According to the «experts» (and the spanking parents who discuss these things online), you should not spank babies younger than about 15 - 18 months, and you should not
spank children past the age of 7 years.
Not exact matches
The very same parents who say they will never
spank their
children may have done so in the
past but quickly learned that sort of discipline doesn't work for their family, or maybe they didn't like the feeling they got once they
spanked their
child.
According to
Child Trends Data Bank, 77 percent of men and 65 percent of women in 2012 said
children sometimes need a «good, hard
spanking,» a proportion that's been decreasing steadily over the
past 20 years over a growing body of research showing that
spanking and other physical punishment may be harmful in the long - term and doesn't actually work that well.
Now that I am
past the age of young
children in my home, I see more clearly that
spanking or not
spanking is not the issue.
A new University of Michigan study found that 30 percent of 1 - year - old
children were
spanked at least once in the
past month by their mother, father or both parents.
In a pair of analyses based on NSCAW, Cecilia Casaneueva and colleagues showed that about one - third of parents with low parenting skills had experienced domestic violence.24 Such violence was also associated with harsher parenting:
children over the age of eighteen months were more likely to be
spanked if their parents were facing domestic violence.25 But parents who had once experienced domestic violence, but had been able to put it behind them, did not show elevated rates of impaired or violent parenting.26 The parenting of women currently suffering interpersonal partner violence is significantly worse than that of women who have faced it in the
past, suggesting that the context of the violence is creating the problems in parenting and
child conduct problems and that its cessation may be a more important contributor to
child outcomes than parent instruction.
According to Dr. Gottman,
past research studies have shown that «
spanking teaches, by example, that aggression is an appropriate way to get what you want... [and that it] can have a long term impact as well,» and that
spanked children, «as teenagers... are more likely to hit their parents... as adults more likely to be violent and tolerate violence in their relationships,» and that «interestingly, studies of parents who have been trained in other methods of
child discipline show that once they find effective alternatives, they drop the
spanking.»
Although the exact measures differed, the absolute difference in the proportions of parents who reported ever slapping in the face or
spanking with an object (overall: 4 %; randomization: 2 %; quasi-experimental: 6 %) was consistent with the 7 % difference in the proportions of parents who reported
spanking their
child in the
past week in the Early Head Start evaluation.31 The HS effect is noticeable, given the overall lower reports of corporal punishment (14 % in the HS control group, compared with 54 % in the Early Head Start control group).
Though this subject has been difficult to assess in the
past due to ethical concerns, researchers are finding new ways to prove that
spanking a
child is never the correct parenting method.
«About how many times, if any, have you had to
spank your
child in the
past week?»