For those new to the topic, a really good place to start is The Subtle
Power of Spiritual Abuse by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen, a book I wish I could mail to every churchgoer in the world.
As one who has been through the living hell
of spiritual abuse in my old church there is no way I can keep quiet about those who abuse church members.
In spite of the protests I get nearly every day that my focus on abuse in the church is unbalanced and unnecessary because it is so rare, I continue to address it because millions of people are
recipients of spiritual abuse at the hands of their spiritual leaders and their churches.
But the point is that IN THAT CONTEXT Calvinist theology was a much - needed pastoral and communal approach that helped people to break from the shackles of long - established
systems of spiritual abuse by offering a different story to live by and a different kind of community to live in.
It is that I work for the Catholic Church and your blog is one of several I visit to try and understand the
problems of spiritual abuse and clerical narcissism — problems that run pretty deep across every denomination.
That is the end
result of spiritual abuse, and as I've said nearly a half dozen places on this thread, it is inherent in the religion itself.
To those educated in the
dynamics of spiritual abuse, Mars Hill Church has been setting off alarm bells for years, and yet for the many good, godly people involved in the church, the problems went unaddressed until recently.
It's not unusual for us to return over and over to the
scene of our spiritual abuse in order to re-experience and again feel the familiar soothing emotional high,..
I have been dealing with victims
of spiritual abuse for about 10 years now (spouse abuse for many years prior, too, involved in advocacy) and will admit your position is a new one to me.
Once I got on the outside and was able to look at the situation with a critical eye, I realized that I have been the
victim of spiritual abuse for a very long time.
Next month we will look in depth at the
issue of spiritual abuse in the UK and then we will consider appropriate responses and remedies.
A friend of mine who teaches on the collegiate level recently told me, «I don't meet any young adults who've grown up in the church lacking at least one
story of spiritual abuse.»