People
raised with shame and secrecy in closed adoptions sometimes find it difficult to imagine the alternative of open adoption.
Especially for those who were
raised themselves with a shame - based parenting approach, becoming stagnant in personal growth can cause regression back to the parenting behaviors they were raised with.
Not exact matches
Also, our journey has taught us how to appreciate and honor children and their needs so that we can
raise them without
shame and
with respect and dignity.
In conclusion, I do find it interesting that those who are
raising concerns about all that happened and is happening are doing so unafraid in the public forum of my post
with a lot of emotion and intelligence, while those who are trying to silence the discussion or at least control it are contacting me privately outside of the public forum
with words that attempt to direct, intimidate or
shame me.
Single mothers likely know the struggle of
raising a child alone; there's no need to remind them
with a condescending glance or sermon meant to induce
shame.
The funny thing, however, is just how well I've survived the last few weeks» ordeal (and yes, I'm
raising the hyperbole bar and using the word «ordeal»
with no
shame whatsoever).
Actually, what we parents fear is inadvertently
raising our children
with an identity shaped by
shame.
Mercedes has been working
with families for several years, helping them to achieve results in developing dynamic parent / child relationships, ending the
shame around parenting and giving parents the confidence to
raise healthy children in today's world.
With judgemental stares, off - hand comments, and outright intervention, our society
shames parents, who are simply trying their best to
raise children.
There is not a perfect formula, and if we all look at each other
with a lot more love and support and less
shame, we would all
raise happier kids.»
Chua's book was a somewhat tongue - in - cheek memoir of her experiences
raising her two daughters
with her (non-Asian) husband, which involved hours of forced music practice every day, severe restrictions on extracurriculars, outright bans on social activities like sleepovers, and punishment and
shaming on the rare occasions her children failed to attain their mother's high expectations.
Standing against the oppression of others is part of my passion for people, so I have
raised my voice to express concern and even outrage when I have seen supposed breastfeeding advocates resort to
shaming in general and specifically
with this same offender.
We're
raised with a lot of
shame, fear, and guilt around sexuality, which makes it difficult to talk about.
Human Rights Watch report3 notes that while its research hasn't found «a pattern of abuse that could be considered systematic» the rights body «findings
raises serious concerns about abuses by AMISOM4 soldiers against Somali women and girls»
with survivors of sexual exploitation expressing feelings of «powerless» to fearing «retaliation or retribution, as well as the stigma and
shame that the abuse could bring» and others, despite being engaged in exploitive relationships feared loosing «their only source of income» (HRW, 2014, September, p. 25).
It prompted us to
raise the stakes for standardized tests in an effort to compete
with other world powers, and as a result, it planted the seeds for a culture of fear and
shame that is ubiquitous in schools across the country.
Incidentally, it's because a military Mounted Police were actually
raised in Australia, in Sydney in 1825, that makes it absolutely legitimate for the Australian War Memorial to present the story of Frontier Conflict, something that, to its
shame, the War Memorial has consistently declined to do, even though it is now virtually universally accepted that Australia's experience of conflict begins
with the Frontier Wars.
Mercedes Samudio, LCSW, is a parent coach who has been working
with families for years helping them achieve results in developing dynamic parent / child relationships, ending the
shame around parenting and giving parents the confidence to
raise healthy children in today's world.
She is a parent coach who has been working
with families for years helping them achieve results in developing dynamic parent / child relationships, ending the
shame around parenting, and giving parents the confidence to
raise healthy children in today's world.
Parents
raising children
with RAD are, sadly, often dismissed and
shamed by friends, family, and professionals rather than supported.
Healing toxic
shame from childhood takes working
with a skilled therapist; however,
shame can be diminished, self - esteem
raised, and attachment style changed by altering the way you interact
with yourself and others.
According to author and
shame researcher Brené Brown, children who are
raised in a
shaming environment are more likely to struggle
with things like addiction, depression, violence, bullying, eating disorders, and aggression.
Her books include Conquering
Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You and Codependency for Dummies and seven ebooks, including: 10 Steps to Self - Esteem, How To Speak Your Mind - Become Assertive and Set Limits, and Dealing
with a Narcissist: 8 Steps to
Raise Self - Esteem and Set Boundaries
with Difficult People.