Asked about people who might not wish to marry because of their beliefs, including those who saw marriage as oppressive to women and born out of a patriarchal system, she told the committee she did not see why it would
oppress women any more than men.
5 Most
men, despite lip - service to equality, are reluctant to give up this «natural» order of things in which their advantages are so great; for
women, the case is further complicated by the fact that, as Mill astutely pointed out, unlike other
oppressed groups or castes,
men demand of her not only submission but unqualified affection as well; thus
women are often weakened by the internalized demands of the male - dominated society itself, as well as by a plethora of material goods and comforts: the middle - class
woman has a great deal
more to lose
than her chains.