A good way to start this process is by writing down
reflections about family history, upbringing, and interpersonal relationship styles and how one's experience may differ from the experience of a person raised in a different culture.
In these eloquent and surprising essays, twenty writers face this fact, among them Geoff Dyer, who describes the ghost bikes memorializing those who die in biking accidents; Jonathan Safran Foer, proposing a new way of punctuating dialogue in the face of a
family history of heart attacks and decimation by the Holocaust; Mark Doty, whose
reflections on the art - porn movie Bijou lead to a meditation on the intersection of sex and death epitomized by the AIDS epidemic; and Joyce Carol Oates, who writes
about the loss of her husband and faces her own mortality.