The act
of spanking children is to strik children's bottom with your open hand is known as spanking, and can actually be considered a form of corporal punishment.
Instead
of spanking a child for misbehavior, reward him for good behavior.
I think there's a difference between spanking and «harsh» spankings that induce fear in a child... The idea
of spanking a child is that by doing it they won't repeat bad behavior... if a parent has gotten to a point where they find themselves spanking more often than not for the SAME action then it's time to find something else.
Many otherwise loving parents, including my own, have spanked their children, and plenty
of spanked children, including me, have come out the other side more or less intact.
I was horrified to discover the [2010] media attention given to the findings of Prof. Marjorie Gunnoe's small, twice - rejected - by - peer - reviewed - journals, study on the positive value
of spanking children.
It also appears that the effects
of spanking children depend on parenting style.
Not exact matches
Psychologists suggest that the fear
of selling is much like that
of a
child getting a
spanking.
I'm always frustrated by the conflation
of «
spanking» with the idea
of discipline as if there is no other way to parent a
child than hitting them.
The sermon itself is filled with exhortations to «discipline» your
children — and he makes it clear that this is obviously
spanking or some form
of corporal punishment.
In the fundamentalist church
of my childhood, parents
spanked their
children until the «will was broken.»
They also are inclined to
spank their
children a bit more, though liberal Protestant men do their fair share
of that as well, especially if they are regular church attenders.
This is a record
of a
child, odd and difficult from birth, in the grip
of senseless obsessions, controlling the family with rigid rules and prohibitions, tearing through the house as fast and destructive as a tornado, grunting instead
of talking, unresponsive to his parents» loving concern, their urging, coaxing, their vain attempts at discipline, their anger and
spanking.
Is a parent a monster for having a
child when the parent knows that the
child will not be perfect and will have to be taught and disciplined (perhaps with the violence
of a
spanking).
On the bottom
of the spiritual food chain are the
children, who are told to submit to their fathers in the annual Father's Day sermon, in Sunday School, in Care Group, in the home during «corrections» (
spankings).
But it is comforting to realize that the techniques
of child - raising once thought to be crucial — breast or bottle feeding, time
of weaning or toilet training,
spanking or not
spanking — are insufficient criteria for explaining behavioral and emotional reactions
of children.
I am sorry if men
of God had their inner
child spanked.
Not only b / c it glorifies
spanking, but because
of the judgment in blatantly makes about parents who DO N'T
spank their
children.
do the
children of parents who use controlled
spanking accept their punishment and offer up their hand or rear to be swatted?
IE
spank the
child and go to prison instead
of not
spanking and having the
child go to prison.
I sometimes wonder who the
child is in that moment... me or one
of them... I have yet to
spank.
A new study
of 2,500 white, Mexican American and black
children from low - income families suggests that early
spankings make for aggressive toddlers.
Humiliations,
spankings and beatings, slaps in the face, betrayal, sexual exploitation, derision, neglect, etc. are all forms
of mistreatment, because they injure the integrity and dignity
of a
child, even if their consequences are not visible right away.
I think, however, that if we are raising our
children with empathy from the very beginning, starting with birth, we are less likely to get to the point
of no return and have to resort to
spanking.
I think that
children who are
spanked are more likely to grow up into adults that
spank because
of the argument, «I got
spanked and I turned out OK.»
I have
spanked my two
children a handful
of times.
(Speaking
of nonviolent parenting, I found it interesting to learn that in Sweden it is against the law to
spank a
child.)
A few commenters on the Strollerderby post, They Say:
Spanking Makes Your Kid Mean, a Bit Dumb, question how scientific this study was and if other variables could have played a role in the aggressiveness
of the
children.
In Denmark it's against the law to
spank your
children even in the privacy
of your own home.
I, like Megan, also am saddened when I see
spanking being likened to abusive parenting — there are many who
spank their
children as Megan said, as a thoughtful, controlled part
of their parenting, making sure the
child knows why they are being
spanked, and making sure the parent is calm and collected.
I don't think a young
child is able to distinguish that «
spanking» is trying to teach him or her a lesson, even if it's done with love on the part
of the parent.
I'm talking instead about a select group
of Christians who believe that
spanking is biblical, and it's necessary to raise godly
children, whatever that means.
In my opinion, substituting
spanking with time outs etc might save your
child some pain, but won't necessarily make for a whole lot
of improvement.
Half
of moms would use yelling first to scold their
child; 36 percent say they'd use
spanking; and 32 percent say they'd use a time - out.
What causes 65 - 75 %
of parents to
spank their
children?
American parents hate to
spank their
children, but most
of them still do it.
Other mothers simply feel that
spanking isn't effective: «I don't plan on using
spanking — I think it teaches
children to «behave» out
of fear, not because they've learned right from wrong.»
Adds another, «If you
spank your
child out
of anger, you run the risk
of hurting your
child.»
Spanking children even once can shake the entire foundation
of trust you have created.
A form
of bullying,
spanking sends the message that violence helps you get people to do what you want, and may lead
children to unwanted situations as they grow older.
When you
spank your
child, he suddenly becomes fearful
of you.
Spanking is a form
of punishment, not humiliation, and should not be done at the restaurant, store, or in view
of the
child's other siblings.
Of course, I had heard times that parents shouldn't
spank their
children.
And for every proponent
of spanking out there, there are even more who feel
children should be punished to learn respect and listen better.
One
of the main problems with
spanking is that it doesn't teach your
child better behavior.
The post stated that
spanking leads to a
child learning respect and boundaries with the absence
of any trust issues and hatred toward the parent, and so on and so forth.
As in anti-tobacco efforts, anti-corporal punishment activists have started squeezing
spanking from the public sphere, shrinking the number
of places where it is acceptable to swat a
child.
Although the American Academy
of Pediatrics strongly discourages
spanking, at least half
of parents admit to physically punishing their
children.
Spanking: Parenthood's Dirty Little (and Common) Secret This week a study was released saying when children are disciplined using harsh physical punishment like spanking, they are at higher risk of depression, anxiety, substance abuse, and other mental health problems - even if they aren't otherwise abused or mal
Spanking: Parenthood's Dirty Little (and Common) Secret This week a study was released saying when
children are disciplined using harsh physical punishment like
spanking, they are at higher risk of depression, anxiety, substance abuse, and other mental health problems - even if they aren't otherwise abused or mal
spanking, they are at higher risk
of depression, anxiety, substance abuse, and other mental health problems - even if they aren't otherwise abused or maltreated.
By defining «physical injury» to include the infliction
of pain on a
child,
spanking has become a crime in Delaware punishable by imprisonment.
It's so important to find like - minded parents who can offer their «been there, done that» stories, emotional scaffolding, and specific suggestions for when you feel confused as to what to do about your
child's behavior, or when you question whether this new thing you're trying, like positive discipline instead
of spanking, for example, is going to work out in the long term, or how exactly to keep those family attachment bonds strong as your
children grow, or how to move forward when your family encounters challenging life circumstances.