For whatever reason, society tends to
see cohabiting couples as «less than.»
Not exact matches
Cohabiting couples just don't get treated the same, nor do they
see themselves as the same as married
couples.
And because
cohabiting unions are much less stable than marriages, the vast majority of the children born to
cohabiting couples will
see their parents break up by the time they turn 15.
If the family claims to be informally separated, the school will want to
see documentation that the
couple did not
cohabit (i.e., maintained separate residences), as no states permit a
couple with an informal separation to continue living in the same house.
See our article on the differences in legal protection for
cohabiting couples.
Recent reform in Scotland has
seen the introduction of a framework within which to resolve financial disputes between
cohabiting couples and this, in turn, has afforded cohabitants in Scotland a degree of financial security which they have not previously enjoyed and which are not shared by their contemporaries south of the border.
In recent years, we've also
seen a marked increase in
cohabiting couples and family businesses seeking advice.
Common Law Marriage (Ontario) As I just blogged about (
see previous blog post), there is a big misconception that
cohabiting couples either have the same rights and obligations as married spouses (which they don't) or don't have any rights at all (which they do / can have) when it comes to things like support, ownership -LSB-...]
If you look at the longitudinal data, you do
see a slight rise in reports of physical aggression (but still, generally, very low levels), but levels do not increase over time after
couples start
cohabiting.
Couples who
cohabit prior to marriage because they want to «try things out» often adopt this approach because they already
see some potential problems with long - term compatibility.4 It should come as no surprise then that these types of relationships are less than stable if they transition into a marital relationship (in fact, it's very likely that this «group» of cohabiters contributes a large degree to the finding that premarital cohabitation is bad for marriage).
Researchers have investigated the role of «placemaking» in relationships, seeking to understand how objects in a home reflect and represent the
couple that resides in that space.1 In a study published in the journal Personal Relationships, researchers asked partners who were married, or
couples that were not married but
cohabiting, to list objects in their homes and note whether each item was acquired by a particular partner individually («that's my ’59 Fender Stratocaster and your first edition of Darwin's Origin of Species»), or whether the
couple had acquired it together («our collection of vintage pornography»;
see this post for more on language use and relationships).
But,
couples who
cohabit prior to marriage for practical reasons and plan to someday marry all along fare better (and in some respects may fare better than those that didn't
cohabit), especially because these
couples have had practice confronting and working through life and relationship stressors.5 For example, they've most likely experienced conflict and had an opportunity to
see how they treat each other in such situations.6
While countries around the world adopted the practice with gusto decades ago, U.S.
couples who
cohabited were
seen as «living in sin.»
Of the all partnered sample (n = 2,487), both partners in 955 married or
cohabiting couples were interviewed when possible (n = 1,910)(
see Jaszczak et al., 2014).