In the other marriage the
partners fought frequently and vented the feelings that lingered from their distressing childhoods yet were careful not to
physically hurt or lose their loving concern for each other.
Some indications that your spouse,
partner, husband or wife has gone too far include: getting angry at you when you disagree; punching holes in walls; throwing objects (aimed at nothing or at you); destroying belongings; threatening to
hurt you or leave you for the purpose of intimidating you;
physically preventing you from leaving home; putting pressure on you not to work when you want to; insulting or ridiculing you; becoming jealous of your friends, activities, or hobbies; making you account for your whereabouts at all times; using promises and lies to manipulate you or to get you to forgive their angry or threatening behavior; isolating you from friends or family; making you ask permission to go out or make a career move; and threatening to harm your possessions, pets, or children.