While there are fathers who do not maintain their connection and investment in their children's lives, as Prof. Weldon discusses, there are many fathers who wish for, and fight for, more time with their children, and fight to have an equal and active parenting role in
the post-divorce lives of their children.
Not exact matches
In addition, when
children witness high levels
of long - term conflict between their parents, the exposure to that stress is often far worse for the kids than adjusting to
life post-divorce.
Also, application
of this principle in regard to
post-divorce parenting means that a different standard is applied to
children of divorce than to all other
children in regard to removal
of a parent from their
lives... a form
of discrimination based on parental status.
Again, the irony
of your
post-divorce life is that you want to have the best relationship possible with your
child's other parent.
a) the
children of the former family unit were denied their right to family
life (which, for
post-divorce children, equates to maintaining a frequent, regular and meaningful relationship with both
of their parents)
Wallerstein: The quality
of the
child's relationship to a nurturing parent has been established to be among the best predictors
of their thriving and their ability to recover from marital conflict or parental psychopathology (Furstenburg Cherlin 1991, Johnston and Kline) Furthermore,
children's
post-divorce adjustment is tied to the overall quality
of life in the custodial home including the creation
of a nurturing, protective milieu.
Although parents are cautioned not to involve their
children in the actual formulation
of a parenting plan, if the parents and
children are in accord about
post-divorce living arrangements, it's likely the court will approve it.
Many
of my clients choose collaborative divorce as the means by which they dissolve their marriage and move into their
post-divorce lives — especially if they have
children together and want to maintain as positive a co-parenting relationship as possible once they are divorced.
Most importantly even though they are now
living in two separate houses, a
post-divorce family is still a family, one that has changed its configuration and established two secure bases, one maternal and one paternal, which then form the nuclei
of the family for the
children.
So many things could possibly happen in the
life of your
child post-divorce, so it is important to consider what could happen and plan ahead.
In actuality, the research strongly suggests that by not talking with
children about the separation,
children feel that they have little to no opportunity to ask questions, that their voices don't matter, that parents impose ideas
of how
life should look
post-divorce on them without regard for their input.
A divorce lawyer can fully explain all the options available to you, recommend counselors, answer all
of your questions, and address any concerns you may have about the divorce process,
child custody and support, or any other aspect
of your
life post-divorce.
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