There are people that still believe that
spanking your child works.
Not exact matches
Ultimately I believe every parent needs to decide what
works best for their
children and their family, but to imply — as the «Likey» did on Facebook — that if you
spank your
child he / she is not going to go to jail, that just seems ridiculous.
But as their babysitter, I need to feel comfortable enough to talk to you about your
child without feeling as though you are going to flip out (why I never
work for parents who
spank, ever.)
It's so important to find like - minded parents who can offer their «been there, done that» stories, emotional scaffolding, and specific suggestions for when you feel confused as to what to do about your
child's behavior, or when you question whether this new thing you're trying, like positive discipline instead of
spanking, for example, is going to
work out in the long term, or how exactly to keep those family attachment bonds strong as your
children grow, or how to move forward when your family encounters challenging life circumstances.
The very same parents who say they will never
spank their
children may have done so in the past but quickly learned that sort of discipline doesn't
work for their family, or maybe they didn't like the feeling they got once they
spanked their
child.
While
spanking supporters say the method
works well, the reality is that all it teaches the
child is to behave and «be good» — not necessarily to understand why they should conduct themselves in a certain way.
Call it corporal punishment or
spanking, attempting to discipline
children this way is cruel, and it doesn't
work.
Honestly, I used to
work with kids and the ones I knew were
spanked at home seemed to be the most trouble at school and had the hardest time restraining themselves from hitting other
children.
According to
Child Trends Data Bank, 77 percent of men and 65 percent of women in 2012 said
children sometimes need a «good, hard
spanking,» a proportion that's been decreasing steadily over the past 20 years over a growing body of research showing that
spanking and other physical punishment may be harmful in the long - term and doesn't actually
work that well.
Experts agree that
spanking or any other type of corporal punishment to discipline a
child doesn't
work.
I believe alternatives to
spanking and hitting do
work for every
child, but parents need to find and apply the right one.
Unlike previous research that only factored
spanking and neighborhood conditions separately as precursors of
child maltreatment, the current study examined these factors simultaneously, said study lead author Julie Ma, assistant professor of social
work at UM - Flint.
OkCupid
works by having users state basic preferences and answering questions like «Is it wrong to
spank a
child who's been bad?»
Unfortunately, the Authoritarian Parenting Style has some great lessons for kids to learn — like respecting authority, complying with the directions given to them by safe adults, and having a strong
work ethic — but since the only lesson is «do as I say or get
spanked» the
child isn't learning how or why to respect authority, comply with adult directions, or to develop a strong
work ethic.