Mr. Thompson was not used to working with students under the age of 12, so it was a culture shock when
he saw children crying or falling out of their chairs.
Did
he see a child crying at the park?
Shots hurt little kids, and it hurts you to
see your child crying and in pain.
Whether both parents work and feel guilty for spending too much time at the office, or they just can't stand to
see their children cry (or are too tired to deal with it), permissive parenting has created an entitled set of kids.
(
Seeing the children crying and asking what is happening is half the fun!)
Not exact matches
The media hounded Tim Farron for his Christian views; they did not regard it as acceptable for him to hold views other than those of the political elite, or the majority, Similarly, our belief in the personhood of the unborn
child and the sanctity of their lives enables us to
see abortion as a sin
crying to heaven for justice, not merely some privately held opinion; for us it is most definitely not «a woman's choice».
If I
saw my beloved
children entangled, oh, God, I would cut away every thicket to reach them with my bare hands,
crying out that I was coming for them with every breath.
If I
saw my
children entangled, oh, God, I would cut away every thicket to reach them with my bare hands,
crying out that I was coming for them with every breath.
Sure, one may act selfishly and take a toy from another, but when the
child stolen from starts to
cry, you will
see other toddlers give him their toys, and many times the thief will return it.
My oldest daughter now 27 said she knew church was not for her because we spoke of god as wonderful, a god of love, joy and piece but as a
child all she
saw was sad people every Sunday,
crying, and confessing Sunday after Sunday.
We can
see Kimi Raikkonen's face right now, a portrait of joy and delight as he hides behind a microphone for 45 minutes as
children cry at him for photo opportunities.
But I worry that if I leave my
children to
cry it out, then they will not
see the point in reaching out to us if they have problems later in life and could try to deal with serious issues like bullying, drug addictions, teenage pregnancy, gambling problems, or flunking out of school on their own or turn to peers.
However, I choose to
see my
child as a person whose needs matter, and who, if she is
crying (really just communicating) requires my help to meet her needs - irrespective of the time of day or night.
I have no problem with saying «I don't feel comfortable with CIO because it doesn't feel right to me», «it breaks my heart to
see my baby
crying», «it didn't work for us so we tried something else» but to imply that other people who do choose to use a method that is and has been endorsed by major medical groups are harming their
children is kinda a jerk thing to do.
I've
seen you object in comments to parents who say they only needed a few nights or even 15 minutes of CIO to get to a
child who
cries less and sleeps much better.
But even if that wasn't the case, I would rather have my
child crying for a few minutes, where she can
see me and be comforted by me, while I make my lunch than to leave her screaming and
crying in a room by herself at night.
As I
see it, the controlled
crying solutions are really just «the next step» when all else has failed and your
child still adamantly refuses to sleep.
Instead of standing up to the
children, but
seeing as this isn't about discipline, let me move on / I have 7 month old
child, and I let her
cry sometimes, mainly because she likes being held ALL the time.
I find it hard to
see children really
crying in class, or being that affect by, kids believe they are resilient, and I don't care how many times you tell them it is bad for them, most will continue on doing what they love to do, especially eating hot Cheetos during class.
The other concern most parents will face when
crying it out touches on any emotional distress the older
child (or
children) may or may not experience when
seeing and / or hearing their younger sibling
crying.
Parents also enjoy watching their
children during these play experiences and do not want to
see their kids frustrated or
crying when playing, because they can not get clothing on correctly.
To
see my screaming,
crying toddler be instantly soothed is something that still amazes me to this day, even after breastfeeding three different
children.
I was searching through old videos last week and came across one of the Christmas where my two oldest
children received their first bikes from Santa, Sydney immediately sat on hers, hurt her bottom and started to
cry, but the look on her face when she
saw the bike is just the most magical thing.
With younger
children you may
see a lot of
crying, tantrums, and clinging; with older
children, especially ones who have phones, it's not uncommon to get multiple texts or requests to come home.
You can
see that 99.9 % of the time your
child stops
crying the second you leave.
Big boys can ride bikes... but don't ever push the idea that «big
children don't fight» (or
cry, or throw tantrums) or any other issues which he might
see as negative.
... where a mother is at liberty to look after her
child as she
sees fit, the baby
cries very little and when he does it pains her and she feels compassion («Poor little thing, what's the matter?»).
I wonder if he comforts
children and adults when he
sees them
crying or distressed?
If you
see any blood in your little one's urine or your
child is
crying and showing signs of painful urination, contact your baby's doctor right away.
Other times, though, this can be harder to
see, like when a healthy
child complains of stomach problems every time her new baby brother
cries.
For thoes that say it's selfish and wrong to just let your baby
cry... I can
see how you'd think that, but as a parent from day one I'm to train and
child for a successful life and give them the tools they need.
Lingering will only make it more difficult for your
child to
see you go, and she will
cry harder the next time because she will
see that it's an effective way to get you to stay.
Your older
child may revert to behaviors you haven't
seen in some time such as
crying or whining, thumb - sucking, or using a pacifier.
I often hear in parenting classes «My
child had a temper tantrum for no reason» or «Every time I get on the phone my kid is pulling on me» «My kid won't put her shoes on when we have to go» Often as parents we can
see the BEHAVIOUR (tantrums,
crying, screaming, pinching...) and then we discipline (time out, take away toys, lecture) Often parents don't
see the WHY.
It's OK for
children to
see adults sad or
crying, but consider excusing yourself if you are experiencing intense emotions.
The Ferber method is
seen as controversial by those who dislike the idea of leaving their
child to
cry until they fall asleep.
«This allows a parent to
see how much a
child is actually
crying and when it is most likely to occur.»
If you return because you
see or hear your
child crying, you'll just make it harder in the long run.
But over and over again, in thousands of situations, we have
seen that
children whose feelings are listened to become more confident, feel closer to their parents, and feel closer to the people who listened while they
cried.
Because separation is sometimes as hard or harder on the parent than the
child, the best thing you can do is to remain positive, not let your son
see that you are upset leaving him and do not prolong goodbyes when he is
crying.
When a woman is told by lets say their dad or uncle» if you let them
cry it out they will be better as they grow up» This is just my opinion, Women have the «nurturing instinct» meaning when they are told they should put their baby down and them CIO and they do so their instinct is telling them to go pick the baby up but another influence tells them other wise, now MEN to me have the instinct to teach their youngins to «
cry me river its not so bad youll live» id prefer not letting my
child CIO, I just wanted to
see how long out of curiosity that she would CIO (my dad suggested i try) and she went on for an hour before i said forget this i cant concentrate i have to pick her up cuz it ai nt doin nothing... so i havnt done it since.
And for those who need a third option (other than
cry - it - out or co-sleeping) there are more gradual and gentle ways to encourage independent sleep in older babies and young
children (also
see here).
It broke my heart to
see friends» kids stall and
cry at bedtime, because I knew that these
children had been forced to CIO at 2 - 4 months old and the night had never meant anything but darkness and loneliness.
«But when you
see a sevenfold increase in PPI prescriptions, you worry that the condition is being overdiagnosed, or if reflux is sort of a garbage - can diagnosis used anytime a
child is
crying and there's no obvious cause,» said Ayoob.
We all know how tough it is to
see your kid
crying and clawing for you, but by communicating your departure and return clearly, you're giving your
child the conceptual tools to manage and understand the situation, he explains — you're giving him the semblance of some control, and that's precisely what he needs.
If we were to
see an older
child or adult
crying we would never think, «I might just leave them and let them
cry it out so they can learn to settle themselves»... no way!!
Both of my
children were breastfed, the first one, miserably, hidden away in public toilets or upstairs rooms («we set this one aside for you»), or on the sofa at home, following a long trudge back from town («no, I can't feed you now, I know you're hungry, I hear your
cries, but someone might
see»).
When people
see a
crying child they assume the
child is being «bad when really young
children are just having trouble communicating and processing.
Many of the consequences of excessive
crying described in my original post would only be
seen later in the
child's life, in school years or beyond.
Rather than
seeing «bad» behavior as something that needs to be «punished» out of our
children, it may be helpful to
see it as a
cry for help.