Your focus needs to be on working on ways to
repair hurt feelings so you can restore love and harmony in your remarriage.
Your focus needs to be on working on ways to
repair hurt feelings and to get back on track.
Not exact matches
When your child
hurts her sister's
feelings, you help her find a way to make up, to
repair the rift she's created in the relationship.
When parents react in a way that creates tension, anger or
hurt feelings, they can
repair any damage to the parent - child relationship by taking time to reconnect and apologize later
This reasoning enables them to
feel empathy and appropriate guilt when they have
hurt others and to
repair relationships.
By the time many couples start therapy, they
feel discouraged, afraid of whether
repair is possible, and
hurt by the problems in the relationship.
It becomes a downward spiral that can result in harsh words,
hurt feelings, and a need to
repair the relationship.
Gottman says a successful
repair might be: «When you walked out of the room, that really
hurt my
feelings, because I
felt like what I was saying was unimportant to you.
A
repair technique is when one partner uses good tact to help the other partner emotionally recover from
feeling hurt during a conflict.
The more we experience in life, the more we bring our own past
hurts and experiences into each new conflict, increasing what is needed from
repair statements in order to
feel the same resolution and sense of validation.
(Most things I've read about rebuilding trust or relationship
repair want to put the burden and blame squarely on the person who was
hurt, in the name of «taking responsibility for your
feelings.»)
If you are being held with anything other than 100 % acceptance and empathy, first try and discuss how you
feel with the therapist, and if they won't
repair the
hurt with you this is not the therapist for you — get out immediately.
Re-establishing trust is a process of helping the
hurt partner
feel validated, chosen and cherished, and the betraying partner to
feel remorseful and work to
repair the broken trust.
To this end, I often state, «Though our initial goal is to help you get along better and
repair the
hurts that have resulted in a frayed relationship, given what you've each said about what it was like between the two of you when things were good, I'm hoping I can also help you
feel happy and lucky to be together.
Healthy relationships require that you regularly
repair misunderstandings and
hurt feelings.
By
repairing their
hurt emotions, couples are empowered to
feel secure enough to transform their relationship.