So, for example, if you tell me that
you spanked your child because you were frustrated and at your wit's end and didn't know what else to do, I may think that you made the wrong choice in that moment.
Yeah some parents
spank their children because of those reasons but not every parent that does it.
In the previous month, have
you spanked your child because he / she was misbehaving or acting up?»
Not exact matches
The
child may well not do X
because he / she fears the
spanking but eventually, as the
child grows up, he / she should learn that there are other better reasons for not doing X (assuming that doing X is indeed bad).
Not only b / c it glorifies
spanking, but
because of the judgment in blatantly makes about parents who DO N'T
spank their
children.
That doesn't mean I believe in
spanking for my
children,
because I do not.
Humiliations,
spankings and beatings, slaps in the face, betrayal, sexual exploitation, derision, neglect, etc. are all forms of mistreatment,
because they injure the integrity and dignity of a
child, even if their consequences are not visible right away.
I just wanted to point out that many parents
spank, not
because they can not control their temper, but
because they have thoughtfully decided that it is an effective way to discipline their
children.
I think that
children who are
spanked are more likely to grow up into adults that
spank because of the argument, «I got
spanked and I turned out OK.»
Other mothers simply feel that
spanking isn't effective: «I don't plan on using
spanking — I think it teaches
children to «behave» out of fear, not
because they've learned right from wrong.»
While it may be that corporal punishment leads to decreased aggression, it is also technically possible that decreased aggression in
children leads parents to
spank (perhaps parents
spank because the
children are not aggressive enough?)
I think the danger in
spanking is more for the parent than the
child,
because it is more tempting to use as a tool when you're angry.
It's hard to know exactly what percentage of parents or caregivers (like grandparents) actually
spank a
child,
because many who do don't admit to it.
If you have your baby cry it out or if you
spank your
child, you may feel that is «loving» them
because you feel you're teaching a life lesson, but crying it out and
spanking is not perceived as loving actions by your
child.
Many parents
spank because they are exasperated with their
child's behavior and want it to stop but don't know what else to do.
I guess I've never seen this as a real issue
because, when
spanking is done right, it's not even comparable to a
child hitting someone.
When you
spank you sent the message that you do it
because you can and that teaches your
child he / she can do the same when in positioned of power.
As to the I Don't Like
Spanking My Kids, But I Do It Anyway author's contention that «We are raising a generation of
children who are over-sensitive
because they eventually find out that they aren't as good at baseball or ballet as some other kid and their parents promised them that everyone is equal.
Some parents resort to
spanking because their kids are particularly aggressive or defiant, which means the causation is bidirectional:
Child aggression can trigger
spanking, and
spanking can make kids more aggressive (Barnes et al 2013).
Verses to Parent By: Part 2 — «When I was yelling at my kids, constantly criticizing, withholding love
because of my disapproval of their actions or
spanking my
children, those actions were not showing them my love.
Previous research has focused on disciplining
children as young as age 3, in part,
because spanking is common among
children of this age.
Sorry, maybe we shouldn't have mentioned «
spanking»
because there's nothing but fun at the new Discovery Zone for
children, which opens June 7.
While it may be that corporal punishment leads to decreased aggression, it is also technically possible that decreased aggression in
children leads parents to
spank (perhaps parents
spank because the
children are not aggressive enough?)
It was baby boomers who popularized parenting styles like no
spanking, or befriending their
children, or rewarding them with trophies or ribbons as kids simply
because they participated in games and contests.