Marcia, How do recommend an AP parent to successfully negotiate big disagreements with
their partner about parenting style?
Not exact matches
Here's one major challenge to motherhood that no one likes to talk
about: What exactly are you supposed to do after the birth of your first kid if you and your
partner realize you have completely different
parenting styles?
To determine your own unique
parenting styles, Parrott suggests talking with your
partner about the qualities you appreciated and admired in your own
parents, and what you wish your
parents had done differently.
Women who initially felt that their
partner shared their
parenting style (meaning they felt they were pretty much on the same page
about childcare values, philosophy and practices) were both more satisfied with their relationship and less likely to be depressed at the second assessment than were the other new moms.
Where relevant, the Child on Mother's
Partner Questionnaire for the Child Cohort recorded information
about the mother's
partner's encouragement of the child's performance at school, the mother's
partner — child relationship and
parenting style.
Or, maybe you have concerns
about differences in personal values, sexual compatibility,
parenting styles, household roles, spirituality, finances or familial expectations and you wish to resolve this with your
partner before it becomes an issue.
It is important to talk to your
partner about your concerns and the differences in your
parenting styles.