«If
your partner feels hurt by you, misunderstood by you, or otherwise is upset with you, it would be wise to provide quick relief as your first response,» says Tatkin.
This negative pattern can easily develop once
partners feel hurt or invalidated in small ways and therefore begin to pull away emotionally to protect themselves.
All close relationships have difficult moments, times when
partners feel hurt, disappointed, or frustrated with one another.
One or
both partners feels hurt and blames the other.
Your partner feels hurt and defensive and gets quiet, becoming even more distant.
Not exact matches
I couldn't agree more with Norm Brodsky's column about Brian Kelly's reluctance to
hurt his business
partner's
feelings [Street Smarts, December].
But we
feel like if a person in a commercial gym uses a Peloton bike and then purchases it for their house it might
hurt the gym
partner.
In the other marriage the
partners fought frequently and vented the
feelings that lingered from their distressing childhoods yet were careful not to physically
hurt or lose their loving concern for each other.
They initially shared board members, but AiG - Australia suffered a hilariously acrimonious schism from its now much larger
partner in 2005 [1] culminating in accusations of witchcraft and
hurt feelings all round.
Many men
feel as if they need to «fix» the problem and protect their
partners from
hurt and pain.
If you see your
partner flirt with someone else, you may
feel hurt, angry, and jealous.
Emotionally charged discussions can turn ugly in a heartbeat, and reassuring your
partner of his or her best qualities can buffer any
hurt feelings that might start to arise in either of you.
Just because you
feel your emotions so intensely doesn't mean your
partner knows you're
hurt.
For example, if your
partner is harsh with you, you might want to say, «I
feel hurt inside when you use that harsh tone of voice, and I'd like to understand the good reasons you have for speaking to me like that.»
Dieting is a sensitive subject for many people and you don't want to accidentally
hurt your
partner's
feelings.
After all, kids look to their parents as a guide for how they react to situations: if they see you tense and stressed about a
partner they will pick up similar
feelings towards them and even resent them for
hurting Mum or Dad.
Consider talking to your
partner about these
feelings of mistrust — if they're worthy of you, they won't be bothered by a few irrational fears, especially if they know those
feelings are simply a nasty by - product of being
hurt in the past.
In interracial dating you should not share few things with your
partner because in some situation it would
hurt their
feeling.
Let them know that if a dating
partner ever makes them
feel uneasy, humiliated, or
hurt, it's OK to talk to you.
According to the survey, it seems singles aren't always forthcoming when it came to telling their
partners the rationale behind their decision; though 70 % of singles said you should be completely honest to your
partner (even if it means
hurting their
feelings), 56 % of singles admitted to being dishonest during previous break up conversations.
-LCB- i.e.
feel hurt when you spot a past casual
partner wooing another or
feel betrayed if your playmate spoke to, or about, another woman -RCB-
Instead of thinking your
partner should alleviate your pain, anger, or
hurt feelings, you take responsibility for your
feelings and find healthy ways of dealing with them and healing yourself.
You don't want to
hurt anyone's
feelings but you need to make decisions you
feel are right for you, your family and your new
partner.
Instead, let your
partner know that your
feelings have been
hurt and that your
partner needs to offer an immediate apology.
They don't want to be the ones to
hurt another
partner's
feelings.
To protect happy hour (sorry I missed your call at 6; I was at my daughter's recital); To avoid
hurt feelings (sure, those clothes are okay for court); to avoid recriminations (the jury foreman obviously hated you for some reason); to calm fears (the workhouse is not as bad as you've heard); to secure a client (of course you should divorce her, and the kids will be just fine); for career advancement (I'm soooo lucky to work for a brilliant
partner like you); to grow one's reputation (I love that tie, your honor); to close a deal (no way would they ever sue over this); to get paid (yes, I will go after your 401 (k) if you don't pay my $ 1,500 fee)...
Michael Margolis, the UX research
partner at Google Ventures, describes the interview process as being centered on making the user
feel at home and at no risk of «
hurting your
feelings.»
Criticism is essentially an unnecessary verbal attack: Compared to constructive advice or a critique, criticism is meant to make your
partner feel small,
hurt and rejected.
The fact that someone gets frustrated,
hurt or angry in a relationship is actually a testimony to how important their
partner is for them and how much they are longing to
feel loved, accepted and secure with their
partner.
«Instead of assuming your
partner is fine with something, learn how to read more subtle cues that your
partner just
felt hurt, criticized or upset,» he said.
Love means risking occasionally getting your
feelings hurt; it's a price you have to pay for intimacy because you and your
partner are being vulnerable with each other.
By being up front, you can decrease the
hurt your
partner may
feel from the disconnect, and allow them to understand what it is you need.
The betraying
partner can see how hard it is for the
hurting spouse to control the
feelings and compassion may ensue.
You were born this way and while you may try to be «like everyone else» you are keenly aware and highly reactive when your
partner hurts your
feelings or misunderstands you.
Perhaps you have tried to prevent discussions from spiraling out of control with your
partner, but only end up
feeling hurt, misunderstood and frustrated.
At some point, however, you will experience
feelings of
hurt, anger or disappointment in varying degrees about something your
partner has done or said.
How many times have you had that talk, the one where your
partner hurts your
feelings, you retreat.
At times, the
hurt feelings are too deep to handle with your own mind; but the reassurance of God's teaching on forgiveness, you have the grace and mercy to forgive your
partner.
«Both
partners can develop
hurt feelings, resentment can build, and the resulting arguments and struggles can actually destroy the connection that holds a marriage together.»
Learn how to communicate your wants, needs and desires without being afraid of
hurting your
partners feelings.
Stop yourself whenever you
feel like you might say or do something that will
hurt your
partner.
Your
partner will no doubt
feel betrayed and
hurt.
Journal writing helps both
partners work through
feelings without
hurting the other.
Or, if you are the wounded spouse and your unfaithful
partner unintentionally keeps on
hurting you in their attempts to make you
feel better, put this article in their hands.
Sex addicts might be acting out because they themselves have been
hurt mentally by a spouse or
partner or were sexually abused and
feel that by acting in this way they have control over this problem.
Remember, it is inevitable that you and your
partner will step on each other's toes and
hurt each other's
feelings from time to time.
Are you and your spouse currently in a situation that one of you
feels hurt and wounded but the other
partner hasn't been able to connect or be attuned to the pain?
Provide a method for helping the high desire spouse share
feelings of
hurt and rejection while guiding the low - desire spouse to empathically listen to the deeper needs of their
partner
Even if your
partner may bring up an issue in an accusatory way, realize that underneath the anger, your
partner likely
feels hurt, rejected, or wounded in some way.
For example, if you can acknowledge that you tend to poke and criticize when things aren't
feeling good and you know that
hurts your
partner, this will most likely soften them towards you.