
same sex; whatever they are, they are not heterosexual.
James Parker's article was immensely instructive, challenging the mindset
of many who wrongly stereotype those who experience
same -
sex attraction — an encouraging recognition
of their very rightful place among the faithful.
Of course, God can change people... but several Christians I know who experience
same -
sex attraction have followed the Lord for many years (in some cases, their whole life) without losing these
attractions.
At the
same time, and as the NRB rightly notes, there are undoubtedly in the priesthood many men afflicted by
same -
sex attractions who are nonetheless good and faithful priests living lives
of chaste celibacy.
about people who experience
same -
sex attraction trying to live a Christian life, this fuller exposition
of his thought on the new ideologies presented a fascinating look into the way in which colonialism — discredited by liberals and to lesser extent many conservatives as well — has gone away from the actual military and political rule seen in previous centuries, to a stealthier and subtler form
of the exertion
of foreign power.
The chaplain gave Chris solid if general spiritual advice — regular prayer, reception
of the sacraments, and a life
of charity — but he wasn't sure how to tailor it to a young Christian experiencing
same -
sex attractions.
He works with the group Living Out which looks to support Christians who experience
same sex attraction and says the Bible is very clear on the issue
of homosexuality.
Rather the conference was about the possibility
of leading transformed lives, not enslaved to
same -
sex attractions or any other desires to do what God expressly forbids.
Over the course
of many phone calls and emails, he shared with me his reflections on what he thought had created his problem
of same -
sex attractions.
In a statement, it outlined its issue with Bishop Alan: «The continued failure to admonish the Bishop
of Buckingham, despite his refusal to uphold the teaching
of the Church and guidance
of the House on matters
of sexuality, whilst also allowing him, without criticism, repeatedly to describe Conservative Evangelicals as homophobic, including those who themselves experience
same -
sex attraction but seek to live celibate, God - honouring lives.»
We believe in the right
of self - determination on the part
of clients, including their right to seek therapeutic help for management
of same -
sex attractions.
(The number
of Christian counselors who tried to convince Justin that his
same -
sex attraction was his parents» «fault» is one
of the most sickening, heartbreaking parts
of this story.)
Voices
of the Silenced tells the stories
of people who claim to have moved away from
same sex attraction.
«Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual
attraction toward persons
of the
same sex... Tradition has always declared that «homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered.»
Such actions on the part
of God should give us moderns pause when we reason about «nature» in the
same -
sex attraction debates.
We thought
of it as a marriage between a man and woman as God intended, accomplished through his grace even in the midst
of my «
same -
sex»
attraction.
This left him with three options, as he saw it: the first was to hide his
same -
sex attraction and marry a woman in spite
of his lack
of attraction to her, which he felt would be unfair to both himself and the woman in such a relationship; the second was to pursue a relationship with another guy, which he had trouble reconciling with what he'd been taught regarding the Bible's teachings on homosexuality; and the third option was to remain celibate, which left Justin with the prospect
of being alone for the rest
of his life.
Justin recalls a frustrating conversation with an evangelical leader named Mark who tried to convince Justin that his homosexuality must be the result
of faulty parenting, or some sort
of childhood trauma, because there was no concrete scientific «proof» that biology contributed to
same -
sex attraction.
This often leads to them taking their rightful place alongside the thousands
of others who, week in and week out, stand on our sanctuaries and in our pews and offer their challenging
same -
sex attractions and temptations to the Lord along with everyone else's problems and struggles.
With more parents
of children with
same -
sex attractions wanting support we have begun a system to help them to be in touch with one another.
Never before has the need been so great for the people
of God to provide spiritual and truly fraternal support for persons who experience differing degrees
of same -
sex attraction or gender uncertainty.
«A new attitude within churches
of openness and hospitality, anchored in biblical grace and truth, would be a startling response for individuals or couples with
same -
sex attraction,» it stated.
Livingitout.com includes a series
of short films in which participants speak about living as Christians with
same -
sex attraction, chastity, finding identity...
James Parker, facilitator
of the London Chapter
of EnCourage, gives an insight into the aims, ideals and work
of EnCourage in supporting people who experience
same -
sex attraction.
We must be honest and forthright about the Church's teachings, but this honesty is a manifestation
of an intense love and concern for our brothers and sisters who experience
same -
sex attraction.
At the heart
of the controversy over sexual behavior modification is the idea that
same -
sex attraction is not a permanent and inborn condition but rather an aberration that's often rooted in childhood trauma.
Because our post-Freudian world associates all physical
attraction and interpersonal affection with genital erotic desire, intimate
same -
sex friendship and a chaste appreciation for the beauty
of one's own
sex have become all but impossible to achieve.
Today as never before the Church is equipped to address
same -
sex issues in the first person, to speak
of same -
sex attraction in terms
of «I» rather than «you.»
In October's edition
of Evangelicals Now, the rector
of St Ebbe's Church, Oxford, Vaughan Roberts, gave an interview entitled «A Battle I Face» in which he spoke about his own struggle with unwanted
same -
sex attraction and his decision to be celibate.
Most
of my ministry I have worked with students and on several occasions have had individuals confide in me pastorally about their struggle with
same -
sex attraction.