Parents are urged to develop an atmosphere of mutual respect; to communicate on levels of fun and recreation as well as on discipline and advice; to allow a child to learn «through natural consequences» — that is, by experiencing what happens when he dawdles
in the morning and is permitted to experience the unpleasantness and embarrassment of being late to school; to encourage the child and
spend time with him playing and learning (positively) rather than
spending time lecturing and disciplining (negatively), since the child who is misbehaving is often merely craving attention and if he gets it
in pleasant,
constructive ways, he will not demand it
in antisocial
ways; to avoid trying to put the child
in a mold of what the parent thinks he should do and be, or what other people think he should do and be, rather than what his natural gifts and tendencies indicate; to take time to train the child
in basic skills — to bake a cake, pound a nail, sketch or write or play a melody — including those things the parents know and do well and are interested
in.
Don't
spend a ton of time feeling guilty about being privileged; instead, put that time and energy toward
constructive action to support those who aren't privileged
in the same
way.
So go into Debt - Free Wannabe and post your «Statement of Affairs» detailing everything you
spend money on and how much (without giving away any personal details), and then be prepared to have your habits torn apart; but all
in a
constructive way to cut your outgoings.