This self love is sin.God never forced chaos on us.we gave in to satan's lies about evil being an inherent necessity.Jesus said he was the way, the truth and life.He was the life (love) that everyone
craves for, he is the truth which meant that his love was our only need and he exposed the lies of satan that we could attain bliss on subordinating people to our cravings.Sinning people don't accept a God who requires us to renounce ourselves because they are not convinced of God's love being enough
for them and they are afraid to destroy their identity and live
for the Glory of God.So, upon death, these souls realize that the
physical world was just a shadow of God's love (the nature,
food etc) and their own lies (violence, self love etc) and realize that love is their only need.They pursue it from other soul beings but are hurt that there's only hate and self love.They are afraid to approach the light because they don't want to renounce their identity as they have not recognized God's love before.
Wansink explains that when we deprive ourselves of
foods our bodies are designed to
crave, we can usually only do so
for a short time before the
physical deprivation becomes a psychological deprivation.