Incidentally, in its discussion of the
shelter survey the Critique neglects to mention that in addition to the 3 % who reported batterers getting custody despite abuse, another 2 % of
shelter residents reported
abusers getting custody despite
child sexual abuse, 34 % reported the batterer threatens kidnapping, 11 % reported that the batterer kidnapped the
child; 21 % reported that the kidnapping threats forced them to return to the
abuser, 25 % reported verbal threats during visitation, and 10 % reported physical violence during visitation.
Studies of domestic violence victims in
shelters have shown that the women most likely to return to their
abuser have
children and are financially dependent on their partners (read more about this research here).1 But less is known about individuals in dating or cohabitating relationships who have financial independence, a fairly good education, but a lousy style of relating with their partners that could be construed as downright aggressive.