There are at least two strategies for dealing with this attachment insecurity: (a) become preoccupied with relational partners by being
overly sensitive to partner's
emotional moves and developing a sustained expectation that partner's will eventually betray or abandon them (i.e., attachment anxiety), and / or (b) avoid developing relationships of any significant
emotional depth to avoid getting hurt in the first
place, which often leads insecurely attached individuals to become emotionally aloof,
overly fixated with self - reliance, and emotionally unavailable to others in times of need (i.e., attachment avoidance).