Not exact matches
But while the U.S. Food and Drug Administration has approved more than two dozen drugs targeting a range
of male sexual matters, pharma has turned a cold shoulder to female dysfunction, despite the prevalence
of conditions like hypoactive sexual
desire disorder, a chronic disinterest in
sex estimated to affect 8 to 14 percent
of American women ages 20 to 49.
Rather, what it appears to imply is that women who maintain a certain level
of comfort and awareness regarding their sexuality and
desires are more likely to know when they truly want to have casual
sex, as opposed to going along with someone who approaches them just because.
The essential feature
of HSDD in women is a lack
of desire for
sex that causes distress.
The hormone is part
of what drives
desire, fantasy, and thoughts about
sex, and even helps provide the energy for
sex in women, says Linda Bradley, MD, vice chair and ob - gyn for the Women's Health Institute at the Cleveland Clinic in Cleveland.
I think what our
sex - crazed culture really wants is what
sex promises: the feeling
of being
desired.
This has rarely been done, as we often confuse our God - given
desire for
sex with our misguided, self - centered feelings
of lust.
Lust and promiscuity are one thing... but being born with an innate
desire to be partnered with someone
of the same
sex is no more sinful than being born with an innate
desire to be partnered with someone
of the opposite
sex.
Like I said, because a woman is the OBJECT
of a man's
desire does not mean that her sexuality is important or necessary to the
sex scene.
«The journey is one
of recognising what I feel:
desires for food,
desires for
sex,
desires for success... there are so many
of them.
The same deconstruction also undermines the notion
of same -
sex desire and same -
sex marriage.
Still, it may be worth pondering that in this brave new world, those who uphold the old and much derided «gender binary» — or, to speak more properly, the ancient understanding that there is a real and normative difference between the
sexes — will be the ones who can actually see some sort
of meaning, however misguided, in things like same -
sex desire and gender dysphoria.
«I found myself convinced
of the position the church has held with almost totally unanimity throughout the ages, that although many people find themselves, through no fault
of their own, to have sexual
desires for members
of their own
sex, this is not something to be affirmed and celebrated, but is a sign that we're broken, in need
of redemption and recreation,» Hill told students.
This concerns the very experience
of love, attraction and erotic
desire; that experience which is sadly more and more becoming the main criterion by which the act
of sex is evaluated.
She had apparently got to the point where she honestly did not know that a child is the natural fruit
of a union between a man and a woman: in her understanding «
sex» is something done for pleasure, according to one's
desires, whether lesbian or homosexual or whatever, and procreation an entirely different matter connected with options presented at various times, possibly involving in - vitro fertilization and test - tubes.
It would imply that celibacy is a repression
of the
desire for
sex, and that this
desire is an urge that needs to be «released».
Some concession is also made now to the effect that having
desire for persons
of the same
sex may not in itself be sinful.
David Oliphant, an archdeacon in the Anglican diocese
of Canberra and Goulburn, has perceptively remarked that those who condemn homosexuals have very little appreciation
of what goes on within the youth who comes to feel the pain and pleasure
of sexual feelings and
desire for comfort from someone
of their own
sex.
We also wish warmly to affirm those sisters and brothers, already in membership with orthodox churches, who — while experiencing same -
sex desires and feelings — nevertheless battle with the rest
of us, in repentance and faith, for a lifestyle that affirms marriage [between a man and woman] and celibacy as the two given norms for sexual expression.
Sex between unmarried adults might be inside that gray area between the ideal and the immoral if, first, no one's marriage is being violated by either party; second, if it is a union of love and caring, not just a union of convenience and desire; third, if sex is shared only after other things have been shared, other things such as time, values, friendship, communication and a sense of deep trust and emotional responsibility; fourth, if it is both loving and discreet, private, shielded from those who would not or could not understand; if it is valued as a bond between the two people involved and between them alone, never violating the sacredness of the exclusive quality of that mome
Sex between unmarried adults might be inside that gray area between the ideal and the immoral if, first, no one's marriage is being violated by either party; second, if it is a union
of love and caring, not just a union
of convenience and
desire; third, if
sex is shared only after other things have been shared, other things such as time, values, friendship, communication and a sense of deep trust and emotional responsibility; fourth, if it is both loving and discreet, private, shielded from those who would not or could not understand; if it is valued as a bond between the two people involved and between them alone, never violating the sacredness of the exclusive quality of that mome
sex is shared only after other things have been shared, other things such as time, values, friendship, communication and a sense
of deep trust and emotional responsibility; fourth, if it is both loving and discreet, private, shielded from those who would not or could not understand; if it is valued as a bond between the two people involved and between them alone, never violating the sacredness
of the exclusive quality
of that moment.
Celibacy is not simply the absence
of sex but a spiritual discipline, by which we learn to place God,
sex, and Christian community in the right perspective and understand the value
of controlling sexual
desires.
Some persons experience sexual
desire and attraction only or primarily to persons
of the same
sex; whatever they are, they are not heterosexual.
Holloway follows the traditional notion
of the «remedy for concupiscence», saying that it is permitted to seek
sex «for the tempering
of disordered natural
desire», [7] «in remedium concupiscentiae», as long as this is done in such a way as not to thwart the primary end
of the act.
The position
of those who would affirm sax -
sex relationships in the church are not putting a heavier reliance on «feeling» than others, and are not denying that there are «carnal»
desires of all sorts which may gain an unhealthy control over any
of us.
Though I am encouraged that Hill sees potential hazards in the use
of terms like «gay Christian» and «homosexual Christian,» he, along with Gonnerman and Tushnet, may not sufficiently recognize the problems with describing or defining a person in terms
of his or her affective
desire for the same
sex (whether that
desire is relational, romantic, or sexual), in place
of the clear definition
of our sexual identity revealed to us by Scripture and the Church.
Learning to read the nonverbal language is a part
of the enjoyment
of married
sex — for example, recognizing the signals
of heightened
desire in one's mate or, during intercourse, when the other is ready for consummating that experience
of loving passion.
And it fails to interrogate and thereby complicate same -
sex desire in its rush to accept it as part and parcel
of God's good creation.
Sex provides the crucial case
of desire at odds with devotion.
Rather the conference was about the possibility
of leading transformed lives, not enslaved to same -
sex attractions or any other
desires to do what God expressly forbids.
All
of these considerations do not change the fact that for a long time American society has been organized around the image
of the successful white Anglo - Saxon man, nor assuage the bitterness
of those excluded from the central rewards
of the society because
of the fact
of sex or race or age.22 Plato long ago pointed out that the tyrant who can gratify every whim is the greatest slave
of all, because he is completely at the mercy
of his own
desires, but he did not mean that argument as an excuse for tyrants.
Planned Parenthood promises its customers a highly
desired but improbable package - inexpensive freedom, safe
sex and personal autonomy - which, upon failure, produces substantial revenue and abortions 90 - plus percent
of the time.
«Heterosexuality» only dethrones Jesus as the norm if we think that Jesus» life and ministry somehow subvert the normative (creation) order
of opposite -
sex sexual
desires, even if we do not use the language
of «orientation» to describe those
desires.
Matthew Lee Anderson is certainly right that «the singleness
of Jesus does not put same -
sex desires and opposite -
sex desires on the same moral plane,» and I am terribly sorry if I seemed to imply otherwise!
Now for the hokum: his claim that there are no persisting internal
desires in the vast majority
of men and women that are properly ordered toward others
of the opposite
sex.
The singleness
of Jesus does not put same -
sex desires and opposite -
sex desires on the same moral plane.
Sex is a
desire common to most so it is this
desire which is easy to use for purpose to example
of inability to control
desire once embraced.
And it seems that for a small minority
of men and women there are persisting but disordered sexual
desires for the same
sex.
Most say that premarital
sex between consenting adults is a normal expression
of natural
desires.
But just as in the realm
of sex there may be people who evidently can not satisfy themselves, as in the realm
of food there are gluttons, so in human relations some people seem to have an insatiable
desire to use up the time
of their friends until they use up their friends.
Again, a plausible scenario
of the future might well include a picture
of a husband and wife shopping at the local «sperm and egg bank» for the
desired characteristics
of sex, IQ, temperament, and eye and hair color for the new baby they want.
Homosexuality is generally defined in two ways: (1) the manifestation
of sexual
desire toward a member
of one's own
sex, and (2) erotic activity with a member
of one's own
sex.
It is commonly accepted that a person will continue to experience
desire and even occasionally lapse into same -
sex behavior as part
of the overall conversion process.
The definitional slicing and dicing, the claim that the instruction means by «maturity» that one is happy being gay, rather than that, as it explicitly says, deep - seated same -
sex desire is evidence
of an «unfinished adolescence» — it is all evasion and mendacity.
Much has been written about the widely publicized sexual scandals
of prominent ex-gays, but in the ex-gay movement it is far more scandalous to abandon Jesus than to yield to same -
sex desire.
Those who are sharply critical
of the instruction are slicing and dicing definitions
of «transitory» and «deep - seated» same -
sex desires, and disingenuously claiming to be puzzled by what on earth the instruction can mean by «gay culture.»
His view on
sex is that it should be all about his wants and
desires, and that the prize
of him, his swanky pad and his helicopter is adequate compensation.
It's not to do with human nature per se; it's to do with sin: envy, jealousy, possessiveness, quarrelling, a lack
of willingness to forgive and forget, infidelity, manipulation, the
desire to control and dominate, lack
of consideration in matters to do with running a home as well as in the bedroom (
sex can be one
of the highest expressions
of love between a man and a woman; it can also be incredibly selfish); hearts that are consistently closed to new life.
This view
of sex is pervasive, as many go to extraordinary lengths to fulfill their sexual
desires, even when it's not good for them physically, spiritually, mentally or emotionally.
Usually such
desires were for those
of the opposite
sex, but even that line was blurry, because as it turned out, once the generative purpose
of sex had been severed, it often mattered very little who the heterosexual's mutual masturbatory partner was.
Because our post-Freudian world associates all physical attraction and interpersonal affection with genital erotic
desire, intimate same -
sex friendship and a chaste appreciation for the beauty
of one's own
sex have become all but impossible to achieve.
On this novel account, same -
sex sex acts were wrong not because they spurn the rational - animal purpose
of sex — namely the family — but rather because the
desire for these actions allegedly arises from a distasteful psychological disorder.