This isn't
a rejection of the other parent, although it can seem this way.
This process takes place when a parent or caregiver encourages the child
rejection of the other parent.
Parental estrangement is a child's healthy adaptive response to trauma, as opposed to parental alienation, which occurs when one parent provides erroneous information to the child resulting in unwarranted
rejection of the other parent.»
In more extreme situations, they foster the child's
rejection of the other parent.
These parents employ a range of strategies, known as parental alienation, in order to foster the child's
rejection of the other parent.
Yet favored parents» disavowal of responsibility for their children's
rejection of the other parent continues to find support among advocates who claim that the concept of unjustified parental alienation is harmful to children.
From a therapeutic perspective, the protective separation is needed in order to protect the child from being turned into a «psychological battleground» by the continuing psychological pressures applied to the child by the narcissistic / (borderline) parent designed to maintain the child's symptomatic
rejection of the other parent even while therapy is trying to restore the child's affectionally bonded relationship with the targeted parent.
Children are apt to be susceptible to alienation when they perceive that the alienating parent's emotional survival or the survival of their relationship with the alienating parent is dependent upon the child's
rejection of the other parent.
Talking badly about the other parent is NOT how the child's symptomatic
rejection of the other parent occurs.
PA is a family dynamic found — usually — in high conflict divorced / divorcing families in which one or both parents engage in behaviors that are likely to foster a child's unjustified
rejection of the other parent.
Parental alienation (PA) is the term used to describe a range of parental behaviors that are likely to foster a child's unreasonable and unwarranted
rejection of the other parent, referred to as the «targeted parent.»
The working definition that I use is that parental alienation is a set of strategies that a parent uses to try to effectuate a child's
rejection of the other parent who I refer to as the «targeted parent».
Not exact matches
I remember every moment
of telling my then - husband what happened,
of telling the preschool teachers the children weren't supposed to hang out next to each
other at pickup waiting for babysitters or
parents, every minute
of how much I cried at the
rejection.
When it comes to the impact
of a father's love versus that
of a mother, results from more than 500 studies suggest that while children and adults often experience more or less the same level
of acceptance or
rejection from each
parent, the influence
of one
parent's
rejection — oftentimes the father's — can be much greater than the
other's.
They will express most if not all
of the 8 behavioral manifestations: (1) campaign
of denigration
of the targeted
parent (2) weak, frivolous, or absurd reasons for the
rejection of the targeted
parent; (3) lack
of ambivalence towards both
parents in which one is viewed as all good and the
other as all bad; (4) lack
of remorse for the poor treatment
of the targeted
parent; (5) reflexive support for the favored
parent; (6) use
of borrowed scenarios; (7) the «independent thinker» phenomenon; and (8) spread
of animosity towards the friends and family
of the targeted
parent.
For example, at a 2010 meeting
of the Association
of Family Court Conciliators (AFCC), which is the largest membership organization dealing with families involved in family court, 98 %
of the attendees at a plenary session who completed a survey reported that they «much» or «very much» agreed that one
parent could turn a child against the
other parent even though that
other parent did nothing to warrant the child's
rejection.
Parental Alienation Dynamics: I am also available as a consultant for issues that are commonly referred to as parental alienation, a
parent - child relationship process that involves a child's intensive and excessive
rejection of one
parent, with an over-idealization
of the
other parent, typically as part
of a divorce process.
I am also available as a consultant for issues that are commonly referred to as parental alienation, a
parent - child relationship process that involves a child's intensive and excessive
rejection of one
parent, with an over-idealization
of the
other parent, typically as part
of a divorce process.
While the
rejection of one
parent may sometimes result from the deliberate machinations
of the
other, frequently the problem is multi-causal.
On the
other hand, the mother's perception
of rejection from the child might also influence her subsequent
parenting.
They will express most if not all
of the 8 behavioral manifestations: (1) campaign
of denigration
of the targeted
parent (2) weak, frivolous, or absurd reasons for the
rejection of the targeted
parent; (3) lack
of ambivalence towards both
parents in which one is viewed as all good and the
other as all bad; (4) lack
of remorse for the poor treatment
of the targeted
parent; (5) reflexive support for the favored
parent; (6) use
of borrowed scenarios; (7) the «independent thinker» phenomenon; and (8) spread
of animosity towards the friends and family
of the targeted
parent.
(See
rejection) Community study approach — Refers in the anthroponomical research design
of IPARTheory to long - term ethnographic research within a given community in order to place styles
of parenting and
other relevant behaviors within their full sociocultural context.
(See affection; the warmth dimension
of parenting) Warmth dimension
of parenting — A continuum
of parenting defined at one end by (perceived) parental acceptance and at the
other end by (perceived) parental
rejection.
Sometimes situations exist where a
parent poses a genuine risk to the minor children and thus contact between them is justifiably limited; parental alienation, on the
other hand, is a child's unreasonable or unjustified dislike or
rejection of one
parent.
Understand that your children love both
of you and they may fear that pleasing one
parent risks
rejection by the
other.
If, on the
other hand, the child can read the inner psychological and emotional needs
of the narcissistic / (borderline)
parent and respond in ways to meet those needs, then the child can stabilize the emotional and psychological functioning
of the narcissistic / (borderline)
parent and prevent this
parent's collapse into disorganization, hostility, and
rejection of the child.
A 2009 position statement prepared for the Australian Psychological Society notes that «Parental alienation is defined as a child's unreasonable
rejection of one
parent due to the influence
of the
other parent combined with the child's own contributions (Kelly & Johnston, 2001).
Johnston found that 28 to 43 percent
of the 9 - to 12 - year - olds were in what she termed «strong alignments,» characterized by consistent
rejection and denigration
of the
other parent (9).
Coparenting was assessed as partner conversation dominance (measured by the quantity
of talking
of one
parent relative to the
other parent) and supportive / undermining coparenting (measured as warmth and support versus
rejection of the partner).
Youngsters who experience
rejection by significant
others such as
parents are at risk to develop distorted mental representations
of themselves and their environment (Rohner 2004), which may explain why these youngsters are more likely to show delinquent behavior.
Or will it be going off with one divorced
parent or the
other and falling victim thereby to all the feelings
of rejection, guilt, loss which can do equally terrible things to a child if not more so?
He recently co-authored An objective measure
of splitting in parental alienation: The parental acceptance —
rejection questionnaire (Journal
of Forensic Science, 2017) which found that severely alienated children engaged in a high level
of splitting, by perceiving the preferred
parent in extremely positive terms and the rejected
parent in extremely negative terms, whereas splitting was not manifested by the children in
other family groups.
In response to the interpersonal
rejection inherent to the divorce (i.e., narcissistic injury and abandonment), the narcissistic / (borderline)
parent engages the child in a role - reversal relationship as a «regulatory
other» in order to regulate the intense anxiety experienced by the narcissistic / (borderline)
parent associated with the threatened collapse
of the narcissistic defense against the experience
of primal inadequacy and a tremendous fear
of abandonment.
At the child level, temperamental features evident in infancy and toddlerhood such as irritability, restlessness, irregular patterns
of behaviour, lack
of persistence and low adaptability increase the risk
of behaviour problems7, 8,9 as do certain genetic and neurobiological traits.10, 11 At the family level,
parenting practices including punitive discipline, inconsistency, low warmth and involvement, and physical aggression have been found to contribute to the development
of young children's aggressive behaviour.12 Children who are exposed to high levels
of discord within the home and whose
parents have mental health and / or substance abuse issues are also at heightened risk.13
Other important correlates
of aggression in children that can contribute to chronic aggression include faulty social - cognitive processes and peer
rejection.14
This intransigently held, fixed and false belief (i.e., a delusion) is created by the collapse
of the organized cognitive structures
of the narcissistic / borderline personality into delusional beliefs, as specifically described by Millon (2011), in response to the psychological stresses triggered by the «unrelieved adversity and failure» surrounding the divorce experience (i.e., the public
rejection and abandonment
of the narcissistic / (borderline)
parent by the attachment figure
of the
other spouse).
Other sources of resilience in children include social and cognitive skills that help them receive positive attention from adults other than their depressed parents and help reduce their depressed parent's feeling of noncompetence and rejec
Other sources
of resilience in children include social and cognitive skills that help them receive positive attention from adults
other than their depressed parents and help reduce their depressed parent's feeling of noncompetence and rejec
other than their depressed
parents and help reduce their depressed
parent's feeling
of noncompetence and
rejection.