We all know that life is not fair, especially when it comes to
spiritual abuse by those with «power», even if that power is abusive.
But the point is that IN THAT CONTEXT Calvinist theology was a much - needed pastoral and communal approach that helped people to break from the shackles of long - established systems of
spiritual abuse by offering a different story to live by and a different kind of community to live in.
As my Pastor at the time...
spiritual abuse by your hand, and an clear abuse of power, absolutely!
To me and to every victim of
spiritual abuse by Pastors in a position of power and influence.
I myself am a survivor of multiple incidents of
spiritual abuse by leaders in a range of evangelical, moderate, conservative, and fundamentalist churches and parachurch settings over the past 40 years.
This is NOT about the details of my divorce but about
spiritual abuse by a few and the Pathology that led to the Thugology in the resulting context of really bad Theology.
Not exact matches
The institutional church is so often like Satan... longing to be worshipped and obeyed; teaching that obedience to one scripture is more important than balancing them all; luring us to
abuse our power to make a difficult path chosen
by God into a simple solution of no new
spiritual growth (Matt 4).
They were also filled with a high degree of
spiritual abuse simply
by virtue of having to accept Calvinism or you can not be a member.
I really appreciate you validating my true and accurate and verifiable account of my experience with
spiritual abuse caused
by the Emergent leaders and their followers.
ttm, Belittling the question or the questioner and trying to shut them up is a form of
spiritual abuse when it's done in a religious context or for supposedly religious reasons
by someone in a position of authority.
When you add the «
spiritual» layer to
abuse through the silencing and censoring done
by others — who are supposed to be your Christian brothers and sisters — it is overwhelmingly detrimental to any healing.
I experienced first hand
spiritual abuse cleverly orchestrated
by a diagnosed narcissist.
I am neither, but I did marry a mentally ill person who has
abused his position as a chaplain and as a Pastor just as Danielle Shroyer, Brad Cecil, Doug Pagitt, Brian McLaren, Mike King and Mark Scandrette did
by aiding in this
spiritual abuse and diabolical behavior.
I'm in a season of rethinking church & I'd appreciate links to the blog posts & books you would recommend that best unpack & support the idea that the western, institutional church wineskin is,
by nature, prone to
spiritual abuse.
We're in a conversation about
spiritual abuse — the process
by which people who have
spiritual authority (pastors, preachers, priests, etc.) take advantage of that authority to do harm to those entrusted to their care.
Because you «take accusations of
spiritual abuse seriously», in your review of prior emails, did you not reconsider the attempt
by the discernment team to have Julie committed to a mental institution to be potentially abusive?
The culture of consumerism and the chase for material symbols of wealth and security have sometimes come to be dominant; the pursuit of
spiritual fulfillment in many has slowly begun to degenerate into empty and sterile ritualism; the legitimate thirst for education has often become perverted into an obsessive drive to acquire with the greatest speed the formal diplomas necessary to gain entry to jobs offering the easiest opportunities to make the quickest rupees; political statesmanship in some areas has begun to depreciate into an opportunities race for power and position; the spirit of SEVA (Service) to the nation has intermittently begun to be suffocated in many,
by the
abuse of discretions, sometimes mediated
by a bloated bureaucracy itself enmeshed in a vast network of multiplying paper and self - proliferating regulations; menacingly many good and decent people even in public life, have come to be corroded
by a culture of demanding corruption; and some potentially creative lawyers, have begun to take perverted pride in mere «cleverness», rendering themselves vulnerable to the prejudice that they are a parasitic obstruction in the pursuit of substantive justice.
If one is a pastor or celebrity Christian not only is
spiritual abuse and other
abuses overlooked but overlooking
abuse by your celeb cronies is casually accepted and asking questions is seen as breaching their «boundaries».
And how can the predatory
abuse of human power in prisons against the most vulnerable in their midst be turned so as to allow willed
spiritual vulnerability to be empowered
by grace?
Four young men have filed civil lawsuits accusing him of
abusing his
spiritual authority to coerce them into sexual relationships, allegations he has denied in a statement issued
by his attorney.
The Subtle Power of
Spiritual Abuse: Recognizing and Escaping
Spiritual Manipulation and False
Spiritual Authority Within the Church
by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen
«10 Ways to Spot
Spiritual Abuse» and «What to Do if You Are in a
Spiritual Abusive Situation»
by Mary DeMuth
Since today's focus is on
spiritual abuse, which many are less familiar with than, say, sexual
abuse, I encourage you to check out this week's synchroblog on the topic, hosted
by Hannah, Joy, Shaney, and Elora.
That could also be perceived as «cruel»
by victims of
spiritual abuse.
And yet he was increasingly aware of what he considered
abuse of that freedom
by preachers who ignored all tradition and relied on a purely personal
spiritual understanding of the New Testament.
I think then, suddenly, we can help people realize opinions versus
spiritual prejudice that leads to
spiritual abuse... and what is just stating an opinion versus invoking guilt or revenge
by God.
I would like to recommend the following book: The Subtle Power of
Spiritual Abuse: Recognizing and Escaping
Spiritual Manipulation and False
Spiritual Authority Within the Church
by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen
But the damage done
by the
spiritual abuse can not be described.
A new report, released over the weekend, commissioned
by the Churches Child Protection Advisory Service warned
spiritual abuse was on the increase with a greater need for understanding on the issue.
I have seen people destroyed
by spiritual abuse.
Produced
by the EA Theology Advisory Group (TAG), the report outlined how «
spiritual abuse» is a seriously problematic term because attempts
by some to use it for safeguarding laws «would be unworkable in practice, potentially discriminatory towards religious communities, and damaging to inter-faith relations».
[For more on this, check out The Subtle Power of
Spiritual Abuse: Recognizing and Escaping
Spiritual Manipulation and False
Spiritual Authority Within the Church
by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen, and Is It My Fault?
Christianity has been far
abused by the conservative religious nuts that the likes of Franklin, Glen Beck, Hanity, Palin, Al Sharpton, Jesse J, have been ordained knights to fight, not a
spiritual warfare but a religious political ideologies that have no scriptural basis.
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by or coercive behavior of the parents in an effort to involve the child in the parents» dispute; (8) any effort
by one parent to disparage the other parent in front of the child; (9) the ability of each parent to be actively involved in the life of the child; (10) the child's adjustment to his or her home, school, and community environments; (11) the stability of the child's existing and proposed residences; (12) the mental and physical health of all individuals involved, except that a disability of a proposed custodial parent or other party, in and of itself, must not be determinative of custody unless the proposed custodial arrangement is not in the best interest of the child; (13) the child's cultural and
spiritual background; (14) whether the child or a sibling of the child has been
abused or neglected; (15) whether one parent has perpetrated domestic violence or child
abuse or the effect on the child of the actions of an abuser if any domestic violence has occurred between the parents or between a parent and another individual or between the parent and the child; (16) whether one parent has relocated more than one hundred miles from the child's primary residence in the past year, unless the parent relocated for safety reasons; and (17) other factors as the court considers necessary.
It is also believed that
spiritual counseling can help people overcome emotional problems such as those caused
by bad relationships or
abuse.
«You can enter psychotherapy for a variety of reasons, all of which I can help you through - reduce emotional distress in order to regain a sense of fulfillment in life and / or restore the ability to function in daily activities, improve relationship difficulties caused
by issues such as ineffective communication, gain control of unhealthy behaviors such as substance
abuse or disordered eating, facilitate healing or promote well - being
by nurturing the psychological, emotional,
spiritual aspects of oneself, engage in a process of exploration to increase a sense of well - being and satisfaction with ones self, work, school and / or relationships.»
Beit Gorski is a licensed somatic psychotherapist with more than a decade of experience working with individuals, families, children, groups, and communities impacted
by anxiety and depression, attachment challenges, and trauma including
spiritual abuse, intimate partner violence / domestic violence, and systemic oppression.
(1) the temperament and developmental needs of the child; (2) the capacity and the disposition of the parents to understand and meet the needs of the child; (3) the preferences of each child; (4) the wishes of the parents as to custody; (5) the past and current interaction and relationship of the child with each parent, the child's siblings, and any other person, including a grandparent, who may significantly affect the best interest of the child; (6) the actions of each parent to encourage the continuing parent child relationship between the child and the other parent, as is appropriate, including compliance with court orders; (7) the manipulation
by or coercive behavior of the parents in an effort to involve the child in the parents» dispute; (8) any effort
by one parent to disparage the other parent in front of the child; (9) the ability of each parent to be actively involved in the life of the child; (10) the child's adjustment to his or her home, school, and community environments; (11) the stability of the child's existing and proposed residences; (12) the mental and physical health of all individuals involved, except that a disability of a proposed custodial parent or other party, in and of itself, must not be determinative of custody unless the proposed custodial arrangement is not in the best interest of the child; (13) the child's cultural and
spiritual background; (14) whether the child or a sibling of the child has been
abused or neglected; (15) whether one parent has perpetrated domestic violence or child
abuse or the effect on the child of the actions of an abuser if any domestic violence has occurred between the parents or between a parent and another individual or between the parent and the child; (16) whether one parent has relocated more than one hundred miles from the child's primary residence in the past year, unless the parent relocated for safety reasons; and (17) other factors as the court considers necessary