In the Elmira demonstration, intervention mothers were less likely to punish or
physically restrain their
children than mothers in the control group.62 Among
home - visited families who participated in Early Start, less punitive parenting was observed, though the effect was modest.63 Several other programs
have identified reductions in the frequency with which mothers spanked their
children at thirty - six months, including Healthy Families San Diego, 64 Early Head Start, 65 and IHDP.66 No effects on harsh parenting were found in the CCDP.67
Some indications that your spouse, partner, husband or wife
has gone too far include: getting angry
at you when you disagree; punching holes in walls; throwing objects (aimed
at nothing or
at you); destroying belongings; threatening to hurt you or leave you for the purpose of intimidating you;
physically preventing you from leaving
home; putting pressure on you not to work when you want to; insulting or ridiculing you; becoming jealous of your friends, activities, or hobbies; making you account for your whereabouts
at all times; using promises and lies to manipulate you or to get you to forgive their angry or threatening behavior; isolating you from friends or family; making you ask permission to go out or make a career move; and threatening to harm your possessions, pets, or
children.