They then need help accessing those
more vulnerable feelings underneath it all and speaking to each other about the deeper emotions at play.
Don't underestimate the destructive power
of vulnerable feelings, body image issues and negative self - talk on your sexual experience.
It really helped us realize the real - world implications for how we read each other's texts, and
how vulnerable we feel when others are interpreting our scriptures in certain ways.
When there are emotional defenses that are stuck, it will be common to have behaviour problems to have to work around until more
vulnerable feelings come back on line.
It's important to understand that anger is often a red herring which covers up more
vulnerable feelings such as embarrassment, sadness, and hopelessness.
I help couples understand, see, and hear their own and their partner's more
vulnerable feelings which underlie the stuck pattern of arguments.
Both partners have to agree to a new beginning and begin to work together to help each other access the softer more
vulnerable feelings hidden underneath the anger and resentment, or the anxiety of fully being oneself.
Responses to tears that are dismissive or devaluing often have more to do with a hardened heart and signal emotional defenses
against vulnerable feelings.
Sharing partner: Check to see how safe and comfortable you feel about opening up and sharing your more
vulnerable feelings around the hurt, including your physical sensations, negative words or phrases you say to yourself around the hurt, and rawer, more vulnerable emotions such as fear, sadness, and shame.
What happens is something will trigger a
primary vulnerable feeling like sadness, hurt, fear, or feeling not good enough or unworthy.
Johnson uses the therapist as a «secure base» and encourages them to build a secure container in which the anxiously or avoidantly attached partner can take the risk of
expressing vulnerable feelings and needs.
While the video is a little silly, hopefully one can see the potential benefits of reframing our reactivity, one's own and one's partners, as being primarily a consequence of our underlying
vulnerable feelings when we feel disconnected from our partner....
Trust me, I remember with both pregnancies
how vulnerable I felt about my looks, because like you I was always pretty in shape and to let go and give into my body growing and changing was pretty emotional for me, as well as not sleeping well, nausea and just being plain hormonal.
When I could let the acceptance and love of my spouse into my heart and could be
more vulnerable I felt like I came out of the darkness of sadness and hurt and into the lightness of love and acceptance.
The more scared and
vulnerable you feel, the more others will resonate with you.
(Trying to go under the anger to the more
vulnerable feelings that drive it.)
A deeper attachment was the answer to ensuring a healthy alarm system and preserving my children's ability to experience all of
their vulnerable feelings, so they could develop meaningful and deep relationships as well as develop their individuality and the traits that characterize maturity.
When children can express
their vulnerable feelings to a parent and see over time that they can have independent relationships with both parents, they can recover and grow through this experience.
These are
vulnerable feelings that need to come out if the child is to recover from this loss and continue to develop in a healthy way.
We need to normalize our children's worries and fears and help them express
these vulnerable feelings.
I'm learned that I'm clearly not alone in quickly getting over
the vulnerable feelings of early motherhood.
The awkward,
vulnerable feeling of flying has been toned down considerably, which is a bit of a loss since subtle animation touches made flying with a jetpack seem as scary as it really would be.
Very uncomfortable and
vulnerable feeling.
Not only did the justice know the law, they understood how
the vulnerable felt and spoke up for those marginalized.
Can you try to express those softer, more
vulnerable feelings, and the relationship needs behind them, to your spouse when you go back?
In a single session, she helps them conceptualize their conflicts in attachment terms, gain an understanding of their negative cycle and begin to reveal some of
the vulnerable feelings that underlie their explosive anger.
Dr. Hick is passionate about her work and feels honored to be a part of each client's journey, knowing how hard and
vulnerable it feels to take the first step to get help.
And then we help them to find and share their more
vulnerable feelings, creating a positive and affirming cycle...