• want to protect everything — children, relationships, money, time and privacy • tend to be intelligent and educated, and have a higher than average emotional IQ • want a divorce that is «tailor - made»
for their circumstances, not an «off - the - rack,» ill -
fitting form used by
everyone (and
fitting no one very well) • want results more than revenge • want to be participants — not victims — in the dissolution of the marriage • want to assure themselves that nothing happens unless they agree to it • want control over the scheduling of events of divorce • want to retain some dignity through the process of divorce • want to end the relationship as positively as
possible • see the big picture