The American Academy of Pediatrics has a very strong opinion
on spanking children — they are against it:
Not exact matches
The Pearls advocate using switches
on babies and young as six months, and
spanking older
children with belts and plumbing tubes.
On the bottom of the spiritual food chain are the
children, who are told to submit to their fathers in the annual Father's Day sermon, in Sunday School, in Care Group, in the home during «corrections» (
spankings).
Ultimately I believe every parent needs to decide what works best for their
children and their family, but to imply — as the «Likey» did
on Facebook — that if you
spank your
child he / she is not going to go to jail, that just seems ridiculous.
I understand that some people take
spanking way too far and it goes into
child abuse but I have only
spanked my daughter
on the butt when she was wearing a diaper.
A few commenters
on the Strollerderby post, They Say:
Spanking Makes Your Kid Mean, a Bit Dumb, question how scientific this study was and if other variables could have played a role in the aggressiveness of the
children.
Alma also notes that this is certainly not the first time a study has showed the negative effects
spanking has
on a
child.
I don't think a young
child is able to distinguish that «
spanking» is trying to teach him or her a lesson, even if it's done with love
on the part of the parent.
Other mothers simply feel that
spanking isn't effective: «I don't plan
on using
spanking — I think it teaches
children to «behave» out of fear, not because they've learned right from wrong.»
Obviously, the last thing
on a parent's mind when
spanking his
child is the potential for psychological damage, but the possibility is there.
The post stated that
spanking leads to a
child learning respect and boundaries with the absence of any trust issues and hatred toward the parent, and so
on and so forth.
News
on... Observing
Child Abuse Prevention Month,
Spank Out Day
on April 30, National (U.S.) Volunteer Week April 15 - 21, breastfeeding in public opinion, a little sleep, valuing grandparents, and balancing friendship.
By defining «physical injury» to include the infliction of pain
on a
child,
spanking has become a crime in Delaware punishable by imprisonment.
Spare the rod and spoil the
child, I always say,» or even «Come
on, Sis, Mom and Dad
spanked us, and we're fine,» just breathe and picture the face of your Support Group's Leader.
This book differs from Two Thousand Kisses a Day, Whispers Through Time, and The Gentle Parent: Positive, Practical, Effective Discipline in that it takes a Christian approach to parenting as L.R. takes
on big names in the Christian
child - training sect such as Dr. James Dobson, Tedd Tripp, Gary Ezzo, and Michael Pearl, breaking down their doctrine and reexamining such issues as
spanking, instant obedience, submission, free will, and more in light of the original Hebrew and Greek texts of the scriptures.
Lastly, we dive into the controversial subject of
spanking: the pros, cons and long term effects
on children.
While most people (at least publicly) decry the use of
spanking as a form of
child discipline, more people do
spank their kids than they let
on.
Early in my parenting years, I
spanked my oldest
child b / c I believed that she needed to obey me based
on certain verses in Scripture.
Whether or not you overtly oppose any type of
spanking, support it in very limited cases, or like many parents, publicly decry its use but privately have used it at least once
on a defiant or out - of - control
child, the controversy surrounding it isn't likely to end for generations to come.
And, if your parents
spanked you
on occasion but you adamantly oppose it with your
child, don't just assume the
child's grandparents will just know your position.
For example, before entering a room where your
child is supposed to be drawing with crayons
on paper, you could imagine finding your
child drawing
on the wall and run through ideas in your mind of how you could react in a way other than reflexively
spanking.
Many parents, even many of those who are focused
on creating a secure attachment with their
child,
spank as a form of discipline.
On the other hand, the study did find that
children who were fussier at age 1 were more likely to be
spanked and verbally punished, she said.
Kelly goes
on to say that she was
spanked as a
child, and she's fine!
Berlin and colleagues found that
children who were
spanked as 1 - year - olds tended to behave more aggressively at age 2, and did not perform as well as other
children on a test measuring thinking skills at age 3.
Robert Larzelere, associate professor of human development and family science at Oklahoma State University, conducted a meta - analysis of 26 studies
on the subject, and found that, overall,
spanking seemed more effective than 10 of 13 alternative disciplinary methods for getting a
child to behave or do as asked.
A popular
child - training book by Dr. James Dobson, The New Strong - Willed Child, has a markedly different approach to parenting strong - willed children, however: «Some strong - willed children absolutely demand to be spanked, and their wishes should be granted... two or three stinging strokes on the legs or buttocks with a switch are usually sufficient to emphasize the point, «You must obe
child - training book by Dr. James Dobson, The New Strong - Willed
Child, has a markedly different approach to parenting strong - willed children, however: «Some strong - willed children absolutely demand to be spanked, and their wishes should be granted... two or three stinging strokes on the legs or buttocks with a switch are usually sufficient to emphasize the point, «You must obe
Child, has a markedly different approach to parenting strong - willed
children, however: «Some strong - willed
children absolutely demand to be
spanked, and their wishes should be granted... two or three stinging strokes
on the legs or buttocks with a switch are usually sufficient to emphasize the point, «You must obey me.
Even in the face of study after study detailing the detrimental effects of physical punishment
on young
children, more than ninety - percent of American parents still admit to
spanking their toddlers and preschoolers, even if they don't believe that it is a good alternative.
Other preventive effects and harmful effects of
spanking may occur depending
on the
child and the family context.
Further efforts to identify moderators of the effects of
spanking on children's adjustment are necessary.
Mark Brown has posted a video
on YouTube called, Is it ok to
spank your
child?
In other words, I do not believe that parents should inflict traditional punishments such as
spanking, time - outs, groundings, or loss of privileges
on their
children or teenagers.
I was horrified to discover the [2010] media attention given to the findings of Prof. Marjorie Gunnoe's small, twice - rejected - by - peer - reviewed - journals, study
on the positive value of
spanking children.
«Redirecting
Children's Behavior» (Parenting Press, $ 14.95), Kvols» 1979 book, forms the basis of a parenting style based on responding to the underlying reasons for children's misbehavior and encouraging choice and responsibility as alternatives to yelling, spanking and gr
Children's Behavior» (Parenting Press, $ 14.95), Kvols» 1979 book, forms the basis of a parenting style based
on responding to the underlying reasons for
children's misbehavior and encouraging choice and responsibility as alternatives to yelling, spanking and gr
children's misbehavior and encouraging choice and responsibility as alternatives to yelling,
spanking and grounding.
This version of How to Include
Spanking in
Child Discipline was reviewed by Trudi Griffin, LPC
on November 10, 2017.
Objects should never be used to
spank your
child and you should limit
spankings to approximately three to four pats
on the backside.
According to an April 2016 study published in the Journal of Family Psychology, which studied more than 50 years
on data
on 160,000
children,
children who were
spanked are also more likely to exhibit «increased anti-social behavior, aggression, mental health problems and cognitive difficulties that last into adulthood.»
Let's say the blogosphere is abuzz about a research study that shows that sleep - training methods like cry - it - out have no long - term effects
on children or that physically punitive discipline tactics like
spanking result in
children who are better behaved or that birthing without drug pain relief is dangerous.
Similar studies have prompted researchers
on both sides of the
spanking debate to view
spanking of older
children as counterproductive (Lazerlere 2000; Lansford et al 2012).
April 28, 2016 - UPDATE
ON WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU HIT YOUR KIDS: Fifty years of research involving over 160,000
children shows unequivocally that
spanking is not only ineffective as a form of discipline, but is detrimental to the mental health of
children and adults.
The Canadian Paediatric Society, «strongly discourages [original emphasis] the use of physical punishment
on children, including
spanking.»
When Jennifer Lansford and her colleagues tracked a group of
children for more than a decade, they found links between
spanking and aggressive behavior problems, but the effect depended
on how long parents used
spanking as a disciplinary tactic.
As extensive list of his publications can be found
on this page; it includes links to several studies and papers about
spanking children.
Spanking your
child isn't necessarily a never - do, but this is a whole different article
on morals.
More than 50 years of peer - reviewed research
on the subject reveals that
spanking a
child does more harm than good — yes, 50 years of research confirms this reality.
Instead of creating a parent /
child relationship based
on fear and mistrust — as
spanking often does — it is healthier and more effective in the long run to create a relationship based
on trust and respect.
You will be so frustrated at times that you may purposefully hurt your
child with unkind words, a
spank on the bottom or ignoring their demands.
But the latest findings show that
spanking is used
on children who are so young that, in some cases, they haven't even taken their first step.
Previous research has focused
on disciplining
children as young as age 3, in part, because
spanking is common among
children of this age.
With
spanking a public health concern, this approach offers a simple way to reach a large audience to change attitudes and reduce parents» reliance
on corporal punishment, said Holden, who was recently elected president of Dallas» oldest
child abuse prevention agency, Family Compass.