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"sexless marriage" refers to a situation where a married couple has little or no sexual intimacy or activity.
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All I have to do is read the many comments by spouses
in sexless marriages on my blog and on The New I Do blog to see how damaging a sexless partnership can be and how some infidelity occurs because a sex - deprived spouse sees no other way to have his or her sexual needs met other than divorce, which many people with young children don't want to do.
In order to know for sure which of the problem categories are relevant to your situation, and therefore what kind
of sexless marriage help you're going to need, you're probably going to have to talk openly about it with your spouse.
The first step in getting
sexless marriage help is to understand the factors contributing to the problem.
I am saddened by the continuing comments to a post
on sexless marriages on The New I Do blog that's more than a year old.
But just reading comments by frustrated women in
sexless marriages who've written to me is enough to bust that myth.
And it's estimated that about 15 percent of married couples have not had sex with their spouse in the last six months to one year, according to Denise A. Donnelly, associate professor of sociology at Georgia State University, who has
studied sexless marriage.
Given the distressing comments by people who are in
frustratingly sexless marriages, many marriages may indeed be less about love than sacrifice — sacrifice of one's sexual needs.
In my studies, as well as others, people in
sexless marriages report that they are more likely to have considered divorce, and that they are less happy in their marriages.
Deep down I know I won't put up with a loveless,
sexless marriage if I knew it would remain permanently that way, but I hold on to the thinnest sliver of hope for change.
I have lived in an loveless,
sexless marriage for 33 years because my husband took medications that diminished his libido and emotions.
Of all the blogs I've written here, the comments
on Sexless marriage: Cheat, divorce or suffer make me sad.
Given the distressing comments by people who are in
frustratingly sexless marriages, many marriages may indeed be less about love than sacrifice — sacrifice of one's sexual needs.
If talking about sex with your partner sounds overwhelming, or if the two of you try talking and it does not go well, even before
getting sexless marriage help, you will need to get learn skills for how to communicate with your spouse.
Its not going to get better and
a sexless marriage will probably kill you faster than cigarettes, booze or bacon!!