This is generally a challenge due to our primitive defenses being activated when our primary attachment
relationship feels threatened.
When
the relationship feels threatened we respond with inborn behaviors designed to increase felt protection and safety.
At this point, the entire
relationship feels threatened and marked by resentment, caution, and distance (this is where the fight no longer is about the dishes or sex, but it is now about «you are never there for me» or «you don't appreciate me.»)
We know from brain research that when our most important
relationships feel threatened, we can not access the part of the brain, the prefrontal cortex, where rule - based communication might be learned.
Not exact matches
If the purpose between two married people is just to be in a good
relationship, it will
feel like a failure more often than not because disagreements will inevitably seep in and conflict will
threaten the connection.
... the survivor of any death immersion
feels his
relationship to the ultimate forces of death and rebirth to be seriously
threatened.
Men often
feel threatened by the intellectual and authority roles of these women and by their ability as pastors, and therefore are reluctant to initiate or share a close
relationship.
However, how the conflict is handled matters very much: Teens do better when they are allowed to express their opinions freely (respectfully, still validating and showing empathy for the other person's point of view), without being made to
feel that their
relationship with their parent is
threatened.
Melissa's new beau didn't
feel threatened by Paul because he could conceptualize the marriage being over and separate Melissa and Paul's co-parenting
relationship from his romantic
relationship with Melissa.
The inconvenient truth is we bring our unprocessed issues to every
relationship we're in — particularly when we
feel threatened by insecurity, anxiety, possessiveness, attachment issues, and jealousy.
The problem arises when not life -
threatening stressors, such as getting all worked up in a traffic jam,
feeling anxious about infertility, persistently worrying about a
relationship or a work deadline repeatedly activate the stress response.
Like not
feeling threatened by other close
relationships or attractive people in your partner's life.
In some cases, children may
feel threaten by a new
relationship so take the time to let them know that they are number one in your life.
Perhaps the stereotypical stigma on this
relationship is coming from older men who
feel threatened, even though they themselves are only seeking younger women, by touting that the younger males are only seeking older women for things like sex and financial security.
Everything goes according to plan until Megan develops
feelings for Annika's father, which
threatens to ruin her
relationships with Annika and Anthony.
At any moment the whole «Abscam,» within a scam, within a scam
feels like it's going to implode, but this script just won't let go, taking yet another screwy turn into murky, mafioso - infested waters, while micro
relationships brew among the four leads
threatening to boil over, and Louis C.K. propels a run - on fable about ice fishing into deeply fatuous waters.
Since social
relationships are a defining part of your territorial cat's life, any sign of an «intruder» may make kitty
feel threatened and anxious.
But the
relationship between the sleeping figure and the tentacle does not
feel inherently dangerous — if anything, the child seems to be the least
threatened by the lurching tendril.
Deborah Corbitt - Shindler of Southern Methodist University found that children who
felt threatened by their parents» interactions, particularly low levels of violence, are at increased risk of developing trauma from the bad marital
relationship.
It is never okay to
feel threatened or endangered in your
relationship, and yet it can be difficult in some cases to find a way out of such a
relationship.
When we enter into a
relationship with someone, we have a need to
feel bonded or connected, and if this bond is
threatened, we become anxious, unable to think clearly, and often lash out or demand proof that we can count on the other person.
They both committed to not to
threaten the end of the
relationship, which helped each
feel more secure and stable in their primary
relationship.
The authors suggest that being empathetic to a partner's negative emotions may
feel threatening to the
relationship for men but not for women.
It usually doesn't
threaten a good
relationship... where you each
feel loved, cared for and valued.
These clients may blame others, withdraw when
feeling threatened, react defensively in conflicts, or have a deep - seated sense of distrust — all interpersonal problems that damage
relationships and cause enormous suffering.
In the first phase, to understand the impact of dangerous and life -
threatening childhood environments on the autonomic nervous system, and in the second phase to learn specific techniques aimed at helping the patient to
feel safe in the therapy
relationship, and to prepare the patient for reprocessing.
While there are wide range of relational strategies that emerge in
relationships, there are two main types of strategies for gaining equilibrium when a person
feels threatened.
If your partner knew all the details of your
relationship with this friend, would he or she
feel threatened?
Such behavior makes one
feel unappreciated and even
threatened in the
relationship.
Disobedient student behavior, for instance, is more likely to be appraised as challenging and
threatening when the teacher has internalized negative
feelings about the
relationship with the student and holds unfavorable schema's of the
relationship with the student.
That is, secure individuals
feel trusting and safe to share their more vulnerable and tender sides with their partner during disagreements because they view conflict as less
threatening to the
relationship and perceive the
relationship to be a safe place for exploration.
Because they
feel safe in their
relationship with Mom and Dad, they are less likely to be
threatened by a new adult entering the picture.
And even if they aren't the kind to butt in, seeing their child marry may prompt fears that they are losing their parental hold and spark them to intercede in ways that you may
feel threaten your marital
relationship.
We expected that
feeling threatened or frightened would indicate negative experiences in
relationships.