Presumably coincidentally, here in the U.S., Solangel Maldonado at Concurring Opinions considers whether current divorce laws unduly steer couples toward ending marriages rather than working through difficulties: «Given society's interest in marriage and all of the negative consequences of divorce, should law incentivize couples to
repair the marriage after infidelity?
It's also fair to say that not many counselors have my experience or method of approach for helping couples
repair their marriages after an affair.
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I've sat across from enough couples trying to
repair their marriages after an affair to know that they don't just happen.
Not exact matches
If you are going to tell your spouse you want a divorce, say so politely and directly (and only
after attempting to
repair the
marriage with counseling and other techniques).
Leathers said Weiner started corresponding with her last July, more than a year
after he stepped down from Congress and within weeks of a glowing People magazine cover story about his
repaired marriage to Hillary Rodham Clinton aide Huma Abedin.
Leathers said Weiner started corresponding with her last July, more than a year
after he stepped down from Congress and within weeks of a glowing People magazine cover story about his
repaired marriage to Abedin, an aide to former Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton.
Some people still hold hope that
repair of the
marriage is possible, even
after the divorce is legally finalized.
I specialize in women's issues (pregnancy, perinatal mood disorders, motherhood, and sexuality issues) and couples work (premarital counseling, new parents, low / no sex,
repair after an affair, and second
marriages).
In Worthy of Her Trust, Jason Martinkus relates how he
repaired his own
marriage after revelations of sexual addiction.
While the circumstances will be different in each case, every couple who is committed to saving their
marriage after an affair has to go through the same stages to
repair the shattered relationship.
It can be difficult to offer your partner love and attention during or
after emotional tension, but Dr. Gottman says that successful
repair attempts — that is, words or behavior that prevents negativity from escalating out of control — is one of the most vital aspects of a healthy
marriage.
If you want to
repair your
marriage, you should take stock of the benefits to your relationship
after a few months of counseling.
Repairing and rebuilding a
marriage after a major break in trust, like an affair, is not easy.
If
after one, or up to five sessions, a decision has been reached to do the work of reconciliation, then you as a couple would move into regular couples therapy with divorce off the table for up to six months, exploring tools and skills designed to
repair damage and to strengthen your
marriage.
If you are looking for a
marriage counselor or relationship therapist, you probably fall into one of three categories: (1) you're trying to figure out whether to stay together, (2) you're committed to each other but know that there is
repair work that needs to be done (as is the case
after infidelity or other breaches of trust), or (3) you're largely happy in your relationship and wanting to use therapy as an opportunity to grow together.
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I have no idea what this will look like in relationships because all couples need to make
repair attempts at some point... because
marriage, right?!? I imagine a
repair attempt
after an argument would look something like this, «Thank you for loving me even when I lose my temper and escalate things more than I should have.